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    Default Thinking of trying nights

    Hey y'all.
    I work occasionally, Saturdays only, as I have a Mon.-Fri. 8-5 job. It's important that I am not discovered at the club, which is why I have been working days. The chances of anyone I know stumbling into the club at 6pm on a Saturday are pretty slim. Problem is, turns out, the chances of *anyone* stumbling into the club during day shift on Saturday are pretty slim.
    The most I have made is just over $150.
    The least I have made is $12, which happened yesterday, and prompted the current line of thinking.
    Do I re-retire, chalking it up as a big waste of time, or do I risk being discovered and try night shift?
    Again, I can only do Saturdays, which are probably the most likely nights to run into someone I know. I don't feel like the odds of people I know turning up at my club are extremely high, but the consequences could be ugly if it does happen.
    Thoughts?
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    Can you do something different with your hair and make up to make you look less recognizable in the club? Also, how is your club set up? Some clubs are more conducive to avoiding people than others because of their size/layout/stage skipping/general busy atmosphere. When it comes down to it, if you are "caught" by someone you know, you are also catching them there, so just something to keep in mind to take the pressure off!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    Can you do something different with your hair and make up to make you look less recognizable in the club? Also, how is your club set up? Some clubs are more conducive to avoiding people than others because of their size/layout/stage skipping/general busy atmosphere. When it comes down to it, if you are "caught" by someone you know, you are also catching them there, so just something to keep in mind to take the pressure off!
    Thanks Shanna.
    To change my appearance enough to be unrecognizable, I would basically have to wear a really long wig to cover a pretty large back tattoo... one that pretty much everyone I know has seen. We all know how comfortable that would be.
    My club is relatively small and, apart from VIP, it is wiiiide open. If I'm sitting there or on stage when someone walks in , I will be seen (great news under normal circumstances!). So, the only way to go undiscovered if someone I knew came in is if I saw them first. There is the possibility of them seeing me, me dipping immediately, and then DENYING with all my might...
    I have considered the concept of "I'm working, what are YOU doing here?"...
    I could just call it a wash and go on with life, but I really don't want to. I feel like I've got some life left in this industry, I seem to be very well received by the club staff, other dancers, and the few custies who *do* stagger in. I feel passionate about it. I just can't justify losing 6 hours away from my family if there's less than $100 involved.

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    can you use dermablend on your tattoo or use a tight fitting long sleeved cover that has an open front? You can still take off a halter style top. something like this


    I searched open front cardigan.

    depending on the rules at your club you could probably get away with also have a cute small underbust to cover the tattoo if it comes further down your back. So you can still show off your boobs, look cute, and hide your tattoo.

    *stolen from AutumnAmbrosia*

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    ^Using dermablend on a large tattoo is a huge pain, especially if it's a back tattoo, as you often need help to fully apply the makeup :/ I agree that some creative wardrobe choices could help to hide the tattoo if someone known is sighted.

    For me, working near where people I knew/didn't want to see in the club lived was very stressful (especially on a busy night). I considered my "chances" each night, and I double-took often. From what I recall, you are in an area where there's only one decent club. I'm not sure what that means in your book, but for me, going to a club that was far enough away so as to be comfortable meant changing my 20-minute commute to a 45-minute one with the huge likelihood of that becoming a 1.5+ hour trip one-way in traffic. It was worth it, and I think if you have a good club that is an hourish away, you will prefer working there Saturday night to wondering if you're going to make $12 at your closer club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tuesdaymarie View Post
    ^Using dermablend on a large tattoo is a huge pain, especially if it's a back tattoo, as you often need help to fully apply the makeup :/ I agree that some creative wardrobe choices could help to hide the tattoo if someone known is sighted.

