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    Default Why dont many escorts like seeing black/asian men?Pure racism or justified preference

    *Please tread carefully in this thread for obvious reasons*

    I'm a cam girl listed on Adultwork which offers a range of adult services, escorting being one of them.
    I like snooping around service providers profiles and I've found that almost all of them-bar eastern europeans- dont see black/asian men.
    Many say white gentlemen only. First thought that came to mind was that of pure discrimination and racism but then again the nature of this job you have the right to pick and choose who you're seeing as its your body.
    Even black women dont like seeing other black men so I think its not down to pure racism.

    Usual justifications are "theyre violent", "they dont pay" etc but I'm sure white clientele have done the exact same thing but they dont get generalised.
    Its like once an escort has a bad exp with someone from an ethnic minority thats it.
    Hardly fair....

    Ladies in this line of work what are your thoughts?

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    Default Re: Why dont many escorts like seeing black/asian men?Pure racism or justified prefer

    I think for an Eastern European woman would be even harder and more uncomfortable to see black or asian men, because we are not used to having them around, our countries lack this ethnic diversity which isn't necessarily a bad thing. A black man is likely to have a big cock which for many women is uncomfortable and hard work. As for Asian men - I have had some nice experiences with guys from countries like South Korea, but the problem I have had with most Asian men is that they always try and come close to your face and kiss you in the mouth even if you don't allow it. Which for me is really nasty and gross, kissing is very personal thing. Also, many women don't find the Asian guys particularly good-looking especially the Indian ones. Another problem may be the religion - the Muslims in general are not popular when it comes to respect towards women. So I can totally understand why a woman is put off by those.

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    Default Re: Why dont many escorts like seeing black/asian men?Pure racism or justified prefer

    A friend who escorts here in the states says that a good portion of black guys who come to see her are actually pimps. She's had some rough experiences and now puts no black guys on her posts. I'm not sure about the Asian thing though?
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    Default Re: Why dont many escorts like seeing black/asian men?Pure racism or justified prefer

    I never understood this either and I do not date black guys in my personal life. I wouldn't even consider it. Where I live the boards have a lot of black guys on them. They gets really whiny about NBA (no blacks allowed) providers. I asked one who I talk to a lot why she doesn't see them. She said they walk through the door, get down to business and don't stop until time is up. She is right mostly. Some like GFE, chatting, etc. My junk was EFFED last week because of this. I guess we can both call ourselves mid-tier price range--400ish.

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    bad experiences. what it all boils down to. probably many. i know there are certain ethnicities that i don't like dancing for because of MANY horrible experiences. i try to give each one a new chance but they've all proved me right about being disrespectful towards women, looking for extras for cheap, and sometimes even trying to force more contact than im comfortable with.

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    Default Re: Why dont many escorts like seeing black/asian men?Pure racism or justified prefer

    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    bad experiences. what it all boils down to. probably many. i know there are certain ethnicities that i don't like dancing for because of MANY horrible experiences. i try to give each one a new chance but they've all proved me right about being disrespectful towards women, looking for extras for cheap, and sometimes even trying to force more contact than im comfortable with.
    This. I'm not an escort and never was but while dancing I tried to avoid certain ethnic groups because of bad experiences. Everyone has their preferences. For example I tend to prefer to date Hispanic or Latin men and my date history shows this.

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    In my personal experience, eastern Indians and some Europeans had a "musky" scent. Each girl will have different experiences. Socio-economic status and cultural background is what's most important. Most times you can get a feel by the phone conversation, writing style etc. I've had good and bad in each ethnicity.

    Just my two cents..

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    Quote Originally Posted by nubienneAW View Post
    *Please tread carefully in this thread for obvious reasons*

    I'm a cam girl listed on Adultwork which offers a range of adult services, escorting being one of them.
    I like snooping around service providers profiles and I've found that almost all of them-bar eastern europeans- dont see black/asian men.
    Many say white gentlemen only. First thought that came to mind was that of pure discrimination and racism but then again the nature of this job you have the right to pick and choose who you're seeing as its your body.
    Even black women dont like seeing other black men so I think its not down to pure racism.

    Usual justifications are "theyre violent", "they dont pay" etc but I'm sure white clientele have done the exact same thing but they dont get generalised.
    Its like once an escort has a bad exp with someone from an ethnic minority thats it.
    Hardly fair....

