I've been thinking about this a lot lately. It's interesting how much different I have become in 5 years. I know this probably varies depending on WHAT 5 years of your life you refer to, but I bet all you ladies have changed a lot at some point, for better or worse
So, personally: I used to be a people pleaser and took a lot of crap from a lot of people. I had a very manipulative best friend (essentially a sociopath actually) who tried to keep me beneath her in "authority" over our gang of friends. I was pretty timid about standing up for myself or causing conflict; I would apologize to people when I hadn't done the wrongdoing, and was too afraid to properly quit my first job, so I just stopped showing up. I was also overly romantic and would do almost anything for the guys I fell for, even when they treated me like crap. I also would fall for one for a long time, at least a year most of the time.
Now, I don't give a hoot what anyone says or thinks about me. It's like my temper just snapped at some point. I started standing up for myself when I'd get blamed for things. I've quit a couple jobs that were treating me like shit, and done it via office yelling matches and blunt letters explaining why. I'm overly cynical of people in general, but that's probably from being a stripper and being in a college program that basically pounds into us that humans are destroying everything. In relationships, I pretty much run the show. It's "me first" most of the time now, to the point of being considered selfish... because I've learned that I deserve better than how my exes have treated me.
On a positive note, I've accepted that there are always people better than you at things, and I'm trying to keep an open mind to constructive criticism. I'm less defensive, because I'm not concerned about whether people will like me or not, and hence don't come off as a bitch immediately now. I'm also working on not judging people, and realizing that sometimes it's my perception that's making them seem bitchy or rude... the quote about "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting an invisible battle" is true and I try to remember that. I've also developed a daredevil streak
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now im depressed about it lol.


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