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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    In my personal opinion,
    you ARE a camgirl. Meaning, regardless of who the person is, you should be willing to jump on any opportunity for a show.
    He obviously likes you, considering he paid to discuss camming advice with you..and obviously, the man isn't gay, so he was also turned on by you. You may have found a new regular! What's to overreact about? Just accept his money with a smile

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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    Susie, I don't want to seem cynical, but I think you are overreacting. I sort of feel you, because I used to feel kind of the same about customers who'd buy several shows and just chat and then ask for something sexual, but, after all, they are customers. If I am getting you right, he paid you for every call? Try to think about it like you were providing different kinds of service to one and the same customer. If you are ok with both paid camming 101 and sex shows, there should be nothing wrong about doing both for one person. Also, I don't really think that him asking you for a sex show means he doesn't treat you like an equal. There's nothing degrading about sex or sex shows, and btw he was as respectful as to offer you payment, while so many people think just telling us they are fellow models will get them free flashes and 101.
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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    Yeah I don't see what the big deal is...after all, u are a camgirl...we do shows for $$...I would not be offended.

    I sort of see what you are saying but if I were you I wouldn't let down my guard around a male customer no matter what he claimed to be after. Although sometimes I do end up kinda close to my regs and I DO treat some of them as friends...but I don't regret it afterwards.

    I think if this made you uncomfortable, then maybe in the future you should not let your guard down to the extent that your regret it.

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    A humorous slant... You started as work colleagues, chatting about the business. Well, most crushes/flings/one offs happen with people from work (at least in the "real world").

    Curious, did he just act like a typical customer during the show?

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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    Offended? This is the internet where the cam customers bullshit way more than the cam girl. This is fantasy world, I would of continued to play his game and acted like I was happy to help- as long as he kept paying. Don't take things so personal.

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    Susie I would have felt uncomfortable about doing a show for him if I had felt that I had 'let my guard down' by talking to him about the industry generally. I probably would have done the same as you and said no. I cam to provide a service, not to develop relationships. But then, I am actually pretty picky about the people I do shows for and have no problems turning down shows if it's not something that suits my cam persona.
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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    I don't think I'd have an issue with what he did...as long as he's not asking for camming advice in public chat while I'm working...as long as he's not on that forum posting intimate details/screenshots/vids of our private sessions...and as long as he's paying me for my time.

    Also, I think I'm always gonna assume that male cam site members visiting me want to see "sexy stuff" (tits/ass/pussy/masturbation) at some point. Sure, some of them like us for other reasons too (our personalities and conversation), but most of them are expecting to see some tits/ass/pussy/masturbation while they're in your room spending. There's only ONE MFC member I know of who tips and never wants flashes for his tips, and he's a member I only see every once in a while.

    So the whole 'camboy-suddenly-asking-for-a-sexual-show' thing wouldn't surprise me. He probably figured that since he's paying for your time and advice, he might as well go even further and get a sexy show since that is your expertise.
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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    Knowing of the... person in question, yes I'd be offended. If he hadn't been trying to gain access to a 'safe space' for workers, I'd have been less annoyed.

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    I can empathise with this. Slightly different situation, but I had a guy who I'd modelled for find me on adultwork. He tried to book me for a cam show and had the cheek to ask if he could pay via paypal (against the rules of my camsite and paypal itself).

    Now, I don't offer any kind of 'extras' during a modelling shoot. It isn't a sexual service, and my modelling and my webcamming are completely separate. There's no way I'd cam for someone who I'd knowingly met in real life. I would actually be very dubious about modelling for him again. He was actually very nice to work with, but clearly has a lack of boundaries if he feels it's appropriate to try and solicit sexual services from me afterwards!

    I wouldn't necessarily take it personally... he probably did genuinely want advice, only from someone he fancied. But you are quite within your right not to feel comfortable offering both.