    Ladies in this line of work what are your thoughts?
    I can answer this Nubienne...although I am not a escort but as a pso I try not pick black men or latin men even though I date them in real life. My best customers are white and wealthy men who know what they want. Second are Asian men of taste and leisure who have dark fantasies. I would say that I had tons of problems with latinos and black men when they do not get what they want. When I work for companies such as USlove.com; Black and Latino men would complain about my voice, my character's appearance, and even the fantasy they pick. The black men are openly brutal and harsh to me or they call my supervisor when I do not perform for their liking. The Latinos are just nasty when I use even one wrong word in Spanish to the point where I can not even offer Spanish services on USLove.com no more. That service was for the Spaniards who love my Spanish fantasies. Yet when someone from Mexico calls....I just do not want to speak Spanish to them. On Niteflirt, black men have been opening racist to my Asian character because I asked them to pay for her panties that they requested. The Latinos are very cruel to my Indian character when they call. Yet, I would say that I also try not to have Middle Eastern men call me either because they act quite stupid on the phone with me but they give big tips. However, I would say you want to avoid Germans,Russians,and Polish men if you provide voice services on Second Life because they are cheap and stupid. My point is that in my personal life...I do not mind dating a Latino or black man but I do not want them as customers as a PSO. Now I have one black customer for black character on Niteflirt but I speak papimento to him and it is okay because I am fluent in that language. But my point is there are some men on earth you want to avoid as adult provider. My experience might be different from other peoples but I want to avoid Latinos, Black men, and Middle Eastern Men as pso. Also I want to avoid Germans, Russians, and Polish men on Second Life as voice escort because they are cheap and act very stupid when I speak them. I hope this helps No, I am not a racist by the way....I am just stating the facts of this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MomoMania View Post
    A friend who escorts here in the states says that a good portion of black guys who come to see her are actually pimps. She's had some rough experiences and now puts no black guys on her posts. I'm not sure about the Asian thing though?
    Momo, I am not shocked by this at all. As a PSO; I even had to do that which is sad because I love black and Latino men but they are cruel, brutal, and harsh on the phone. I had to block many of them on Niteflirt and tell companies like USLove.com...I will not accept them. I do not like them calling bitches and sluts out of left field. Strangely, I never had a problem with Asians as a PSO but Middle Eastern Men are just as brutal as black men yet they leave me big tips after being so cruel

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    Not an escort, but I immediately thought about the pimp thing. In some of the clubs I've worked in I have met pimps or they had a wing girl try to go after me and they have all been black.

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    I am an older escort who has a mid-range price point . The African-American gentlemen whom I have seen have been very friendly and well-mannered. In addition, I adore Asian men, I am attracted to many of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fragelica View Post
    I am an older escort who has a mid-range price point . The African-American gentlemen whom I have seen have been very friendly and well-mannered. In addition, I adore Asian men, I am attracted to many of them.
    Fragelica,your experience sounds lovely and wonderful I wished I had that experience with them as a pso but no Maybe my luck will change with them since I love them so much

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    ONE thing that is very important with this is that we should never push or go over boundaries we do not want to do or aren't comfortable. It will end up eating at you and really hurt later. Nothing is worth it. Do whatever you want. If you don't want people to know you have a NBA policy have a very detailed booking form or just ask race. Big deal.

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    I am not an escort but am considering it. I did do body rubs for years and now only perform a regular massage. Even when I was doing body rubs I specifically stated no black men. (I am black) my reason for this was 1. I didn't want to run into anyone I know 2. I don't date black men personally. I had a customer literally almost make me shit my pants when he arrived at my door and I looked out the peephole and seen his black ass. I was like "damn he better not piss me off." Well.....he talked to damn much, brought his own music some Sade but I have my own cd that is timed so I know when to flip you over like a pancake. I don't have a clock so I had to keep checking my phone for the time because all that talking was throwing me off. Bottom line for me I just don't want to be bothered.

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    Another thing is that I do not like when Italians call me at USLove.com....they are some of the worst customers out of the Europeans when it comes to phone sex ever. They love playing on the phone, hanging up, calling tons of times to make appointments with me and not showing up, and just talking to damn much Plus two Italians did this since I have worked at USLOVE.com

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    Whoah so many racist comments on this thread! My answer would be: because they are racist.

    I have had bad experiences with clients of every race and good experiences with clients of every race. I have had the most bad experiences with caucasian men (and I am caucasian). So should I blacklist caucasians? Lol! Africa is a huge continent with many diverse cultures, so is Europe and Asia. To judge based on race is ignorant. To judge based on race is the very definition of racism. A dick is a dick and he can be any colour, shape or size.

    No matter how many bad experiences we have had, it is a really tiny slice of the overall experience pie and subjective experiences should not inform objective thought.

