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    Hey Everybody

    I've been seeing this pretty dancer for about 4 months now and things are going well except for one thing. To avoid calling the club to see when she's working I asked if I can give her my email address so she can let me know if she'll be working on Saturday. I always see her on Saturday and she doesn't start her shift until 9pm and when I call the club to ask if she's working they don't know until 6 or 7pm that night. I told her this and she thought it was a good idea and so I gave her my email address. About 2 weeks later she doesn't show up on Saturday and I drove 30 miles to go see her and I get no email from her.
    I see her the following Saturday and ask her why she didn't send me a email to let me know she wasn't going to be at the club and she get's mad and tells me to call the club like everybody else.WTF?

    If you don't want to contact me by email then why did you take my email address to begin with. I know the games these girls play and I gave her my email address as a test and she failed.


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    What was the test that she failed?
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    I think she was being rude- unless there is more to the story and you were rude first or something....
    Last edited by JoJoX; 12-18-2013 at 04:51 PM. Reason: realized he drove to the club after not hearing from her, lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    I think she was being rude- unless there is more to the story and you were rude first or something
    ^This was my first thought also . Emailing you her shifts isn't her job, not all dancers are comfortable exchanging information like with their regulars. If calling the club is protocol, then it will at least be efficient and save you the trip.
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    Some clubs don't like to give out dancer schedule info..seems like texting would be more efficient, but she would actually have to do that.


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    Sometimes there is more to say than will fit in a text, I had a friend respond with a mildly pissed WTF because the “a bit too long” text I sent them split at just the wrong spot, they didn't understand what I was saying until the second part arrived
    Having said that, texting to find out when she is working is almost a perfect use, done that many times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike71 View Post
    Hey Everybody

    I've been seeing this pretty dancer for about 4 months now and things are going well except for one thing. To avoid calling the club to see when she's working I asked if I can give her my email address so she can let me know if she'll be working on Saturday. I always see her on Saturday and she doesn't start her shift until 9pm and when I call the club to ask if she's working they don't know until 6 or 7pm that night. I told her this and she thought it was a good idea and so I gave her my email address. About 2 weeks later she doesn't show up on Saturday and I drove 30 miles to go see her and I get no email from her.
    Honestly, I've got about 15 dancer phone numbers but only two emails. Texting is the way to go here and, for goodness sake, keep them short. Last weekend one of my regs showed me a ridiculously long text that a now former customer sent her right before she blocked him. They want your money, they don't really want to be part of your life.

    Also, to be honest, a 30 mile drive is not that big of a deal. Most of the clubs I go to are 40 to 50 miles from my house. If I'm going to see tits and ass I'm going to see tits and ass. I almost always know that my fave will be there but if she's not I always have a plan B. Another dancer or two, anther club or even just a few hours enjoying and tipping the ladies on stage are all good ways to have fun in a room full of naked women who want to give you attention even if your regular didn't show up for work that night.


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    I see her the following Saturday and ask her why she didn't send me a email to let me know she wasn't going to be at the club and she get's mad and tells me to call the club like everybody else.WTF?

    If you don't want to contact me by email then why did you take my email address to begin with. I know the games these girls play and I gave her my email address as a test and she failed.
    It's possible that she realized after taking your email address that, if she emailed, you would then have her email address. She may not have wanted to give you that. Has she actually emailed you yet? As far as any "test" that she may have "failed" I can pretty much guarantee you that she doesn't care. Her test is that you show up and spend money on her. As long as you do you pass the customer test. Once you fail the test she will simply replace your money with the money of someone else. Most regulars have a shelf life. The formula for the length of that shelf life is the amount of money they spend vs. the neediness factor. Ask yourself if you are being a pain in the butt. All she really wants from you is your money and she wants it as painlessly as possible.
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    I would not bother calling a club to see if a particular girl is working, they will most likely lie just to get you into the club. Years ago I called this club to make sure my favorite was working (before I drove 35 miles to the club) and they said yes but when I got there I found out they lied, that happened to me twice lol. If she is not there just find another dancer, who knows she may end up being better than your regular.
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    Not all dancers like to deal with "work" outside of their work hours....