    For me, working near where people I knew/didn't want to see in the club lived was very stressful (especially on a busy night). I considered my "chances" each night, and I double-took often. From what I recall, you are in an area where there's only one decent club. I'm not sure what that means in your book, but for me, going to a club that was far enough away so as to be comfortable meant changing my 20-minute commute to a 45-minute one with the huge likelihood of that becoming a 1.5+ hour trip one-way in traffic. It was worth it, and I think if you have a good club that is an hourish away, you will prefer working there Saturday night to wondering if you're going to make $12 at your closer club.
    Thanks Tuesday... I actually did work a few shifts at another location of my home club, in a nearby city... by "nearby" I mean about an hour drive, which is absolutely fine with me during the day, but not in the middle of the night... it is a loooong, dark stretch of nothing but highway & drunks between that club and my house. Add to that the fact that my husband and I only have one car, so if I were to break down or something, he couldn't come rescue me... I just don't feel safe driving home from there in the middle of the night. A drop off/ pick up situation won't work, either, because he'd have to wake up our sleeping toddler at 2am, load her sweet sleepy self into the car, and take her on a 2-hour tour to pick up mommy. Nope... Their day shift isn't any better than the one at my home club.
    The city "my club" is in is rather small, so I'm just as likely to be discovered at one club as at another. It's a 10-15 minute drive between any of them.
    It's really gonna come down to damage control upon being discovered (god forbid), avoiding being discovered in the first place, or just hanging it up altogether.

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    Hey Freckles, a lot of the posts have some pretty good advice. I would recommend a small stripper vest to hide the tattoo. I myself tend to rotate around clubs and one of the clubs I work at is near my home, and it sucks because I have been recognized on a couple of occasions. One regular in a club asked me if I was so and so, and I just denied it basically. He didn't say anything after that. And anyway, I know where he is so I could just tattle tale on his wife.

    To remedy this I wear a ton of makeup, false eyelashes, lots of eye shadow, the works. I basically try to do something like drag queen makeup. A wig could also work out for you if you could pull it off, I recommend getting a lace front wig. Or maybe long hair extensions to cover the tattoo since I know wigs aren't the most comfortable things in the world.

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    You can really alter your appearance with makeup to the point of being unrecognizable. There's lots of YouTube videos on it. Wear a wig or extensions too.

    I would be more inclined to think a wide open club gives you a better chance at spotting people farther away (and getting away) before they see you... rather than walking around a corner and right into someone. That was my experience, anyway.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    You can really alter your appearance with makeup to the point of being unrecognizable. There's lots of YouTube videos on it. Wear a wig or extensions too.

    I would be more inclined to think a wide open club gives you a better chance at spotting people farther away (and getting away) before they see you... rather than walking around a corner and right into someone. That was my experience, anyway.
    ^ That's kinda what I'm thinking... unless I *happen* to be onstage *if* someone I know walks in, I'm probably good... most people I know are not really strip club types, anyway. I would not be surprised to see maybe one of the vendors who visits my day job... but I could easily talk them into keeping my secret... aaaand dropping loot on me, as they all love to linger & flirt with me at work. If they told anyone at work, I'd just deny like crazy.

    I just worry too much sometimes, I think.

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    ^It's totally normal to worry and be a bit paranoid about this sort of thing! I think it's safe to say that most of us have been there. I also think that you'll mostly be fine as long as you take precautions to make yourself look different and have a getaway plan (get on the manager's/DJ's good side so you can either leave or avoid stage if someone you know walks in). I've totally seen girls just bounce from the stage if they saw someone they know come in, so I think that's also forgivable when it comes down to it!