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    People can choose to see whomever they want. I am not an escort but I tend to stick to my "target demographic" which is young white guys between 18-35. Those are the ones I consistently make money off of ITC. Black men and Latinos very seldom are interested in me. There is the occasional oddball, but they tend to be upper class professional black men that are somewhat older. I have no experiences with Asians save one: When I was wearing the honey blonde wig I had a young corporate type buy a bunch of dances and request that I smother him with my tits. At the end he was very still and catatonic. I was scared that I had killed him until I looked down. "Cleanup in aisle !!!"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ad_Astra View Post
    Whoah so many racist comments on this thread! My answer would be: because they are racist.

    I have had bad experiences with clients of every race and good experiences with clients of every race. I have had the most bad experiences with caucasian men (and I am caucasian). So should I blacklist caucasians? Lol! Africa is a huge continent with many diverse cultures, so is Europe and Asia. To judge based on race is ignorant. To judge based on race is the very definition of racism. A dick is a dick and he can be any colour, shape or size.

    No matter how many bad experiences we have had, it is a really tiny slice of the overall experience pie and subjective experiences should not inform objective thought.
    Girl, that is your opinion. I am not racist because I love black men and other men of color. However, they do not make great customers for me most of the time. Nor have Italians been great customers for me when I work as PSO. On Second Life, some Europeans such as Germans, Russians, or Polish men are not the best customers when it comes to it voice escorting. It is just "target demographic" and everyone's experience is different. Some women have better luck with Latinos, African-Americans, Asian men, and etc.. Some women do not have such great luck with them Frankly, I wished I had great luck with every man that calls me up but that is not the case. Plus no one on here was speaking of racial hatred. Everyone was just talking about their target demographic and their experience

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    ^Yeah. If I were an escort I'd be the same way. My experiences dancing, it wasn't really so much being racist but just observation. 99% of the time one demographic may good to me, and the other one may be horrible to me. For example, if I were an escort I would definitely not want to deal with FOB Indian guys because I do not want to be manhandled. Maybe I'm just unlucky, but every (and I mean every) single customer from that demographic that I had to deal with, I had to deal with them manhandling me and being an ass (unless they were born here or have lived here for a while). So I wouldn't want to take an additional risk especially working a job that would possibly increase my vulnerability.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    Girl, that is your opinion. I am not racist because I love black men and other men of color. However, they do not make great customers for me most of the time. Nor have Italians been great customers for me when I work as PSO. On Second Life, some Europeans such as Germans, Russians, or Polish men are not the best customers when it comes to it voice escorting. It is just "target demographic" and everyone's experience is different. Some women have better luck with Latinos, African-Americans, Asian men, and etc.. Some women do not have such great luck with them Frankly, I wished I had great luck with every man that calls me up but that is not the case. Plus no one on here was speaking of racial hatred. Everyone was just talking about their target demographic and their experience
    Definition of racism: (from free dictionary)
    n.
    1. The belief that race accounts for differences in human character or ability and that a particular race is superior to others.
    2. Discrimination or prejudice based on race.

    No girl, it is not my opinion. Discriminating based on race is racist. That's a fact.

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    i think its more about culture than race. some cultures ARE more disrespectful to women and harder to deal with for a sex worker. its not about the color of their skin its about what they were taught growing up.


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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    i think its more about culture than race. some cultures ARE more disrespectful to women and harder to deal with for a sex worker. its not about the color of their skin its about what they were taught growing up.
    I agree 100 percent , Simone87. I think that this thread is great because it allows sex workers to discuss the different types of men they deal with. Some cultures are hard to deal with than others for some of the ladies including me. But that is okay because for me...it does not effect my dating life

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    I've noticed the common thread with all the black guys that like me: They all have glasses. Last night it was dead except for a few customers. Our resident MILF came in to the DR where I was sulking and teased me. "A bunch of black guys walked in. And no, none of them have glasses!"
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    If I were an escort, I wouldn't want any *young* black males as clients either. I'm black and I grew up around them. The only time they switch up acts is when they're around their parents. I love the older black men, like wayyyy older.

    I'm not racist against my own race lmao.

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    I can only speak for myself but the reason I do not see Black men is because there have to been way to many brushes with danger when it comes to them. Plus a lot of the black men that call act like they do not know the difference between a massage and an escort service. They are very cheap and can be very rude which is why I tend to stick to my main demographic which is older (35 +) white men and foreigners from various European countries such as Italy ,France, UK, Portugal, etc. And it’s not just Black men but Hispanic men, Indian men, and Middle Eastern men as well who can be very aggressive but I can usually handle those clowns and put them in their place. I do see Asians as well and they tend to be very respectful and generous but again that is just my experience.

    Besides it is called a preference because just like these jackass men that have preferences ie. I want a tall, blonde, etc I can have preferences too and sooo sorry if men don't like it but it goes both ways. Like in personal life I also have a preference for White and European men.

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