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    Question What would You do if A neighbor tried To get too close? Your Opinions Please

    Thanks in advance for Your advice, and opinions.
    There's this new tenant in the hi-rise that started out by just saying hello, and making small talk. I live in a bldg.where if someone says more than 'hello', it's odd, because people keep to themselves, and I love it that way.
    Anyway, I was doing laundry in the community laundry room, she came in, and started chatting. I was her captive audience because I had 4 loads and I was going to be there quite a while.
    She was bragging about her 'sugar daddy', etc, I liked hearing about it, because I follow LOA=Law of Attraction, so It was good for me to hear that if a 50 year old woman could snag a sd, then I could too.
    It got weird for me when she asked which side of the bldg. I was on. and what my view was of. After I told her, she mentioned that she heard it was the best view, and told me she wanted to come over that night to see it! Huh?? NOO!!!
    I didn't know that's where she was going with her questions so was stumped. I quickly tried to change the subject, but she asked what floor I was on. I lied, and said I was busy, But when both of us got into the elevator, she saw what floor I got off on.
    I don't feel comfortable telling her to 'F..off,' (which I really want to do),because I will run into her again.
    I feel that she is such a pushy broad, and if I let her come over, she will become a pest. Keep in mind my front door is a few feet to where I cam. My sub-lease condo is so tiny that everything I own is out in the open.
    Your Suggestions how to handle her delicately.
    Thanks, Glam
    **Addendum to add~ Thanks everyone for Your suggestions. I wrote the above much earlier today, just before I logged on to try to do some camming before my Dr's appt. I want to point out that she is not lonely and looking for a friend- I know this because I saw her in the supermarket a few weeks ago, and she totally blew me off, when her phone rang.(I ease dropped, and she was just talking to her friend about the weather). Also, when she first moved in, and introduced herself, I told her that I have a couple of other filepino friends I could introduce her to. She said she was too busy.
    I believe she is trying to get in here to have me admit that I am subleasing this condo from my friend(it is illegal to do that under the strict HOA's). You can't even have people sleep over for more than 3 days. My friend and I had to pay some 'hush' money just so I could get in.
    There is a waiting list for these condos, because most of the tenants stay here until they die, and most hand it down to their children.
    My friend bought this unit many years ago, with part of her inheritance, but now these tiny units sell for 2.5 million, and up, and the HOA"S are $2000 per month. When I mentioned to her in the laundry room, that she should just move to this side of the bldg., she told me about the waiting list.
    All she needs is for me to slip up and confide in her, and My friend loses this place, and I'm out on my ass. I'm sure she already knows this because she probably pumped the night guard for info. he's a big blabbermouth.
    I'm just going to have to use the "I'm really busy" excuse, every time I see her, and hope for the best.
    As far as her knocking at my door, I just don't want her to hear any of my 'obscenities' that I use while camming. I already have a huge 'mover's blanket against the door, but most of the surrounding neighbors are cool, and mind their own business.
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    Default Re: What would You do if A neighbor tried To get too close? Your Opinions Please

    Some neighbors can be like that, no boundaries.

    Straight up tell her, I rarely have guest & relish my privacy. Perhaps we can do coffee at a shop down the street & such, but have a busy schedule.

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    Default Re: What would You do if A neighbor tried To get too close? Your Opinions Please

    Thanks Sam! I was thinking of the privacy thing, but then she might be nosy and listen outside of my door. I'm not being paranoid, I had a maintenance guy do that here a few months ago.
    As far a coffee, I don't like her, and don't want to spend any social time with her.

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    Default Re: What would You do if A neighbor tried To get too close? Your Opinions Please

    That is strange. It does sound very suspicious and pushy. Maybe she knows you do camming and she does too and she wants to talk about it or something? I would just try to avoid her next time. Give her one word answers and act disinterested. Maybe she'll get the idea.

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    ^^could be. the doormen here are big blabbermouths, so she could have got that info from one of them. I doubt that she cams, although You never know. I know where she works(which she says is only 3 days per week), now that she has her sugar daddy. Either way, no good could come of it, by getting to know her. I like to 'keep my eye on the ball', and focus on work right now.