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    Who particularly are you afraid of bumping into? (Family, friends, co-workers, neighbors- all of the above?) Seems like depending on the relationship alters how it would be handled. It sounds like a fine line to toe between being prepared enough to have a game plan on how to handle it (IF it happens) and not having to feel so paranoid all night that you can't find your groove. Strip clubs are designed to be disorienting so keep in mind that (even with a wide open lay out) there's a good chance you'll spot them before they spot you. If they later mention it to you or others close to you denial sounds good (I mean, between the lighting and booze how can they even be sure of who/what they saw?) If it did come up turning it back on them should work, "I'd like to hear more about this- what strip club was it you said YOU went to??"
    While I certainly don't want everyone knowing my business, at the end of the day I'm very comfortable with what I do and if anyone else were to have a problem with it- that is their problem. I've had a few run ins (one where I was actually coming in in my street clothes and bumped right into an unsavory neighbor...eh.) Personally, it sounds worth it to me for you to work a night shift. The money should be better & the club busy enough to disappear into. When I have bumped into folks I know (mostly neighbors) I've taken a very light hearted approach to it, making it seems not a big deal for them or for me. If I knew they had people who would disapprove (such as a muslim guy I knew) I'd playfully add in some "I won't tell if you don't"
    At the end of the day- what we are doing is not horrible & while I understand the precautions- our job is to entertain people, not to enlighten societies puritanical morality. Let us know how it goes for you!

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    Is stage a big part of your money ? Can you pay the DJ to just not put you on stage at all?

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    Quote Originally Posted by janesays22 View Post
    Who particularly are you afraid of bumping into? (Family, friends, co-workers, neighbors- all of the above?) Seems like depending on the relationship alters how it would be handled. It sounds like a fine line to toe between being prepared enough to have a game plan on how to handle it (IF it happens) and not having to feel so paranoid all night that you can't find your groove. Strip clubs are designed to be disorienting so keep in mind that (even with a wide open lay out) there's a good chance you'll spot them before they spot you. If they later mention it to you or others close to you denial sounds good (I mean, between the lighting and booze how can they even be sure of who/what they saw?) If it did come up turning it back on them should work, "I'd like to hear more about this- what strip club was it you said YOU went to??"
    While I certainly don't want everyone knowing my business, at the end of the day I'm very comfortable with what I do and if anyone else were to have a problem with it- that is their problem. I've had a few run ins (one where I was actually coming in in my street clothes and bumped right into an unsavory neighbor...eh.) Personally, it sounds worth it to me for you to work a night shift. The money should be better & the club busy enough to disappear into. When I have bumped into folks I know (mostly neighbors) I've taken a very light hearted approach to it, making it seems not a big deal for them or for me. If I knew they had people who would disapprove (such as a muslim guy I knew) I'd playfully add in some "I won't tell if you don't"
    At the end of the day- what we are doing is not horrible & while I understand the precautions- our job is to entertain people, not to enlighten societies puritanical morality. Let us know how it goes for you!
    ...My son's grudge-holding father or any of his friends, my co-workers from the day job... that's really it. My son is 12, so I really don't want him to know about this (now), and if his father knew, he is just evil & vindictive enough to tell my son, just to start mess. That would hurt my son, and I don't want my son to hurt, ever, obviously.

    I haven't the first hang-up about stripping, and I think the stigma attached to it is certainly outdated and unreasonable. But, some higher-ups at my (pretty gravy) day job might disagree... to the point of removing me from said job.

    I can't just quit the day job and strip full-time, as I am 39, so yeah...

    What I may do is eeeeease into nights by just going in and staying a little later to start- say, 3 to 9, then 4 to 10, and so on... just see how it feels as I go.

    Thank you all for your great thoughts!

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    Quote Originally Posted by arielbriel View Post
    Is stage a big part of your money ? Can you pay the DJ to just not put you on stage at all?
    Stage is not a big part of my money (usually). I believe the only way I'm getting out of going on stage when it's my turn is by being in VIP. But, I would not hesitate to RUN off if I spotted someone, and talk about it with the staff later if necessary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by freckles View Post
    But, I would not hesitate to RUN off if I spotted someone, and talk about it with the staff later if necessary.
    Yeah, that was my stance! Management is generally pretty understanding of that, at least in my experiences.

    But I totally feel your paranoia, I thought I spotted someone once (a friend who I have a huge crush on) and stood there like "Oh shit. What do I do?" I ended up deciding to just walk over and be all "Well, well, what are YOU doing here?" and have both of us be surprised. (It wasn't him anyway though)

    Sometimes it's better to just own it. If they're gonna give you shit for working there, you can give them shit for patronizing the place!
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