My last serious relationship ended when my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me and since then it seems every guy I date, I get attached to, fast! I know it's normal when you first meet someone to want to spend alot of time with them (the whole honeymoon period) but I find that I'm being a bit too extreme with it.
I've been seeing someone for about a month now and if a day goes by where he doesn't contact me as often as I want, I get insecure. Suddenly I start thinking he's not interested anymore, doesn't want to see me. We do talk daily in one form or another but I find I get a certain level of anxiety if he isn't acting enthusiastic about me and sometimes that will even put me in a bad mood.
I'll schedule things like work (camming) around his schedule (he doesn't ask me to do this or even knows that I do) because I want time to spend with him and I almost expect the same from him. Yesterday, after he got off work, he went for a walk to take some night time pictures. On one hand I was happy for him to do something fun but on the other, my nose was a bit out of joint because that time could have been spent talking with me.
BTW, he lives a bit out of my town so we don't see each other alot and the other forms of communication are text, FB and skype.
I don't start dating someone and envisioning our wedding or moving in together or think of him as "the one" but I'm finding that if I don't have constant reassurance that he likes me, I start to feel really uneasy.
I wasn't like this before the ex cheated on me so I'm sure the behavior is related to that but I don't know how to stop it. The guy isn't aware that I feel this way (luckily I hide it well) but I don't like the feeling and it would be nice for it to go away. I hate feeling like some insecure, clingy person.



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