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    Hey girls,

    I have another question for you. Do any of you ever offer a "meet me" service? I know from modeling on Southern Charms that several models there have packages that they offer where fans can pay a certain price to meet them as long as they meet certain criteria. What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever done it? Would you ever consider it?

    Obviously lots of safety precautions would need to be taken but it's something I'm considering since I know of several fans who are in my general location (even though they don't know that's where I'm at) and would pay to meet me.

    Let me know what your thoughts on this are!
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    No way in hell!

    I always cringe when I see models doing this stuff. Maybe I watch too much Forensic Files but nobody could pay me enough to meet one of these random guys.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Staples View Post
    Obviously lots of safety precautions would need to be taken but it's something I'm considering since I know of several fans who are in my general location (even though they don't know that's where I'm at) and would pay to meet me.
    Pay to MEET you? Or pay to have sex with you?

    Because there's a big difference... obviously... and 99% of guys who say they want to "meet you" are actually saying they want to have sex with you.

    So if it's something you are considering, just make sure the expectations are 100% clear on both sides before hand. And even still, a lot of these types of guys are still going to try and get in your pants because they all seem to have it in their head that they are "different".
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    My regular cam customers know the club that I work and its never been a problem. I wouldnt meet them at like an applebees or anything but I figure a strip club is a safe enough place and its a win/win for everyone. They spend way more money in person than they do on cam and I leave the club a very happy girl.

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    Also bear in mind unless they exceed a really really high criteria --- they may never see you on cam again. It is tough to go from being the hot chick in the monitor to being a live being without cosmetic lighting and having normal boring life conversations. Ive heard a few success stories about this (hell that NYTimes article posted recently showcased one) where the guy continued being a customer OR becomes a boyfriend but common sense is telling me that is more the exception than the rule?

    It also seems like the territory for ladies with escorting/live sex work experience where clients need to be screened. I say this free for criticism bc Im biased but - camming and PSO work is seems to be often where people stop and/or start in adult industry work and escorts/Dommes/pornstars etc pick up a certain shrewdness and understanding of adultwork stigma / people's potential to be bananas that camgirls who only have adult industry experience in camming/PSO dont have. For example, Ive never seen escort/Domme blogs talking about kids, pics of kids/bills, specific non-chain restaurants theyre presently in... but I see this fairly often on camgirl blogs? Our industry is built a bit more on documented (or the ability to document - like recording GFE session for example) oversharing + appeal to the amateur mainstream for quick cash which I think makes this habit.... troubling.

    I just think camming trains people to let their guards down in ways that makes meeting clients dangerous, I think this level of dangerous decreases dramatically depending on the person's cross-industry experience (dancing, porn, escorting, etc), but otherwise I think it is a very tricky combination. And "guard down" is also unconscious stuff - if youre the type to write long extensive posts on forums and also via emails: you give off hints of who you are across multiple platforms, both by semantics analysis and topics/triggers you tend to stick to. Social engineering is some scary stuff and broadcasting a live video regularly disarms you from really absorbing the extent to which youre giving predatory social engineers information.

    Of course I think a number of ladies are an exception to this rule - but my mind is fixating on .... idk, fulltime college student camming every so often when not on work study being persuaded by a predator who seems "harmless" and convinces her to meet a few blocks from her dorm or something. So this comment is more for the general camgirl population who may be reading this open forum - I think the people who can handle it well already know they can.... while those unsure/considering/nervously excited should spend wayyyy more time thinking it through.





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    No, I don't offer opportunities for members to meet me. I've had members say stuff to me like "I'm gonna be in your area next month," and I just say "Oh, cool" while thinking to myself "Yeah, and what's your point?"

    I've been seeing a lot of date raffles on MFC, and opportunities to meet a model if you tip a huge tip of X tokens. I just hope these ladies are being extremely cautious with this.
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    I wouldn't mind offering something like this when I travel, but would be uncomfortable offering this in my town. Also, I would not be a fan of men generally knowing which club(s) I work at (unless I was travelling) because I would not want a creeper to come in and know who I was without me knowing who he was. If someone specifically would want to arrange an in-club "date" in VIP room I might be more open to that, but only with a downpayment.

    but yes, I could see how crossing over with cam/clubs could be beneficial.

    but then again, I don't really do social media very much like facebook and twitter so try to remain as private as possible unless there's an immediate $-benefit.

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    I don't think it's very wise to do something like that.

    Many cam girls have their "on cam" persona. They say/do things they might not actually be inclined towards in person. Is the model going to meet someone in person, and try and keep up the act in front of the guy? It's a whole other playing field once you're actually standing infront of the person, no longer in your element infront of a webcam.

    What is a man going to expect if he is considering PAYING the model to meet up? Who knows how obsessed he might be, or 'infatuated' with her...especially if her hustle / persona / relationship with him, has him thinking she actually has feelings for him. All that just sounds really, really dangerous.

    I'd personally flip my shit if I had someone come up to me and say they recognized me...LOL. It would NOT be cool, at all. And i'd never, ever, ever agree to meet anyone that already has shit like videos / pictures of me.


    I think what roast wrote here is GREAT insight and very informative.

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    ^ lmfao!!

