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    Hey what's a nice way to say, "Thx for the ONE dance but I need to keep working & can't sit with you for hours for $20, bro..."? I think I hurt someone's feelings last night... I wouldn't care if it was someone random but he's a sweetie, a 1 or 2 dance regular (hey that's SOME cash!) & I actually enjoy him/his company. What should I say next time that's a bit softer & not as harsh sounding?

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    I used to have a regular who would come in for like two or three dances. He usually came in right when we opened and no one else was there but if other customers were in the club I would say after talking for a bit "Thank you SO much it was so nice seeing you but I really have to get back to work or I'll get in trouble, sorry!" well something like that haha just act REALLY apologetic and genuine and they usually understand.

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    I would usually say something like "It's been really nice seeing you, but I promised 'so-and-so' (and then point somewhere in the club) that I'd go say hi to him. Have a great night!" Regardless of whether you actually see someone you know or not, you can now excuse yourself to walk across the club and start talking to someone else.
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    Default Re: What's a nice way to say...

    IME it's pretty standard to say goodbye and leave a customer once you've finished up with dances/VIP/the money has stopped flowing, and I think most customers realize that. Next time you finish your dance(s), kiss him on the cheek, tell him you can't wait to see him again, and go off your merry way. That way you totally avoid having to awkwardly come up with an excuse to leave, because coming out from the back/dance room is prime time to part ways.

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    Check out the blue side of sw, they DO understand it is a business and your time is worth cash. Make sure you fully understand that, too! He pays for attention, you give it to him and play the fantasy role, if he doesn't there's nothing to feel bad about. If he's only getting one or two dances, do the deed, ask if he wants another, and if he refuses, end the dance, thank him for getting what he did and collect. It's only one or two, so not too much to sweat over. If you want to secure him for those dances in the future, just smile, wave, or touch his shoulder when you walk by him. He'll appreciate it all the same. Ask him later in the night if he's ready to play again without investing any time actually sitting on his lap. Sounds like he just needs a little training on sc etiquette. Good luck!
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    I tell em you gotta pay to play. No bullshit. I don't have "This bitch works for free" tatted on me and I don't sugarcoat things either.
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    "Thanks for the dances! It's been sooo nice seeing you tonight, but I have to make as much money as possible today so I have to go make a few rounds, I'm sorry!"
    If he is really that nice of a customer, he should understand. Tell him that if he plans to stick around for a while, you'll check back with him later (to see if he wants more dances, lol). I know sometimes it isn't easy to let a guy down, especially if he is super nice and you always try to be as sweet as possible, but IME, expressing that you need to go make money is pretty good for letting him know that you can't just sit around and chat all night.

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    Something along the lines of this would let him down easy. There's NO point wasting time with him if he isn't a big spender or has already spent his quota for this evening .

    You: (dance has ended): "You look pretty comfy and I'm very comfortable too (and naked!)-why don't we spend some more time together *smile*?".
    Him: No thanks, let's go out into the club and have a drink.
    You (after asking him for another dance on the floor if you feel the need): "I'd love to spend some more time with you/it was great to see you, but I have to be on my way. The manager doesn't like it if we stay at one table too long, and you don't want me to get in trouble do you *puppy dog eyes*?.
    Him: "Oh, no. No, of course not. Um, see you next time then".
    You: " *hug or kiss him on the cheek* Great to see you/see you next time. Have a nice night, bye *walk away*"
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    (after you've finished the dance and are on the floor) "Well I'd love to stay and chat but I have to go on stage soon/check when my next stage is/freshen up. See you next week *smile, say goodbye, walk away and avoid/look busy*".
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    " oh man, i'd love to just sit here with you and relax/hang out but i gotta get up and go make some money tonight". i'll usually just stress the fact that its not that i don't like them, its just that i need to make as much cash as possible before they ask for my house fee, and they always understand.

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    Oh my, it's the moment when their illusion can come crashing down, isn't it? Whether it's been $20 or $200 worth of dances. "What, you're not gonna hang out with me if I'm not paying you? It was all about the money for you?"

    I only feel bad if the guy was soft-hearted, but even then, he should be able to understand that I can't miss out on future earnings just to hold his hand! Some guys really can get wrapped up in the illusion of it all tho...

    I used to feel obligated to stay with a guy after he'd pay for a lot of dances, but I now really agree with Shanna that the best time to part ways is when leaving the dance area. I might even say I have to go to the bathroom or see a friend.

    The only time I won't leave a guy is when I'm sure I can still squeeze quite a bit more out of him!

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    Honestly I smile and say "Well a girl's got to eat, so I have to go grab a dance! Was great to see you, let me know if you need anything else."

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