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    Angry other girls bashing you to other customers

    Im the new girl in my club and my second night about 7 buisness men came in from an office Christmas party. 3 dancers (including myself) were keeping them company, having fun, getting dances. All of a sudden I went to the bathroom and when I came back its like they would all back up as soon as I passed by. But one girl was ALWAYS by them. I really believe she was bad mouthing me to them. How do I handle this situation
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    Default Re: other girls bashing you to other customers

    There is really not a whole lot you can do short of cutting her tongue out, if that is really what happened. I would avoid trying to team up w/ other dancers until you establish yourself sm where & possibly start to develop a professional relationship w/ another dancer. It won't stop them talking smack but it will help you avoid the awkwardness of coming back to a table & being treated as you were.

    Otherwise, when I was sitting w/ a customer I didn't get up w/o a damn good reason, & a lot of that was to guard against cutthroat girls like the ones at your table.

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    Default Re: other girls bashing you to other customers

    That sucks.

    Bitches will be bitches!

    The longer you work there the sooner you will start to see who is who. If I was you I'd keep my distance and focus more on making money.

    Like aniela said, not much you can do this time, especially if you didn't hear or see her doing anything wrong. But if it becomes a habit then you may have to take action.

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    Default Re: other girls bashing you to other customers

    This has happened to me before, and I know because a customer told me. Funny thing was he actually ended up liking me more and bought some dances from me because she was trash talking me. Lol. You can't really do much in that situation. That's why I pretty much stick to myself and have only on rare occasions made friends dancing. The friends I have made I knew I could trust and were total sweethearts, but I've always been wary of anyone else. Just remember, karma's a bitch when you're a *unt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BarbieBite View Post
    I really believe she was bad mouthing me to them. How do I handle this situation
    Did you hear this from the customers or other dancers? If it is just you making assumptions, this kind of thinking can drive you crazy. Customers really don't give a shit about what other dancers think. If they like you, they will do whatever they want. If the customers are into gossip and rumors, then you are better off finding someone else to dance for, because he will probably spread untrue rumors about you anyway.

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    Here's the reality: many dancers are bitches (I'm being honest)and best bet is to not get close with most or all. I was always friendly to dancers but rarely friends (and yes there is a difference). Many dancers will backstab to make money.

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    It's possible this other dancer (or even dancers) where badmouthing you. It's not a very smart thing to do, because as djezcheeze's experience demonstrates, badmouthing another dancer just makes the dancer doing the talking look bad. Still, not all dancers are smart and some are bitches, so it's certainly possible they did it anyway as a way to get you out of the picture so they could get more of the group's money.

    It's also possible that you just weren't that group's cup of tea, and you getting up was a relief for them. Fact is, you will never know.

    In future: don't leave a customer until you've tapped him out (ie. he has spent money on you or rejected you) and don't take these things personally. The latter is obviously easier said than done, but you will likely experience worse than customers backing away from you and fellow dancers badmouthing you, and if you take it all to heart, you won't last long in this industry.

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    There will be girls that are going to talk shit and all you can really is just brush it off. She's probably jealous and insecure, so talking about other girls probably makes her a little feel better. It's fucked up but unless you want to further instigate the issue by trying to talk shit back or fight her, just ignore it. There will be other customers that will like you regardless of what she has to say about it.

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    I believe so because
    1. I was with the group before she even showed up for her shift and sold a few dances to a few of them
    2. She was the only white girl before I came.
    It does happen -.-
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Here's the reality: many dancers are bitches (I'm being honest)and best bet is to not get close with most or all. I was always friendly to dancers but rarely friends (and yes there is a difference). Many dancers will backstab to make money.
    This is exactly, precisely correct...Even the ones who are nice to u and buddy up are two faced..Its brutal because over time its very easy not to have many gfs in or out of the club...Dancing is a threat to alot of non-dancers and within the club its really cut throat no matter how nice people may seem...Just one of the hardest things next to dealing with slow nights/shitty customers.

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    Dancers talking shit about other dancers happens all the time. Its a competitive business we are in, and girls are gonna do whatever they have to do to get the upper hand.
    Don't ever leave customers until you've already danced for them, or if they tell you they don't want dances with you.

    Girls talk bad about me all the time. Im pretty sure its because while I'm busy selling dances and VIP's, THEY are busy gossiping while Im making $! So they're jealous I make money, and they don't. And I could care less.

    Just let it be a lesson BarbieBite, you dont really need to resolve what happened, just learn from it.

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    What one girl says about another is more revealing of the girl talking trash than the girl being spoken of. Ask the customers to form their own opinion of you based on your interactions, not some girl's slander.
    I would avoid giving any of the girls you work with personal info of any kind that could be used against you, so any other talk can be chalked up to jealousy.

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    I take it as a compliment. If you're getting haters you must be doing something right.
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    ^So true! And if they start saying you do extras, then you're REALLY doing something right.

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    Don't leave a customer! Especially when you have a group like that.

    I would just ignore it. If she keeps doing it repeatly you can confront her about it. But in the long run talking shit about you will most likely cost her more dances than it will
    cost you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by djezcheeze View Post
    This has happened to me before, and I know because a customer told me. Funny thing was he actually ended up liking me more and bought some dances from me because she was trash talking me.
    Yeah I noticed this is usually what happens. Most often times the customer goes to the club to have fun and blow off some steam, not to hear some petty opinions another dancer has to say about someone else. Just ignore the person.

    And a lot of the guys think it's childish. This happened to me too. I was a new girl at a smaller club. One day a customer came up to talk to me because I was new. We were talking, and he said "Yeah there were two other girls I was sitting with and when I asked them who you were, they said 'Oh. She's new.' The way they said it, I said 'Well let me go up and talk to her.'" So he did. I said "Yeah, that's a little childish, I don't talk about people I don't know." He agreed and complimented me (and spent money) which was awesome. He almost told me who the dancers were too, but I said not to tell me, I'd rather do my job and mind my own business which he appreciated.

    And if it's tempting to talk shit about the other person, don't. You may not know for sure whatever they have said, and it's better to not talk to the other girls and keep to yourself.

    Quote Originally Posted by BarbieBite View Post
    She was the only white girl before I came.
    If the girl was indeed talking about you behind your back, she was probably threatened of you. If she were the only one of her race in the club for a while, and then you came and are the same race, she probably saw competition and a possible dent in her income and feels threatened. Don't focus on her. And if another girl comes who is also the same race as you guys, don't focus on her either. Unless they start to cut throat you. A girl tried to do this to me before so I cut throat her right back, and then she stopped so I stopped.

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    ^So true! And if they start saying you do extras, then you're REALLY doing something right.
    Lol, I have heard of this backfiring on the girl spreading rumors because if she says another girl is doing extras, then all the guys will go to that girl and spend money on her in hopes she will deliver (even if she doesn't do them).

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    This's a great thread, very helpful!


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    It's happened to me before, probably wayyy more times than I've actually found out about. Once I took a night off and my friends went in and reported back to me that there was a girl there going around telling customers "Nina is a bitch." That's funny because I'm never rude to people I work with and I had no clue who the girl even was. My friends had to point her out to me and I still had no recollection of having ever even seen her before, let alone been a bitch. IMO customers should be smart enough to take it with a grain of salt because obviously a girl isn't focusing on her job if she's bad-mouthing another dancer to a customer of all people; that's an obvious attempt to bring a girl down and most customers should understand it's not to be taken seriously. Either way it will happen throughout your stripping career more than likely, but just prove to the customers that you're an awesome entertainer despite what others may say about you behind your back.
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