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    My boyfriend (whom I love dearly) has it in his head that he needs to start camming. I personally would love to do guy girl shows with him. I think they would be a blast. However, he for some reason has it in his head that he is going to be able to just turn the cam on and do what he would normally do (watch football, play video games, or hell even when he's just up and about moving around the house doing whatever) and people will flock to his room and throw tokens at him just because he has the camera on.

    I keep trying to tell him it doesn't work like that but he keeps saying oh well a few tokens are better than no tokens right? I agree with this but I feel as though he won't even get enough to make a payout so it's not going to help us financially and it's just going to eat my bandwidth.

    How do I convince him that the only way for us to make real money is if we cam together and be all sexy and shit.

    I realize there are voyeur cams and I do know people make money but dude I just think he's gonna get his feelings hurt if he tries this and it doesn't work.

    Thoughts? Am I being mean by telling him it's dumb to take that route?

    I'm just really tired of him going on and on about it lol.
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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    How do you crush it? Let him do it.

    Worst comes to worst he will have a better understanding and more respect for your job and never think you make easy money anymore.


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    It's kind of insulting if he thinks he can do ((NOTHING)) on cam other then what HE wants to do and thinks people will pay him. Like, typical guy...."I'll just sit here and play video games and dudes will pay me"...lol...NO.

    Cam dudes are so boring anyways. They always sit there, with a towel beside them or draped over their leg, and just like....jerk their semi to the camera. The ones i'v seen don't type, they look bored, are just sitting there.....YAWN.

    NOW, dudes that cam with their girlfriends are MUCH more entertaining to watch.

    You should just tell him straight up: Would HE *pay* another man that is just sitting infront of a webcam watching football? Uh doubtful.

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    His response would be no but I would pay a girl... he seems to think a lot of women spend money on cam sites. I try to tell him he's wrong... but yeah. I have a hard time not laughing at him when he talks about it.
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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    Let him try He will spend one day, and he will change his mind.
    It will take more energy from you to try to convince him.

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    Let him do it.

    He will be horrified to get the:
    you have a banana in handy to shove it in u ass?
    U have pink ass?
    why yo no hard?
    why yo no cum now? cum now!!!!
    finger yo ass!
    BOOOOOOORING
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    guys.

    I'd love to bring a chair, sit behind his screen and watch his face when he turned the cam on the first time.
    I don't think you can explain this to him. I bet 90% of the guys think they can do nothing at all, then they will be showered with privates, where they simply jerk their cock, like they'd do it in the bathroom and boom they bank. Lmao. Let him try!


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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    Hey, well in your bf's defense, I thought camming would be a piece of cake before I started. I was like "pshh, guys creep on me at Walmart. At least I'll get paid for it. I'm cute, right? I don't need to use sound or even interact, men will just throw money my way." How wrong was I?!
    Well yeah. But at least we know what we can expect. Men, who want women. So we are not wrong on every level. Guys mostly think they will get women, who want men. Nope. They will get men who want men. And some women too. But rather men. And these men not only want their dicks but their ass too.

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    I agree with letting reality give him a check except for the bandwidth thing. I just... couldn't share mine with anyone who wasn't seriously pulling in some bucks, too.

    Is there a way he can do it when you're not working? Or perhaps guide him to one of the sites that aren't as "heavy" on your connection? I don't even know what those might be, really. But... if it cuts into your stream that's him learning his lesson at your expense and that sucks.

    But like evgirl said, he probably won't last a day, and acutally I doubt he'd last a few hours if he's that clueless as to what's going to be demanded of him.

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    You don't have to crush him, allow reality to do it for you.
    He thinks he's going to be performing for women. He's a riot.
    Let him do the job and see how easy it isn't.
    He'll also get an awakening if you guys cam together when guys start mocking his dick and technique. Sometimes these things need to happen.
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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    I really hope he tries it, and soon. Can't wait to hear the results

    Oh, and be sure he works a full 8 hour shift, since it's such "easy money".


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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    I had to laugh. Not at your thread. It brought me the memories. My husband tried one week. As a serious camguy during my first week of camming. He made a whopping $6 and I made way more. He stopped camming. Haha.

    But on a serious note, I totally agree with everyone said. Let him try it. Maybe he will suck. Maybe he can do it. Just let him try and see where it goes.




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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    Have him talk to male cam performers. I know Streamate and Flirt4Free hasa good selection of male talent. From the guys I know on there they said most of their clients are men, not women.




    Quote Originally Posted by Staples View Post
    My boyfriend (whom I love dearly) has it in his head that he needs to start camming. I personally would love to do guy girl shows with him. I think they would be a blast. However, he for some reason has it in his head that he is going to be able to just turn the cam on and do what he would normally do (watch football, play video games, or hell even when he's just up and about moving around the house doing whatever) and people will flock to his room and throw tokens at him just because he has the camera on.

    I keep trying to tell him it doesn't work like that but he keeps saying oh well a few tokens are better than no tokens right? I agree with this but I feel as though he won't even get enough to make a payout so it's not going to help us financially and it's just going to eat my bandwidth.

    How do I convince him that the only way for us to make real money is if we cam together and be all sexy and shit.

    I realize there are voyeur cams and I do know people make money but dude I just think he's gonna get his feelings hurt if he tries this and it doesn't work.

    Thoughts? Am I being mean by telling him it's dumb to take that route?

    I'm just really tired of him going on and on about it lol.

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    Let us know how he likes his first c2c session with RamUrVirginAss69

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    If there is anything I've learned in my short life is that you can't tell a man anything. They always assume they are right.
    Why do you think it is so hard to get them to ask for directions when you are lost.