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    Assuming you've accurately told both sides of the story (which is never a good assumption! lol), then what you experienced is rude for most businesses, but in my experience, pretty much par for the course for strip clubs. So, your choices are to just stop trying to email since this will just keep happening, or you can accept the fact that it will keep happening and deal, or you can switch to text messaging where you're much more likely to get the interaction you're looking for. Everyone under 35 is much more responsive to texting, strippers no exception, that's the way you want to communicate. Plus, the way you've set things up, you've given her yet another thing to remember and do on her hectic run-up to getting to the club saturday night -- with texting, instead of it all being on her, on Saturday night you have to be the one to remember to initiate a text to her (which you will, 100% of the time), and all she has to do is find a few moments to respond.

    IF you've gotten to know her, it's rare she'll refuse to give you her #. She might not text you back the first couple of times if she doesn't recognize your number, make sure you identify yourself in the texts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mike71 View Post
    Hey Everybody

    I've been seeing this pretty dancer for about 4 months now and things are going well except for one thing. To avoid calling the club to see when she's working I asked if I can give her my email address so she can let me know if she'll be working on Saturday. I always see her on Saturday and she doesn't start her shift until 9pm and when I call the club to ask if she's working they don't know until 6 or 7pm that night. I told her this and she thought it was a good idea and so I gave her my email address. About 2 weeks later she doesn't show up on Saturday and I drove 30 miles to go see her and I get no email from her.
    I see her the following Saturday and ask her why she didn't send me a email to let me know she wasn't going to be at the club and she get's mad and tells me to call the club like everybody else.WTF?

    If you don't want to contact me by email then why did you take my email address to begin with. I know the games these girls play and I gave her my email address as a test and she failed.


    Give me some feedback everybody
    You're asking somebody to do something for you. Without you having done something for them.

    So it's entirely up to them whether they do it.

    You're basically saying, "Even though I could just call the club, I want you to go out of your way to email me if you are working on this particular day..."

    Even I hate needless effort, when somebody could just do the work themselves.

    She can't exactly inform every single customer she has when she will or wont be at the club on the day they go. I can understand why she got pissed off a bit.

    Also, if I'm reading this correct, you asked her to email you if she IS working. But she wasn't working, which means she did what you asked?

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    go find somebody else. plenty of fish in the sea.
    i also think it was a bit rude of her. calling the club won't work in a lot of cases..i sure as hell know that if one of my regulars called my club asking the door men probably wouldn't even know my name or care to go find out. working out when i am going to meet my regular is between me and him, its MY responsibility if i want his money ( which usually i do). if im walking in to meet a regular, and have a 100 dollar house fee to pay for doing so, i contact them and make sure they are coming in.
    if you are a "regulars" kind of girl, then more work is involved with communication, thats just how it is. if you don't want that, then don't do it. i also think flipping out on a customer for something as silly as that is kind of dumb. but then im not her, and i wasn't there.
    what exactly was her reaction when you gave her your number?
    on the other hand...im also bit confused about your whole "test" comment. IF calling the club works for you and they know, you could have also done that to save yourself a trip..

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Also, to be honest, a 30 mile drive is not that big of a deal. Most of the clubs I go to are 40 to 50 miles from my house. If I'm going to see tits and ass I'm going to see tits and ass. I almost always know that my fave will be there but if she's not I always have a plan B. Another dancer or two, anther club or even just a few hours enjoying and tipping the ladies on stage are all good ways to have fun in a room full of naked women who want to give you attention even if your regular didn't show up for work that night.
    Yup, so well said!^ I have to drive @ least 50 miles to work @ a decent club, why shouldn't you also have to make the drive? Most SC's (@ least in my area) have to be way on the 'outskirts'..no one really wants it in their area, plus strict zoning laws apply.

    As far as the email, well, I also see some clubs using Twitter/FB/the SC's site (if they have one) etc., sometimes the dancers post on there, also I've seen them post on stripclublist.com occasionally what schedule they work.


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    I don't think it take much effort to email someone who is willing to pay for your time to let them know when you will be in the club. However, after realizing that you got upset with her because she didn't email you to let you know she will NOT go to the club after you asked her to let you know when she IS in the club...I realized you're being too needy. And saying things like "This was a test and she failed.." makes you sound like one of those needy, boundary crossing, thinking they're the only customer in the world- types...no offense.

    And you drove what you think is a long drive to see if she was in the club after you DIDN'T hear from her? That is your fault, not hers. And why did you get upset?? Because you drove "all the way" there for especially her even after you didn't hear from her? I personally would not drive long ways to meet someone I did not hear from. Yeah, a bit stalkerish if you ask me. I think you're more upset with her for not agreeing to be your pen pal. I can see it now- an "Are you in the club?" email will slowly but surely turn into emails where you start writing novels and asking her how her day went and telling hers how yours went etc

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    I must agree with what everyone says. First, I do believe it was a bit rude for her to not email you after she agreed to but all you had to do was call the club to confirm. No big deal. Instead you drove 30 miles not knowing if she would be in or not.

