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    there's this girl at work..beautiful girl, i mean gorgeous. she's thick, that's for sure, with a HUGE fluffy gravity-defying ass, beautiful face, and perky C cups. but she's constantly complaining about how insecure she is, and how ugly she feels, and tonight she told us all that her parents are paying for her college ( one of the best in mass) , sending her 500 a week, and paying for her apartment. so she doesn't need to strip or work at all, she just does it because she "constantly needs and craves male attention". she goes on and on about the "hot" guys there ( where?? i don't see any..), and today it just got on my nerves.
    our club has WAY too many girls, girls who need money to feed themselves and put clothes on their children's backs. its not a game to the rest of us, not a way to flirt with guys or give us an ego boost, its a JOB, its MONEY, money that we need as adults to live. it just kinda got me annoyed that she's there upping the competition drastically so she can feel better about herself *wow* and she's only 18 with no worries or cares in the world. she's got another thing coming, she's going into nursing so i hope she knows the risks and that this is not a game.

    but then i started feeling really guilty. i'm not at all saying stripping should be a last resort job, anybody can do it, nothing i can do about it and probably not my business maybe i'm just jealous or something haha. am i being a bitch? i love my job most of the time, but i've been working for 11 years, 3 stripping, and i can't say that if i were independently wealthy i would still do it.

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    Default Re: girls who strip for "fun"

    I don't think you should feel guilty for how you feel. I am a cam girl but I would probably also feel annoyed knowing that some new girl on my site was diverting paying customers to herself when she didn't need the money and just needed an ego boost. I guess I just feel like if you want the attention, why not choose a more appropriate avenue for that? Why can't she go to a regular club and pick up guys to flirt and dance with there? It seems like a really unwise move to enter the adult industry solely because you want men to fawn over you and boost your ego, especially going into a career like nursing where it can have negative effects when you try to land a job. I'd be upset by it too if men were spending on her instead of me. Not that she doesn't have the right to earn a living dancing but it just seems like her reasoning is kind of off and you do bring up a good point, she is basically taking money away from women who actually treat it like the job it is and rely on the money that comes along with it.

    Maybe it makes me a small person but I'd be annoyed by it, too. I actually have a lot of respect for anyone who tries to make their own way in life without relying on their parents' money, but I have to wonder why she would choose stripping of all jobs. It just kind of doesn't add up for me. Perhaps what she said about her parents giving her all this money is a lie she's told you and herself because she inwardly feels bad about dancing and wants to delude herself into thinking that it's somehow better if it's not done out of necessity?

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    idk i thought about her maybe lying, but she definitely sounds like a very naive girl who comes from a priveleged home..yeah and her only reason for stripping in particular is that she constantly needs male attention and reasurrance. bad idea..some days guys will fall all over each other buying dances, the next day it could be pulling teeth. VERY bad idea to base your self esteem off that..it also kinda gets me that she thinks stripping is just a big game of flirting with cute guys and drinking and partying and everybody telling you how pretty you are when its so much more than that. but i guess she will see that soon.

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    Watch her say that to the wrong crackhead who robs her and slits her throat.
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    Freaking newbs. THis is why I like working in big clubs with many different girls. One tiny little new bitch isn't going to make a wave that big in a club with 80 entertainers on a busy night.

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    I don't think you should feel guilty at all. She sounds annoying.

    She will get over that phase pretty quickly, usually they do.

    She might still enjoy it somewhat in a few more months, especially if she likes drinking/partying, but the glow will wear off after a while more.

    Hell you might find you miss it after being away for a while (though I could never claim to predict your feelings of course). I have taken two fairly long breaks as I was sick of the shit going on in a couple of these clubs, and wound up missing it after a while.
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    Despite how beautiful/hot/perfect/good-looking she is, if she's as insecure as she sounds, she's hardly competition. I bet she sits around with "hot" customers just chatting and sometimes gets lucky when they throw some cash her way. I doubt she hustles or focuses on making money if she's just doing it for fun.

    Totally annoying when your club is overrun with girls, yes, but at least having that many girls keeps you off stage and gives you more time on the floor, and if they're all just there for "fun," that leaves you to make all the money.
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    It's not crazy or bad to be annoyed by it, but at the end of the day, it's really no one's business why anyone does any job. I mean, in theory, couldn't every girl at the club pick up a second part-time job and work less nights at the club, thereby making it easier for all the other girls to make more money on the nights they're in because there will be less dancers there each night? I'm not saying it's exactly the same thing, or that it's in any way rational to act out that scenario, but ultimately, her reasons for doing the job or making the money aren't anybody else's to "police." Would anybody's earnings really improve significantly if she wasn't there? Or is just annoyance to see someone cavalierly going about something that you put your actual heart and soul into because you need to?

