Hi all I was trying to find a thread to post this and didn't really see any general advice threads so please feel free to tell me where to post next time. This may even be kept open for others to post in I am not sure. I have a huge dilemma and am looking for some smart women who know how to make decisions help me out here. I know this indefinitely will be my call but I need help so I am hoping for some great responses.
I did not know my dad until I was 13 years old at the time my mother received child support from himwhen she found out he was my dad. He sent a hefty check a little over 900 dollars a month. My mom was with my stepdad and I moved from my grandmas at age 5 to be with her because I didn't know here and as a kid wanted to. So anyway sorry lol but my mom and stepdad spent a majority of my money not on me. I can admit I got most of what I wanted but if I asked for something it was met with "Well we might can or maybe or were broke. When no we were far from broke.
I never asked for much maybe some clothes and books and a computer once with games. That is the most expensive thing I ever asked for and got. My mom left my step dad when I was 13. She got on drugs walking streets and I started staying with my friends family who took me in and treated me great.I turned 15 and quit school the friends parents were not happy with that decision. I wanted to work not go to school I wanted a home I wanted to start a family. I left them and went to stay with my mom at a trap/crack house that eventually got shot up whilst I was under my bed. So I became homeless when I was 15 and stayed with friends here or there sometimes in parks !!
So my dad still sent checks this whole time to my mom that I never seen. He offered me to live with him but I refused because I did not know him, how was I gonna live with a guy that I did not know and I didn't even like eating in front of people. He said I could not smoke cigarettes there at all I had been smoking since age 13 so my cigs kept and still do keep me sane!! So he threatened to turn my mom in I didn't want her to go to prison so I lied and told him she was giving me the money. At 18 I got pregnant by a 28 year old junkie/pos and at the time he was ok he stopped a few drugs for me but not pain pills.
The reason I stayed with him while he was on pills is because we had a child and his family bought a home for him for us to stay. I loved having a home. He started hitting me and then things got bad and he started lying not paying bills on time getting them turned off, more drugs and then I left and went to my moms who at this time is working and stable.
He took warrants out on me for shit that did not happen I got probation completed it and he also took temp custody of my daughter. I had no lawyer so I decided to settle for joint custody, I have our daughter one extra day than him and his narcissistic mother who in herself is a whole different bad story lmao.Anyway I am currently saving to go for full custody since he is screwing up and headed back to prison anyway so I hope camming will not affect my chances on that advice on that subject is appreciated as well!! The custody/camming thing. My main thing is my dad is rich and he saw that I married into a fucked up family so he bought me a house!! For me and my child to have somewhere when he dies cause he is 81!! Well I like the house its a brick 3 bedroom 1 bath I am currently renovating it as it is older. I love it here my girl loves it!! I have one issue my boyfriend!
have been with him for two years since my husband and I am also saving to divorce my ex when I go for custody.Then I plan on marrying the man I am with and I want to have another child with him. He is the best guy I have ever been with seriously.Anyway my dad thinks that I am like my mom I guess cause he really doesn't know me .He thinks because I work at night I should get a normal job I tell him i do qvc lol. Anyway thats all i hear from him is I am doing drugs or I need to go to bed at night like a normal person or get a regular daytime job. He told me no boys when I moved in but my man has been here hiding two years. He works when there is work which he does tree work and is going to law school in the next 4 years. Anyway camming is going great for me as well.
My dad has no idea and I try to bring up that I want a guy to stay with me he says well u need to be married and then move into his house . Thats crazy he gave me a house that i pay taxes on and alot mind you. He tells me it's mine I pay all the bills etc. The only thing I do not pay is rent. The rest of my bills with food is about a grand. My issue is I am tired of having my man hide my dad would never accept any guy I am with he says all my exs were junkies and thats not true only one was and I married him!! Like an idiot. Anyway my child starts school next year I would hate to have to pick her up and move her because if my dad ever catches my bf here he will kick us out. I also have my uncle living with me my uncle raised me with my great grandma since I was 5 then I moved. My uncle identifys more as my real dad and he is in my eyes. He is older he works and he pays me 500 a month and helps with anything I need for the most part.
Anyway so my dad knows my uncle is here btw. My dad says any man without their own house car and a buisness is a pos thats not true. My guy has a job that sometimes he cant work if its wet or theres no trees needing help. I am cool with that because he makes enough to support us through those times.
Im scared if I leave to go rent a home and then save to buy one later on that I may make the wrong decision leaving this one and I could own it and then the rented home I may have a bad month camming and need help and not be able to pay rent which I feel like I can afford and do it just fine I have a few backup things like dancing or friends to help.
I also know it will take me longer to own a home. I just can't keep paying taxes and now hes wanting insurance and its not even in my name and I cannot keep staying here with him acting like this he gave me the house if I knew it meant living by his rules of going to be at 8pm like he tells me to or not allowed to have my friends or boyfriend or my black stepdad over i would never have took this house. Please help what would u do live in restrictions and hiding unhappy or move and spend more for happiness but a unsecure future if things go wrong? Please help sorry so long !!!



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and no advice yet. Will some of you please read this I know it's long but I read long posts alot and help too. Please help guys
hon. We can only advise you based on what you tell us. You added a lot in your last four posts that we couldn't take into account b/c it wasn't there before.

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