Edited because putting my life out there is scary, so long story short:
I had a close friend when I was a teenager and we lost touch for five years, now he's just found me but he's married with a young kid. I love him with all my heart but I think the way he is talking to me is inappropriate considering he has a wife. He hasn't said anything sexual, he's just talking like we are close again and considering our history I think this is potentially a slippery slope. I just wanted to know why he's coming around after so much absence, and how I should handle this. I want him in my life but I respect him even more than that, and I don't want to overstep and cause a problem with his marriage (even though I am 99% sure his wife knows nothing about me and that he's contacted me again, which makes this even worse).



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I KNOW he is hiding this from his wife. 1. Calling another woman your "muse"? My first thought was, "Shouldn't you feel that way about the woman you vowed to spend the rest of your life with in holy matrimony?" And 2. I am 95% sure that his primary email account is with gmail, but he's been emailing me through a yahoo account. It's only been since yesterday but so far he's only written me from this yahoo account during work hours (when his wife can't see?).
Keep a special place for him in your heart, but for your own peace I would say walk away & nvr look back.
There is no way I could tell him we can only talk if he divorces, primarily because I don't want him to think that I am urging him to divorce his wife. I know in my heart that the two of them will never be as close as he and I are. We share a cosmic bond. I can't even be jealous of her because in the grand scheme of things I know that he and I are entangled, I've known it for a dozen years, and even if we go off and fall in love with other people it will never hold a candle to the connection we have. So I don't want to be "that girl" who's holding ultimatums. I'd love to have him in my life in some capacity because he makes me smile in my heart, but the more I read and reply to your messages the more I realize that's not in the best interest of all parties involved, and this isn't about just me and him anymore.



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