    Because you said that you were "testing" her, (needy, controlling, drama king customers tend to do this) I suspect that you may have came to her in a condescending & controlling manner which is guaranteed to piss off any stripper and would explain why she was upset.

    It's probably best she doesn't interact with you anymore; you're showing signs of psycho customers who are more trouble then what they are worth. I have dealt with them so I know what I'm talking about.

    If you "confronted" this girl about the issue in a polite and respectful manner and everything i said is wrong then I apologize. Save yourself from future frustration and find another girl who respects your time and effort. If what I said is right then you need to re evaluate yourself and get in touch with reality.

    There are two sides of every story.

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    Mike, it is not uncommon for guys to offer dancers their cell #s, email addresses and other contact details. It is also not unusual for dancers to accept these and agree to use them, even when they have no intention of ever doing so, in order to avoid any awkwardness at that moment and/or to keep the spending flowing. You kinda' put her on the spot with that request.

    If she really wanted to have contact with you during off hours, she would have offered her cell # for texting. This is really the way these things are handled now. It has probably been a decade or more since I exchanged emails with a dancer, lol, and even back then it was not all that common.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post

    Because you said that you were "testing" her, (needy, controlling, drama king customers tend to do this).... you're showing signs of psycho customers who are more trouble then what they are worth.

    There are two sides of every story.
    LOL I tried to be polite about it as possible, but yeah, bingo...

    Also, I was wondering...why is there SO MANY narcissistic psycho needy men in our line of work???
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    Also, I was wondering...why is there SO MANY narcissistic psycho needy men in our line of work???
    Probably because the nature of the business allows them to briefly experience women treating them as they believe they are entitled to be treated all the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    It's possible that she realized after taking your email address that, if she emailed, you would then have her email address. She may not have wanted to give you that.
    I have several email addresses. One is my "junk" email address, which I would use in a situation like this whether I were the dancer or the customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    It's possible that she realized after taking your email address that, if she emailed, you would then have her email address. She may not have wanted to give you that.
    I have several email addresses. One is my "junk" email address, which I would use in a situation like this whether I were the dancer or the customer.

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    I kind of think it's stupid and rude on her part not to email you. As someone who hasn't really had many regulars, I have found that keeping them is so important especially times when I don't feel like mentally dealing with so many ass hats and on slow, shitty nights in the club. I think as dancers it is part of our job to keep in touch with customers who spend. I actually just made business cards with my dancer facebook, phone number, and email. My club actually encourages giving out and exchanging info because it brings people in the door and gets them to spend. I think she was just lazy. It's not like you were trying to have a conversation with her, which can be a bit annoying at times. You just wanted to know if she'd be there to spend money on her!

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    <snip> ... Ask yourself if you are being a pain in the butt. All she really wants from you is your money and she wants it as painlessly as possible.
    Thanks Yoda. We all need reminders of this every once in a while... ;-)

    Having said that, it seems stupid on her part to not realize that telling you she wouldn't be there might mean you would have 'saved up' money for her the next time you saw her...
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    uhhhhh.just a friendly reminder....if this were not a sex work job and you were to call to ask when ___________ is working, it would be considered inappropriate.
    many girls get stalked by customers and your getting so irate that she is not there on one solitary evening seems like pretty stalker-esque as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CFMNH44 View Post
    Thanks Yoda. We all need reminders of this every once in a while... ;-)

    Having said that, it seems stupid on her part to not realize that telling you she wouldn't be there might mean you would have 'saved up' money for her the next time you saw her...
    Dancers don't think that way. If you are in the club spending money she is happy to be getting it. If you are not in the club she is trying to get money from someone else. If she is thinking anything about you at all it's that you are at the club and she's not so you are spending your money on someone else. That's what most guys do.
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    Maybe she doesn't like email?
    Maybe the manager got on her about emailing you and doesn't want her to hand out her schedule.
    Maybe she doesn't want you to find out her IP through her email and then hacking into her computer and stalking her (THIS IS TRUE AND CAN HAPPEN)
    Maybe she just took it to be nice with no intentions of emailing you?

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