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    Default Dancing with extreme anxiety/ trying not to drink

    When I first started dancing a couple years ago, I had read up on hustle hut before hand, went in and was an unstoppable force. I have always had anxiety, but for some reason I was always busy and able to deal with it. The club I was working at quickly declined in business, so as a result I started drinking more with the regulars who would buy me drinks. I figured if I wasn't making money, at least I'd get drunk. I ended up quitting that club, as I was making horrible money, and now travel to one twice the distance which has a better clientele that actually spends money. I've only been there a couple weeks, and I realize that the same issues are coming up again...especially days I work day shift and there's not much to do. I have told my manager that I would prefer nights since the lure of alcohol isn't as strong when it's busy, but now I'm having anxiety just going into the place. The last time I was there I made an ass out of myself and missed my stage set, so I'm not looking forward to going back. I think about going and I have extreme anxiety. I never used to have to drink to work. In fact I would only have 1-3 drinks per shift only if a guy was taking me to a champagne room or tipping me to sit and drink with him. I made this a strict rule, but now I'm finding it very hard to just go in knowing I cannot drink to cover up my anxiety. I know I can make much more money sober, as when I'm drinking all sales tactics go out the window. I love dancing, the flexibility of scheduling, and the easy, quick cash. I have plans for furthering my education as well as modeling and I don't want these issues to get in the way of my goals. Quitting is not an option, but I find myself finding excuses this week not to go in. Has anyone else dealt with this?

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    Default Re: Dancing with extreme anxiety/ trying not to drink

    Read my posts lol i too feel this way.. If this is what calms you down theres nothing wrong with drinking but when you feel like your getting too drunk or feel out of it ask for a glass of wwater. I would say i drink about 5--0 drinks a night on bad nights i would rink water in between i know you dont think o it that way you just want the next drink or you can take a bump when your getting drunk to wake u up a bit and i mean one bump dont over do it lol... Then start drinking again.

    Oo glad im not the only one

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    Not really the answer I was looking for as I don't want to drink at all or do drugs....which is part of my problem. I have an addictive personality.

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    Default Re: Dancing with extreme anxiety/ trying not to drink

    Yes I know exactly what you mean. I had so much anxiety about being recognized and being a stripper in general that I drank to relax pretty much every shift. Then I realized I had to get help with making sense of my feelings. Or else risk losing out on money (and my health from drinking too much).

    I also tried medication that helped too.

    You have to figure out WHY you are having anxiety to be able to treat the symptoms. Then you can focus on treating your anxiety.

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    Go to your local vitamin shop and invest in magnesium citrate. It helps with anxiety. Drinking/doing drugs to deal with personal issues is never the right thing to do and will have long-term consequences if it becomes a pattern.
    Don't take more than the recommended dose or you'll get diarrhea. Take it an hour or so before your shift. Try taking it before you have to work to see how/what dosage works for you. My CAHM professor, who is an RN and hospital dietician, recommended this in class the other day for anxiety. It's commonly prescribed in alternative medicine. It's worth a shot, and also helps with sleep problems.
    As far as alcoholism, programs like Al-anon are great. You might need a support group to encourage you and keep you from falling off the wagon at work and to hold you accountable, and there's no shame in that. My dad didn't have much progress with his drinking until he joined AA. It really makes all the difference.

    Also, treat yourself to a nice vacation as often as necessary. If I don't take two-week long breaks a couple times a year, I start to suffer at work. I won't wanna talk to customers, and I dread going in. Breaks are of utmost importance!
    There is no reason to take it up the ass and then act all butthurt.
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    Go to therapy.

    Seriously, I have pretty bad social anxiety. I'm always better on paper, over email/text, etc.
    I kind of freak out (on the inside, of course) in social situations. The root of your problem is a social anxiety, and I promise you that therapy will be one of the best decisions you ever make. The cost is worth it!

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