    It's always going to be obnoxious seeing someone treat the sex industry as party-time to get male attention rather than a real job. I'm more annoyed because I feel like it promotes the stereotype that all industry girls are like that and people shouldn't view what we do as "real work," (after all, if the girls themselves don't see it that way, why should anyone else?). It would be like working your tail off for an organization you actually care about, and then having someone come in and bribe their way to team leader just cuz they think it's "cute" to wear power suits.

    I get it. It's annoying. But, ultimately, not really anyone's business and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm sure she will burn out on stripping eventually, and she'll take her low self-esteem problems to another outlet. I feel bad for her when I think about it (but then again, I'm not the one who has to listen to her every night lol). At least right now she's doing something semi-productive with her issues instead of drunkenly having unsafe sex with strangers from a random bar every night? I can't really fault anyone for making profit off their looks and desire for attention rather than perpetuating male entitlement and giving it away for free all the time out of desperation.
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    But any dancer who's not about business can cause more of an affect than I think anyone mentioned. We have a similar one where I work. A young party girl. Lives with her parents and doesn't particularly need money. Guys buy her drinks and she sits with them for a while. Then she giggles while they touch her however they'd like for a few dollars. Basically once I've seen her sit with a customer for more than ten minutes I know I won't be making any money off that one at any point during the night. How can I sell a legit lap dance when she rubbed her body all over him, hung out for half an hour and let him touch her pussy for a few dollars?? It's hard enough to compete with real extra girls, let alone "freebie for attention" girls. Ya, there's nothing anyone can do about it, but it really blows.

    I guess I needed to rant too.

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    yeah, i'd say its a 50/50, some guys just get lots of dances with her because she's supposedly " the hottest girl there" and some complain that she's annoying with no personality. its kind of weird, because i would assume a girl who just goes there for male attention would not care about earning money but she seems to..idk..and idk what she does out back either. yeah i was in a super bad /bitchy mood last night from working a bunch of days in a row and having a group of guys throw change on my stage my last set haha so i probably came off as a bit harsh. i just gotta do my thing and not care about other people, and not listen to crap in the dressing room that will annoy me lol.

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    Maybe the reason why she cares is because the more money she makes, the bigger ego boost she gets...

    I do love the attention I get from dancing but the main reason I started was for the money. Whatever her motives may be, it's definitely not smart of her to let everybody know about her financial situation.
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    I started dancing, just for fun. I had a day job where I made more $ than I did at my first club, by a fairly wide margin. I hope I wasn't annoying as the girl OP has brought up. I don't think I was. I didn't start dancing to interact with men. That's always been my least fav part of the job. I started dancing because I realized I would never become a music video girl and stripping seemed like the next best thing. Plus, I had this obsession for buying lingerie and wanted to show it off. My first year or so of dancing were just for extra cash, excuses to take "working vacations," and having a good time. But, eventually it turned into my primary source of income.

    But again, that girl sounds obnoxious. If the girl just wants to flirt, there are lots of other places she could do that. But, it doesn't sound like she is great at her job or making piles of cash. Maybe it's better to have her there than have her replaced by some dirty, hooker hustler who would be harder to compete with...?

    Either way, I'm with you Simone! She sounds lame.

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    I thought of something else... You already know this girl is insecure and dying for mass acceptance. Maybe she sees the other girls making more $ than she is, so she's coming up with excuses (lies) about why she'd just there for a good time and doesn't care if she makes $. Just a theory, but I've seen girls do that.

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    ^ possibly, she also likes to brag about her money ( big stripper no-no) and say how she desperately needs a boob job when she's sitting right next to me and my 32 A boobs and how her parents are going to pay for it lol. i think she's just annoying me but maybe she really is just young and insecure ( she's definitely very young mentally), and trying to make us think she has it all. not a good way to make friends, but oh well. not as upset about it as i was last night when i was wanting to punch somebody in the face after work..

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    I have always found it irritating when a good looking girl relies on customer attention for validation. It's an unhealthy way to go about living, and an especially unhealthy manner of working in this business IMO.

    And with some of them it seems to get worse as time goes on. Sort of the flip side of the coin with the whole 'Stripping as Empowerment' phenomenon. Not to be negative again, but pretending everything is always wonderful in the world of stripping is not wise in my view. It's a business far better suited to people who are secure, deep down where it counts. The true predators. Everyone else is prey. Including the really hot dancers with deep-seated security issues, who aren't mastering the situation but letting it rule them.
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    I wonder how long she will last in the club? prob not too long.
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    I usually give girls like that a month.. maybe 6 weeks! It's easy to out work them and keep the customers away!

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    ok hate if you must .... i loved partying guys/girls skimpy clouthes and being the center of the party did the grocery store thing and it was not for me. Being naked in a room full of people looking at me getting paid .... fuck yar i was one of those girls who stripped for fun...my only diffrence was no one was sending me money from home ......

    yes she might be in your eyes taking cash out of your pocket but for what ever reason she strips she is a stripper give her that much slack.......

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