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    HELL FUCKING NOOOOOO!!!!!
    This is a guy who sits at work/home watching me from a computer. Yes hi thanks I want your money but I'm a cam model not an escort, working girl or working for christen mingle the line is drawn. If I'm working at a booth repping my (I don't even know what you would call them) cam service provider at the AVN's then if he's there I will say hi, talk for a bit and sign a photo. That's as close of a meet a fan as I go and I wouldn't even tell them I was going so its more of a meet a fan by chance run at a public venue.

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    OMG I love that show!!!!


    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    No way in hell!

    I always cringe when I see models doing this stuff. Maybe I watch too much Forensic Files but nobody could pay me enough to meet one of these random guys.

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    NO. If they want to meet you, go to AVN or another show and get a booth. They can meet you there and buy your merchandise. That way you can meet your fans with security and a bunch of people around you.


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    No! No no no! Just NO!
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    I met with my members and with one of my member I'm actually living now In total I met 4 members. Not for money of course.

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    A few of my customers want to meet in person, and I'm really against the idea. For one thing, there are things I try to hide while I'm on camera, and for another, with the attitude I receive from the majority of my viewers, I'm not going to risk meeting someone who may become violently angry when they realize that I don't actually fuck anything that moves. If someone wants to scan a copy of their photo I.D. and give me payment for a background check, I might consider it, but otherwise I'm not going to take the risk.
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    Nope, sammi.
    For 3 years I'm living with my boyfriend.
    With first member i met like 4 years ago, I knew him for 3 weeks and i went in his country on vacation. So he sent his friends to meet me in airport 12 hours away from his city after for 1 month I lived in his apt, ate his food and cuddling his cat
    At the same time another member/friend decide to come and meet me in Turkey. He is italian.
    #3 is my boyfriend and I met him 2009, and start talking all the time in yahoo and talking ... and he start sending me gifts and flowers every week, writing poems, sending money cuz he wanted me to stop working. so still with him
    #4 I think in march i met him, i know everything about him. and he didnt have an intention to fuck me or kill me, he kinda famous. so still friends still talking everyday, I'm doing for him sexy shows.

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    ^ i hope you're being cautious about that.

    And NO. No. No. like.. nope.

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    Geez. Some of you guys are a bunch of overanalyzing scaredy cats. I have gone on weekend dates with many men I've met on nf and in clubs. With proper screening I honestly dont see what the problem is. Alot of my regs also buy me stuff off of amazon & know my pp info and nobody has ever shown up on my property in a Jason mask ready to kill me.

    Not every guy is a wierdo and I can understand being leary of some but to each their own ya know. If its not your cup of tea, by all means dont do it but everyone doesnt share that same idea. If someone isnt afraid to do it, you shouldnt be afraid for them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SecretCrush View Post
    Geez. Some of you guys are a bunch of overanalyzing scaredy cats. I have gone on weekend dates with many men I've met on nf and in clubs. With proper screening I honestly dont see what the problem is. Alot of my regs also buy me stuff off of amazon & know my pp info and nobody has ever shown up on my property in a Jason mask ready to kill me.

    Not every guy is a wierdo and I can understand being leary of some but to each their own ya know. If its not your cup of tea, by all means dont do it but everyone doesnt share that same idea. If someone isnt afraid to do it, you shouldnt be afraid for them.
    Yeah ladies. It's not like sex workers are a highly preyed upon population of individuals that attracts countless amounts of male predators or anything!

    Just because you havent been hurt YET doesnt mean shit. You are not every other cam girl out there. "It never happened to me before" is not good enough.

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    With that logic, any hot girl walking down the street in my city (sex workers galore & plastic surgery everywhere) is a target for a predator. Oh no, maybe somebody is gonna recognize me so I should dress more modestly in fear that some random dude that has seen me on the interwebs is gonna come after me. really? Suprisingly I am still able to make it to the grocery store, errands and back all by myself with no issues. Lighten up. Its never happened to me and wont because I am a smart cookie that packs heat.

    Like I said before, not everyone shares that opinion so while I respect yours, dont be fearful for me or others that share mine.

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    Do I think alllll the guys who see us are scary serial killers? No. I think a good majority of them are just regular joes who want a good wank. Good people just wanting to masturbate to some pussy. But then maybe 10% are legitimately kray. And it's because of the overly clingy / totally obsessive, straight up mofo psychos that I just wouldn't ever think of holding a raffle date or something of that level.

    I'm totally fine with an Expo meet n' greet tho. I think that would be fun meeting people who've enjoyed what I've been doing for the last 3 years and I'd love to meet them there. Totally cool and fine with that.

    Annnd one thing I want to throw out again just for the sake of saying. Don't believe that spending a lot of money on you = nice guy. Money is a manipulation tool, it doesn't equal niceness/goodness. So if you're ever thinking "Well I'd only go out with a guy if he spent tons of money on me!" Yeah well, he could still be the guy tucking it in and dancing around with a little white dog.









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    H-e-l-l to the NOOOOO!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SecretCrush View Post
    Geez. Some of you guys are a bunch of overanalyzing scaredy cats.
    Well, after I got my first stalker I start overanalyzing things a lot more.

    I am happy that your luck has been better than mine so far, but to call someone a scaredy cat because they have concerns over this issue is really insulting. There is a risk when it comes to meeting someone offline. Yes, that risk may be a small risk but I personally rather not play Russian roulette with my own life.


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    I don't even give regular dates my address. There are too many real predators out there for me to ever consider that. But, if you are meeting them to be paid for sex then I'd just take precautions like having their info and making sure someone knows exactly where you are and when you will check in.

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