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    I'm a complete noob. My husband and I went to out first club a couple a weeks ago, and it was a great experience for us. We sat alone enjoying the show for awhile and eventually a sweetheart of a girl came up and sat with us. Taught me some of the 'rules' they club had for women, what to expect, etc. She was so respectful of my nervousness and made me feel really at ease. She sat there for quite awhile and we bought her a 'ladies drink', and then finally went to the VIP room with her.

    I've been reading a lot on etiquette, etc.. trying to figure what's expected, how to act, etc. But there's one thing I'm having trouble getting a handle on.. We had spent an hour or so just 'watching' and enjoying the dancers before our gal approached us. And that was actually pretty perfect for us. I needed some time to have a couple of drinks and get adjusted to the situation. Loosen up and enjoy, etc.

    I feel like the dancers we just watched shoulda been tipped too. Is there any generic tip jar somewhere? I'm not ready to walk up to the stage yet, and don't particularly want my husband popping up there every song either. Is there any other way to show your appreciation and tip without doing the walk up to the stage? I already feel conspicuous enough just being there.

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    Just catch them as they're walking by either before or after their stage set.

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    I've nvr seen tip jars on stage, tho I used to joke w/ my dj that I should get one & label it as going toward my knee-surgery fund.

    When I sat w/ customers who expressed interest in a girl on stage, or appreciation for her stage show, I would encourage them to go w/ me to tip her. They often went for that, or would send me up to the stage alone to tip the girl on their behalf.

    There's no need to feel self-conscious abt going to tip at the stage as a female customer. The dancers will certainly appreciate it. I used to try to encourage female customers to come tip me from the stage, as I also generally found them to be a lot more polite(read: a lot less grabby) than guy customers.

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    I've nvr seen tip jars on stage, tho I used to joke w/ my dj that I should get one & label it as going toward my knee-surgery fund.
    I wasn't thinking a jar at the stage.. it's the walk to the stage that would freak me out! I'm very self conscious in that regard, probably one reason I find the dances so attractive. I wish I had that kind of confidence/nerve, etc. I was thinking more of one at the DJ booth or bar.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    When I sat w/ customers who expressed interest in a girl on stage, or appreciation for her stage show, I would encourage them to go w/ me to tip her. They often went for that, or would send me up to the stage alone to tip the girl on their behalf.
    That sounds like a great way to ease into the stage environment, if I ever get up the nerve. To be honest tho, at least on this first trip, once our dancer sat down, I think I forgot there was a stage.

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    Every club is different. I've def sat with customers at the stage and helped them spend their cash. But, I've also worked at clubs where the girls weren't allowed to sit by the stage or interact with people on pervert row. Some clubs have their girls do a tip walk and collect dollars from the cheap seats, after each set. But I don't think that's super common. Never seen a tip jar for anyone besides the bartender and the dude that supervises everyone's bathroom business. Def never seen a tip jar for strippers. Most of the time, customers want to be acknowledged for their tips with better treatment from the girls (or to avoid angry stripper outbursts). So a tip jar wouldn't work that well, for most strippers. I understand that you don't want your hubby sitting in the front row, elbow deep in booty, but he wouldn't have to sit at the stage in order to tip the dancer. He could just get up, walk to the stage and toss down a few dollars, then return to you at your table. Should take less than 10 seconds. The dancers will notice that you guys have tipped and will def appreciate that.

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    What she said

    I try to tip every dancer that works while I am at the club.

    they are not going to retire on it, but it makes me feel like I am contributing.

    Just walk up and put some money on the rail

    If they notice, fine, if they don't it isn't the point

    They are working, pay da broads!!!

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    I guess I'm just going to have to get over it and walk up to the stage if I wanna continue going. I just remember being so glad I finally made it to our table when I first walked in. The idea of walking up to the middle of the action is nerve racking. I wanna do the right thing and show my appreciation, just was hoping for a more low key way of doing it. :/

    Thank for taking the time to respond.

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    Yeah, don't be scared! Strippers don't bite (unless you pay then extra for that)!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    ...I would encourage them to go w/ me to tip her. They often went for that, or would send me up to the stage alone to tip the girl on their behalf.

    There's no need to feel self-conscious abt going to tip at the stage as a female customer. The dancers will certainly appreciate it. I used to try to encourage female customers to come tip me from the stage, as I also generally found them to be a lot more polite(read: a lot less grabby) than guy customers.
    That's the way I always do it when I am a customer in another club. Much as I try to get the guys to line the tiprail when I am working, you will never see me sitting there, and I rarely go up there to tip a girl myself either. Sending another dancer is way more fun for everyone involved. Some dancers absolutely LOVE going up there and putting on a show tipping the girls, either because they really DO love it, or because they are smart enough to know it will make them a lot more money long term to be seen doing this. These are the ones you want to do it. Some dancers who are onstage also love putting on a show with a girl tipping them, more than a guy.

    But there are other girls who don't like doing it and will not put on any kind of show at all, which I totally understand as you wouldn't catch me going up there tipping a fucking guy for any reason.



    In your case, OP--being a female customer--you might find it's a lot more fun going and tipping the ones who like it from the girls (or are really good at pretending they do). Once you get more relaxed in a club you will find it more natural I am sure. I always talk up girls tipping girls on the mic, whether it is another dancer doing it for a customer, or if it is a cute female customer. Either way, it almost always gets the tipping going more from others...
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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    Just walk up really quick and tip, honestly if you go at the right time they probably won't even notice you because they'll be so absorbed in their dance. That happened to me a
    couple days ago actually, some guy left me a fat tip on stage and I had no idea who it was because I was upside down at that moment!

