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    Okay. I try not to make threads but, I am in over my head at the moment and I know many of you ladies are great at findom.

    I have a dude that has chatted with me 3 separate times and, he sounds nice, but, I feel like this has gone on for too long now.
    He keeps talking about wanting this SD/SB thing, and wanting to spoil me, but also wants me to 'control' his wallet yada yada yada

    Last night he said he'd contribute, then today I chatted him for awhile and he said he need to wait on his special debit card or some shit, so he had to wait to put money on this card before contributing. He messaged me while I was offline and said "giving you this $100 is really going to turn me on".

    What is he waiting for? Is he just another dude wanting to just TALK about money draining, wallet control, and spoiling? THEY ARE ALL LIKE THIS AND IT DRIVES ME MAD.

    *face palm* idk what I am doing.

    edit: I am going to add, also, that he has had 2 women leave him reviews and one even was on his mgf account writing her "ownership" of him on his page. So, why is he jumping around so much between models but wanting to profess to me how much he likes me?

    Findom confuses me, because it seems like they never "walk the walk" at the end of the day. How do you charge someone $$$ to just talk about them giving you money, but it's just pretend and they dont actually want to do it? lol
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    Bleh. Never mind. I messaged him and basically said to just fess up and admit it was all talk and no walk...lol. And I showed him a screenshot of other dudes' contributions to me, that weren't into findom, that is a shit ton more then he's contributed by far.

    I don't think that'll do anything though...lol. What a douche.

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    Default Re: Findom and being jerked around? Help?

    There's alot of guys who love the IDEA of findom/ being a sugardaddy, but will not pay up.


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    I thought maybe I finally caught my "whale" BUUUUUT.....instead I just met another dude, that likes to get models arguing and clamoring over him as he talks about all this $$$$$ but doesn't follow through.

    It's just annoying, because I was obviously very skeptical of him, but, he kept trying to convince me he was "different" and not like the rest of them.

    I should have told him to pay up then, instead of spending time chatting to him and listening to him basically jerk off to his own delusions of findom....lol.

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    Those types are almost all like that. I'd say 95% of them!

    They need to pay FIRST and then you talk.


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    If they don't pay the first time you demand it ban them they are getting off on talking about it not doing it.
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    I just dont get why it turns them on at all. Talking about spoiling a girl, but not doing it....like, what a douche?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post
    I just dont get why it turns them on at all. Talking about spoiling a girl, but not doing it....like, what a douche?
    They are the same as any other freeloader. Wanting to get the attention of a girl for free!


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    There are basically two different types of "financial domination" type guys.

    The first one is the one you'll see most often. He wants to talk about you using him, breaking him, making him give everything (financially) up for you. They get sexually excited thinking of being used like that. They may send you the occasional $20. tip if you're lucky, but the most you'll usually ever get out of him, is the rate per minute that you are charging to have these discussions.

    You *are* charging for these discussions (either on phone or cam) right? If not, you need to change it up, because you're getting him off for free.

    The second guy is much more elusive; rarely announces himself, and starts spoiling you right away. They don't tease you about spoiling you, they don't "take you shopping" and then cancel the order, and they don't talk about their money. You won't have to cajole and tease your way into their wallet...they just flat out do it. If you're ever unsure, just look back over the time you've spent with these gentlemen. One's a spender (and a spoiler!) and one's a talker. Rarely do the two overlap.


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    Red said it best. Tell them, don't talk about it, BE about it. I get a LOT of these guys in my room. I always shut them up by telling them I don't like to talk, and men with money don't brag about having it, they just give it. 99.9% of them leave right after and in a hurry. These guys understand that the girls who are serious don't fuck around and won't entertain for free. They are looking for girls who are gullible and will entertain them for free. The guys who have the money, put up. Period.




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    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post
    Okay. I try not to make threads but, I am in over my head at the moment and I know many of you ladies are great at findom.

    I have a dude that has chatted with me 3 separate times and, he sounds nice, but, I feel like this has gone on for too long now.
    He keeps talking about wanting this SD/SB thing, and wanting to spoil me, but also wants me to 'control' his wallet yada yada yada

    Last night he said he'd contribute, then today I chatted him for awhile and he said he need to wait on his special debit card or some shit, so he had to wait to put money on this card before contributing. He messaged me while I was offline and said "giving you this $100 is really going to turn me on".

    What is he waiting for? Is he just another dude wanting to just TALK about money draining, wallet control, and spoiling? THEY ARE ALL LIKE THIS AND IT DRIVES ME MAD.