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    agreeing with everyone else when I say just let him lol he will know soon enough
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rina View Post
    He'll also get an awakening if you guys cam together when guys start mocking his dick and technique. Sometimes these things need to happen.
    Oh yes!

    I used to work in a studio with couples. I handled the chatting and the cams for them, cause we worked on 15ish sites at the same time.
    First of all, we never told the guy what the customers were saying. Only if they complimented him. But the rest. He would have gotten depressed... The guy in my favorite couple looked like a male model, and he also had nice big cock. Still. Those comments...

    And conversations like this after the first few hours were just normal.

    Me: -Guys, do something to it already, he sees it's still soft, and he doesn't like it at all!!
    Girl whispering and occasionally interrupting it with MMMMM and AAAAAHHHHH: -I'm trying but look at THIS, it's just not working anymore, no matter what I do. (Lets the dick flopping out of her mouth, poor thing collapses immediately. She grabs it again, shove it in her mouth to hold it up like that, at least to create some illusion. Starts whispering and MMMMMMMing again): See? Could you help that? It's just done..
    Guy: -Pffff, now you are helping me so much, THANK YOU! (gets even softer)

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    Unless he has magical powers and can jack off for hours upon hours,
    he's not going to make anything that's worth doing it.

    He should just do shows with you >

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    Default Re: How do I kindlycrush my boyfriends dreams of being lazy on cam and still making m

    The hottest chick can sit and do nothing and people won't throw money at her.

    Maybe just something you want to point out to him.

    All these other answers are awesome, I just wanted to throw in what I thought when I read that.
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    =He should just do shows with you >
    I agree! That's what I want him to do.

    He works a 9 to 5 job right now so maybe I'll tell him to try it on his days off next week since those are the days I normally take off myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by justanothercamgirl View Post
    If there is anything I've learned in my short life is that you can't tell a man anything. They always assume they are right.
    Why do you think it is so hard to get them to ask for directions when you are lost.
    This. I have a guy friend who will not listen to anything logical I say to him about how something won't work. I'm wrong, I'm stupid, I don't have any idea what I'm talking about. Even if it's something I have direct experience in when he doesn't. Then, when it doesn't work and goes exactly like I said it would, he comes to me and announces that such-and-such didn't work and here's why and here's what he's going to do about it.... all this shit is literally verbatim what I said would happen, and why, and what he should do instead... But the few times I pointed that out, he just went "oh... I don't remember that conversation." Oi vey...

    Let him fail on his own, and when he does... he's still not gonna admit you were right.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    This. I have a guy friend who will not listen to anything logical I say to him about how something won't work. I'm wrong, I'm stupid, I don't have any idea what I'm talking about. Even if it's something I have direct experience in when he doesn't. Then, when it doesn't work and goes exactly like I said it would, he comes to me and announces that such-and-such didn't work and here's why and here's what he's going to do about it.... all this shit is literally verbatim what I said would happen, and why, and what he should do instead... But the few times I pointed that out, he just went "oh... I don't remember that conversation." Oi vey...

    Let him fail on his own, and when he does... he's still not gonna admit you were right.

    Oh my goodness yes! He does this to me all the time!
    Quote Originally Posted by Procrasturbator View Post
    And keep at it. Get up, put on your make up, and sign on. With every second you're online comes the possibility of your next big spender. A customer could show up who will spend enough to make up for all the bad days and then some. You just have to be around for him and working multiple sites increases the chances of him finding you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    This. I have a guy friend who will not listen to anything logical I say to him about how something won't work. I'm wrong, I'm stupid, I don't have any idea what I'm talking about. Even if it's something I have direct experience in when he doesn't. Then, when it doesn't work and goes exactly like I said it would, he comes to me and announces that such-and-such didn't work and here's why and here's what he's going to do about it.... all this shit is literally verbatim what I said would happen, and why, and what he should do instead... But the few times I pointed that out, he just went "oh... I don't remember that conversation." Oi vey...

    Let him fail on his own, and when he does... he's still not gonna admit you were right.
    I can't stand people who are like that. I actually have a female friend who does that, it is terribly annoying.
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    I had a male friend who cammed for a bit. He'd pretty much sit around in Tshirt and sweats and do nothing. He made really good money! I remember he made LJ's top performers list and they did a video compilation of his free chat to promote him and all of the clips were of him sitting around looking bored or watching tv. LOL!

    But he was really cute. He had a boy next door look about him and he also had big muscles (and a big cock). So the sissies really loved him.

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    malemodeling is tricky BUT it CAN be done. My boyfriend cams with me and has a solo account. His problem is less that no one wants to tip and more that he sucks at keeping a schedule.... lol
    Let your man TRY but don't let him quit his dayjob until he's making an equvalent amount camming [which will take a while if ever, so this is key] it's never a good idea, even for female cam models, to quit their jobs for camming before they know how succesful they will or will not be.
    And ya he won't get away with just sitting around doing nothing unless he just wants $ for extra stuff like going to the movies or dates every now and then. Male models who make $ are just like female ones. Engaging, flirty, friendly, creative. Tell him good luck!

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    I agree he shouldn't quit his job and he doesn't plan to. I on the other hand DID quit my job for camming before I really got started. There were some extenuating circumstances and I did it because I KNEW my boyfriend was making enough to support us until I got started. I still haven't started making enough but I'm slowly getting there. I'm realizing that it just takes time to build an audience. That whole sticking to a schedule thing that your boyfriend has issues with? Yeah I have the same problem but I'm getting SO much better!

    Also pepper, you are always so positive and encouraging! I love reading your posts. Thanks for always finding something positive to say!
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    And keep at it. Get up, put on your make up, and sign on. With every second you're online comes the possibility of your next big spender. A customer could show up who will spend enough to make up for all the bad days and then some. You just have to be around for him and working multiple sites increases the chances of him finding you.


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