    Or you can ask the dancer who is sitting with you to go up! But yes, it is nice to tip because as long as customers are in the club we have to go up and get naked... I got yelled at a few days ago because I didn't get full nude on stage, which I didn't do because there were like 8 guys watching the stage NOT tipping...

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    Default Re: How to tip w/o going to stage..

    Just walk over or send your husband over to drop a couple of dollars on the stage. If you are afraid of the attention this may draw, just wave the dancer over when she is done with her set. This is normal behavior in a strip club and no one is going to pay any attention to you tipping the dancer on stage. It is odd to see people in the club who just hunker down in back and don't tip anyone. Their attempts to hide just make them all that much more obvious.

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    Just walk up to the stage and tip. Entertainers almost never bite the hand that tips them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laugher View Post
    I wasn't thinking a jar at the stage.. it's the walk to the stage that would freak me out! I'm very self conscious in that regard, probably one reason I find the dances so attractive. I wish I had that kind of confidence/nerve, etc. I was thinking more of one at the DJ booth or bar.



    That sounds like a great way to ease into the stage environment, if I ever get up the nerve. To be honest tho, at least on this first trip, once our dancer sat down, I think I forgot there was a stage.
    You are waaaaaaay overthinking this! See that girl up there -- yeah, that one, the blonde/brunette/tattooed/spinner/Amazon pole acrobat/whatever -- that one you reallyreallyreally like? Yeah, her! Go tip her! Go! Up w/ you then! Show her how much you appreciate her!

    Be as low-key as you need to, but she will appreciate that you came up to let her know she was 'doing it' for you.

    If you read thru sm of the threads on here, you will find girls expressing frustration at going an entire set w/o getting tipped. Depending on the club, this is anywhere from one song to four, & even for veteran dancers, four songs is a long time to be busting your ass for an audience that is either too cheap or too shy to show that they actually do like what you're doing. I've also had many times onstage where a lady came up to tip me & that was the push that the rest of the room needed. Doesn't it feel good to be a trend-setter?

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    ^^^Yeah just relax, laugher--it's only intimidating because you aren't used to the environment. Once you do it a few times you will be surprised at how easy it is. Though I confess if I am sitting in my comfy VIP couch I am still much more inclined to send another dancer with the tip.

    Plus the cool ones really, REALLY appreciate it when no one is tipping, and then you walk up there like it's really not a big deal to simply show respect & give them a dollar or two (or more if you really like them). You will occasionally run into a dancer who still acts bored/pissed off after you tip them--but trust me that is not all bad because then you will avoid getting a bored/pissed off lapdance haha!

    But typically you will get far more than one little dollar's worth of appreciation if you tip when everyone else is sitting there like sea slugs. And that is not meant to disparage you for being shy about it in the past. I am talking about the sea slugs that sit there night after night for years watching a free show...
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    It is sooooo aggravating to have someone in the club who is watching every girl on stage and yet won't put down a single dollar. The girls don't think you're shy, they either think you're a bitch who thinks you're better than them, you're insecure that your husband is gonna leave you for a stripper, or you're cheap. (Sorry to be harsh but it is true.) If you are nervous to be singled out when you go up to tip them, just wait till their back is turned or they're far away or something, and just put some money on the stage, you don't have to wait to get the dancer's attention to put it in her g string or anything like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aperfectseal View Post
    It is sooooo aggravating to have someone in the club who is watching every girl on stage and yet won't put down a single dollar. The girls don't think you're shy, they either think you're a bitch who thinks you're better than them, you're insecure that your husband is gonna leave you for a stripper, or you're cheap. (Sorry to be harsh but it is true.) If you are nervous to be singled out when you go up to tip them, just wait till their back is turned or they're far away or something, and just put some money on the stage, you don't have to wait to get the dancer's attention to put it in her g string or anything like that.
    Yeah I have seen that, though a lot more up in Daytona--down here it is a much more 'couples friendly' atmosphere.

    But laugher won't have to worry about looking cheap or bitchy, they went into VIP with a girl after sitting an hour That is about average time to wait and usually people who go into VIP for a while are remembered fondly and welcomed back to the same club, if the same girl is there especially.
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    If you really do not want to get up to the stage and tip then do not. What you could do is wait until the girl is making her rounds around the club and motion for her to come over. Just tell her you didn't get a chance when she was up on stage to make it over and you really liked her stage set. After that you could just say something like "maybe check back on us later on after we have settled in." I cannot tell you how many times I get off stage at my current club and while I'm walking back towards the dressing room a custy will stop and hand me a tip saying they didn't have a chance to get up there to tip me. Some are just really too shy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laugher View Post
    it's the walk to the stage that would freak me out! I'm very self conscious in that regard <snip> once our dancer sat down, I think I forgot there was a stage.
    -- I get it, laugher. As many people have pointed out, you'd be perfectly cool just setting the $$ down on the stage & walking back to your seat; but it's too much for you right now. Since you got along so well w/ the girl who sat w/ you, you could ask her to take it for you. Don't be surprised if the girls you tip find you later & say, "Aw, that was sweet! Don't be so shy!"

    I know you're nervous abt your looks or your poise or whatever, but remember that tipping the dancer gets you respect. If you send a few tips by messenger, girls will introduce themselves, & w/ any luck you'll be less self-conscious 'cuz you know they'll be sweet to you.

    Happy clubbing!

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