    *face palm* idk what I am doing.

    edit: I am going to add, also, that he has had 2 women leave him reviews and one even was on his mgf account writing her "ownership" of him on his page. So, why is he jumping around so much between models but wanting to profess to me how much he likes me?

    Findom confuses me, because it seems like they never "walk the walk" at the end of the day. How do you charge someone $$$ to just talk about them giving you money, but it's just pretend and they dont actually want to do it? lol
    Canadian Ruby, I would say that being a findom is one of the hardest professions in the world. I believe that you need to have a certain gift of this type of domination or if not....you need to read on how courtesans and dominatrixes in history who broke men's bank accounts. Do not allow men to get the uphand and show them who is boss in this domination. You must understand that many "findom slaves" like the fantasy but do not like to pay. The true findom slaves love to spoiled their goddess, domina, or princess with tips and etc. Ruby, do not talked to freeloaders or timewasters If a man will not pay for this fetish and your service, he is not worth your time

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    Thanks ladies, I really appretiate your help and input!

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    theres so many findommes and like only a few real finsubs. the actual ones will tip you before chatting about it. my finsubs came to me on a camsite and went straight to pvt show before speaking, had a session, spent loads and never returned. im happy with this. the ones who sent emails before joining my pvt chat never paid me a dime even after replying to emails confirming i wud do their fetish.

    this suggests to me that most of them only have enough cash to do it once and dont actually want 2 be owned. its something they do when their dick is erect and they r ready 2 go. they tip u big they cum from ur verbal words and the fact u gave them shit all in return. the 1s sitting typeing emails r most likely not got an erection they just wanna chat to a hot dominant woman without spending.

    i am aware that many successful findoms have actual finsubs who want their entire wallet controlled day in and day. but i believe this is like 25% of finsubs.. the rest are one timers.. "insta subs". also i never chase finsubs because there is so many findoms around... like on twitter... theres a paypig hashtag every 10 seconds. and most of the girls only have wishlists and the guys love 2 buy off wishlists but i prefer cash becos i cant pay my bills with shoes. so u see girls with pictures of 20 odd amazon packages with the quote "thanks losers" under neath... but really... im not prepared 2 spend the amount of time searching for slaves just to recieve 10 pairs of cheap knickers and some other crap i cant do anything with. thats why the only "findom" i do is in my private camroom on AW where they are paying by the minute.

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    I handle it one of two ways...If they are paying me per minute then I will talk all day to them about it and "pretend" that they are for real money slaves. If they are emailing me, then they get one response in which I leave out most trigger words, and then I send any additional email as PTV...$5.00 or so. If they pay great! If not, I just saved myself a whole lotta trouble. If you aren't on a site that has pay emails, then end your email by basically saying I expect a tribute, voucher, gold whatever to continue our little dance money pig. Then either they do or don't and you are free.

    Never act desperate...FinDom's are NEVER needy for anyone's attention or $$$. The authentic piggys I have had will give money freely without being prompted or making you tease it out of them. If you are really a Dominant....then you do not take anyone's sh*t.


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    Quote Originally Posted by BlondebombGA View Post

    Never act desperate...FinDom's are NEVER needy for anyone's attention or $$$.
    You would think so right? Yet there is a whole load of desperate dumb girls on tumblr & twitter calling themselves findoms and literally 'begging' for paypigs. These girls are creating a whole load of insta-subs who just dont understand what its all about. thats why they are sending these dumb emails. apart from half the girls on social network sites dont have cams and are not able 2 actually dom on voice chat either so the guys come to us with the mentality we are gona be like those insta-findommes but use cam/voice as well... pfft

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeenageAnnie View Post
    theres so many findommes and like only a few real finsubs. the actual ones will tip you before chatting about it. my finsubs came to me on a camsite and went straight to pvt show before speaking, had a session, spent loads and never returned. im happy with this. the ones who sent emails before joining my pvt chat never paid me a dime even after replying to emails confirming i wud do their fetish.

    this suggests to me that most of them only have enough cash to do it once and dont actually want 2 be owned. its something they do when their dick is erect and they r ready 2 go. they tip u big they cum from ur verbal words and the fact u gave them shit all in return. the 1s sitting typeing emails r most likely not got an erection they just wanna chat to a hot dominant woman without spending.