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    Default Re: What would You do if A neighbor tried To get too close? Your Opinions Please

    Tell her you have a busy schedule because you don't have a sugar daddy and you rarely have time to socialize, and if she continues to be pushy afterwards, and you are feeling brave, call her out on it. Say you find it rude and off putting that she keeps insisting despite your boundaries. I find that more honest and less rude than giving her short, uninterested answers, and she might understand that message better than subtleties.

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    There are people in the world so lonely & don't understand they are being pushy. Tell straight up, I'm busy & you are obnoxious. She probably has no clue what you do most females especially in their 50s dont look at cam sites looking for their neighbors on there. LOL

    Men, see a sexy female & will stalk them.

    I had a neighbor who was in her 50s & just a mess, christian God spewing talk everyone's ears off with a cocaine dealing boyfriend. She stalked all the neighbors just not me & the complex asked her to move out. Constantly talking & over baring not to mention over sharing.

    She probably pesters all the neighbors.

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    ^^ Thanks,Good One Blue! I wouldn't be lying by telling her that I don't have time because I don't have a Sugar Daddy. Couldn't help noticing that while I was listening to her stories of glory, that in just a few hours my mobile phone would be turned off because I didn't have the funds, or that I can't drive my car because I don't have the money to pay for the repairs (4 bad tires being one of them). Or that I haven't been able to give my mom (who has Alzheimer's), any money for the past 2 months.
    Or that I had to ask my dr. to split the cost of my visit today into 2 pymts. again, because I don't have the money right now.

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    I would not worry about her, she does not matter in your life. Be kind, say thanks, but no thanks I am busy. Talk to her if you want in the laundry room again, but all it takes for a woman to back off is a no thank you, I am busy. No need to lie or anything. She is being friendly and probably looking to make a friend. We can turn this woman any way you want, but I rarely worry about women being pushy.
    If you want just say hi when you see her and then drop the eye contact and continue doing something, just like you are... busy.
    If she ever knocks on your door, ignore her. She will let you know she knocked on your door, she knocks again, ignore her again. She will catch on.

    To not show an interest is so very easy. Smart people then back off. Stupid people keep on, and get their ass in trouble.
    Show no interest in being her friend, she will catch on, go away. Move on to the next perhaps.

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    I'm usually a very nice person (honestly I am Lol) but when someone gets pushy with me, I tend to be a bit rude. I was in a similar situation before and I just started to snub the person. I wouldn't acknowledge her when she walked in the same room. If she tried to talk to me or ask questions, I'd give one word responses, look away and continue what I was doing.

    Maybe try that approach and if she asks if you want to get together say "no thanks" and walk away and keep that up for as long as she keeps asking.

    Most people take hints. The pushy ones usually need it put in their face a bit more.

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    She could be a camgirl herself. I'm in my 50's. But if I saw my neighbor on cam I would certainly not stalk her

    I would just ignore her as much as possible. Be short and sweet, with one word answers. Tell her you are running late for something next time she stops you. Hopefully she will get the hint.
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    Ugh. I'm really nice but when people are pushy I'm downright rude. But I sense that you don't want to create any animosity with her b/c of what you do. And most likely she's going to corner you in the laundry room again. Maybe you could tell her kinda shyly that you have a very mild form of asbergers or suffer a mild anxiety disorder and feel uncomfortable talking at length with people. People coming over is toooo much for you.
    It sucks you're practically camming by your front door. Is there something you can stick under your doormat that would make some sort of noise to let you know someone is standing there?( I'm thinking bubble wrap is kinda flat might fit. Or some kind of crinkle paper.

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    I'd definitely be suspicious if someone did that to me. I'd think that maybe they want to have dirt on me.

    If you run into her again, do a small figure out her laundry schedule (and/or other schedules) and work around that lol. That's what I'd do. But then, I usually try to avoid people I don't like, until they drive me nuts and I end up being straight up (nicely) with them.

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    Sometimes with people like this, you need to be honest and up front about things, leaving them NO chance to misinterpret what you want.
    I can be a little passive aggressive about stuff like this, and over time Ive realized it saves me a lot of awkwardness and drama just to plain and simply tell people Im not interested (or dont have time) in spending time with them.

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    50 year old lady with a SD, telling all of her business to a stranger, inviting herself over...she sounds like one of those toxic needy leechy people to me. People like her don't deserve to be put down lightly.

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    I was thinking too. Maybe relentlessly question her so she can't get a word in. Maybe she'll start to avoid you!

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    ^^ Good One! I'll try that when I run into her again.

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