    Every once in a blue moon, I'll get a guy who is more interested in the conversation than the sexual stuff, but they they are paying per minute because there is an attraction there, even if they don't want to see tits, pussy and ass

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    Aww Heidi buggers aren't they! Hope you managed to tell him to get lost, and that he figured out how inappropriate that is xx
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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    I've had camgirls from this site join in my shows and I've done the same. I don't see a problem with it, so why would a camboy make any difference? Even if it maybe was a fake camboy. I would of pocketed it and say whatever.





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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    In the sex industry, I think it's a good rule of thumb to never let your guard down around any paying customer, regardless of what they start out paying for. No matter how nice they seem, or how into talking they are initially, they're still paying the same rate as anyone would for sexual services. Which means, they will probably want them eventually. I have plenty of regular customers/clients who claim they love talking to me just as much as they enjoy other aspects of our interactions. But I still know damn well that I would not be there and they would not be paying me the rate that they are if not for the fact that I'm pretty and willing to provide the sexual services. There's always a wall, and there always should be, so it should never come as a shock when a guy finally makes that transition to wanting the sexual services as well as your chatting company.

    With that being said, I understand where you were thrown off being as this wasn't just a random customer who wanted to chat in a GFE sense with you and then progressed to wanting sexual shows, but was someone who led you to believe that they were a fellow professional willing to pay to be mentored. I agree that creates a different dynamic, and if you weren't expecting the same sort of behavior out of him as you would any other customer, I understand why you felt weirded out when the sexual line was finally crossed. I honestly don't think he was trying to violate you or "trick" you into letting your guard down, since he kept paying you as normal. So I think to decry him as a creeper is a little harsh. But if you're not comfortable doing shows for him, that's your choice. There are just always going to be certain customers that make you uncomfortable for whatever reason, and you always have a right to turn them down, regardless of if it's "over-reacting" or not.
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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    Always trust your instincts, but trust that he was getting off from the advice too. How much advice does one really need to cam? Most lessons are learned by signing up to a cam company logging on & do it by trail & error. People who spend that much time talking about & not actually doing it are time wasters unless you are getting paid for it.

    As an industry vet, most men even those in programing, editing, camera men, site owners think they are going to get laid like crazy by hot chicks who just want sex 24/7... So was this guy too. Men are well, MEN... I don't care how big of name they are in this industry at some point they are going to turn around & ask if you will suck their dick just because we can't resist a cock. Maybe like 1 percent are all about business.

    If it were not for sexual harassment laws & law suits men in everyday jobs would be the exact same way...

    Don't doubt yourself or be to hard on yourself about it. Chalk it up as a lesson learned.

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    This just reinforces my belief that male cammers are missing that part of the brain which allows them to see work as a way to make money, and not a way to have horny fun. Men just aren't able to switch it on and off like we can.. Although i'm sure you knew that already SS :p I know who this is about and no, i wouldn't be offended. His ££ is as good as anyone's :-)

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    You Have all the rights to feel the way you do.All money aint good money.Especially if you don't feel comfortable with it.

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    If it made you feel uncomfortable that's all that matters. You can pick what shows you want to do and decline others.

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    Default Re: Would you be offended by this?

    If it was me in that situation I probably wouldn't have been offended.

    I also don't think you over-reacted. The bottom line is he made you feel uncomfortable - it doesn't matter what he did or didn't do, you have the right to decline paid shows if you don't want to do them.


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    I don't believe you over reacted, he probably just figured if he gets you on a business/friend level, you'd be willing to do more for less, or show him how you cam on skype for free.
    you did the right thing for when you felt uncomfortable by him, and there's not much else you could have done.

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    haha He probably tried this approach thinking once you saw him on cam would not be able to help yourself cause he is sooo hot but to play with yourself, but when you kept it all business no matter what. He changed tactics & just wanted what everyother cam customer wanted.... to play & get off.

    But in his head he was more than that, irresistable... What an ego crush for him. LMAO

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    Want to thank your post more than once Sam!! Haha made me smile, thank you x
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