    i am aware that many successful findoms have actual finsubs who want their entire wallet controlled day in and day. but i believe this is like 25% of finsubs.. the rest are one timers.. "insta subs". also i never chase finsubs because there is so many findoms around... like on twitter... theres a paypig hashtag every 10 seconds. and most of the girls only have wishlists and the guys love 2 buy off wishlists but i prefer cash becos i cant pay my bills with shoes. so u see girls with pictures of 20 odd amazon packages with the quote "thanks losers" under neath... but really... im not prepared 2 spend the amount of time searching for slaves just to recieve 10 pairs of cheap knickers and some other crap i cant do anything with. thats why the only "findom" i do is in my private camroom on AW where they are paying by the minute.
    I will also like to do add all of the findommes on Second Life.....they used cams and demand guys to buy all of the stuff off both their Amazon and Second Life wishlists. Yet they charge men 10 dollars for like a hour of talking with them. I always have to smile because I charge men 30 dollars for just type out their fantasies for 15 mins. Men will pay for luxury items even in Second Life Teenage Annie, you hit the nail on the head

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    A big part of my confusion with this guy was that, when I think of "findom" I think of men that are subservient, want to worship, like being humiliated and controlled etc.

    With this guy though...he said he wanted findom, yet...he wanted some sort of sugar baby / sugar daddy thing. Unfortunately I am not a good "brat". I can't fake it at all....I can't pretend to act like I just want to go on shopping sprees and go and buy experience shit haha.

    It doesn't feel like "findom" to me in this way, and I think he is confused with what he wants to call it I guess. I mean, yeah he probably gets turned on about giving a girl money, and her spending it....but, I think he wants the whole teasing / bratty princess thing.

    I don't like / want to have to pretend to act like a spoiled brat....and I don't like talking about money, or rubbing someones ego just because they have it.

    @[email protected] Just give me the money...don't make me beg for it, or tell me you're going to contribute but then you never do....

    ((just to clarify, I don't market myself as a findom/princess/domme etc....he just came to me lol)).

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    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post

    @[email protected] Just give me the money...don't make me beg for it, or tell me you're going to contribute but then you never do....
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    You say you're not good at acting bratty...
    Just say what you're actually thinking like you did up there ^
    Say what you're thinking. I think I'm good at it because when I'm doing Vanilla all i can think is "For fuck sake loser just pay up so I can go and do something interesting." and when they wanna show their dicks I'm thinking "dont wanna see ur pointless dick dont even care if its big or small it's never coming near me anyway" yet i'm smiling and pretending to want to suck it.. then i get a pvt on my domme cam and i can unleash everything i wanted 2 say to the vanilla guy on them. lol. I dont consider myself bratty though. perhaps this guy you're talking to is new to findom and is affraid to go broke (these guys are a waste of time and not to be bothered with). i know you said he has feedback saying he is owned, but could he possibly be owned as something else, like a sissy slave or foot slave or a cuckolding relationship perhaps? i've seen a lot of findoms ask new subs to fill in a form and send it with a tribute. which to me sounds pathetic. but thats just my opinion, maybe you could get him to fill in a form and attatch the $100 to it when his card is ready and tell him, whilst he aint spending he aint got your attention, fill the form, send the tribute and quit being a needy cunt.

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    "whilst he aint spending he aint got your attention, fill the form, send the tribute and quit being a needy cunt."

    BRAVO...Lol.


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    I ignore them or say "ok, well you can start by tipping me 20 gold right here and now and I'll know if you are serious or not".


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    I have been in the findom "industry" for only a few weeks in collarme abd i was shocked how many supposed subs there are who seemingly want to have you take their money! My first attempt was ok...but it attracted a hell of a lot of timewasters and talkers. My next attempt (new profile being incredibly blunt and bitchy) did much better. In the last few days i've made more than i would make in a week at my office job. Woo! But i don't know if it's sustainable.

    And those who said the REAL finsubs will pay without excuses or making you wait...that is completely true.

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    I have 2 guys that come in my room talking that shit. They both profess to want to give me their bank account numbers ect. All I can think is it's some other cam chick and her man and or studio trying to get me to write down their info and hold it up and screenshot it to get me out of their way. As in we're not supposed to have contact with custies. Also really, I'm going to go in your bank account and transfer money to mine?! So you can call the cops and say I hacked you? Um no. Just fuck no. I know there are people that do that and that's great. I would LOVE to be one of them, but not willing to take the chance to find out if you're the one in a thousand.

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    They'll either pay when you ask the first time, or they'll never pay. Or they'll pay without you having to ask before you even know they are a findom guy. Too many fakers.

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