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    Smiley Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    So this n00b has kinda affixed herself to me like a barnacle on a whale. I tolerate her. I have never really found myself in the mentor position before. I remember my old mentor, a dancer named Brooklyn. She taught me everything from always pointing my toes to booty popping.

    Share your mentor stories!!

    Backstory: This chick is the social pariah at my main club. EVERYONE hates her. She is not ugly, fat, etc. She just rubs everyone the wrong way by telling her life story within 5 mins, involuntarily stepping on toes, etc. I usually just ignore her. One day it was snowing and the buses weren't running. She asked for a ride home if she provided me with gas $$$$. Having nothing else to do I obliged. En route she began to fight with her loser unemployed boyfriend (recently fired from McDonald's)

    She decided she didn't want to go home. I got a text from a friend at the former fat shaming dive. I took said protegee with me. Long story short, I got my job back, got her hired and we go every Tuesday. It's a purely symbiotic relationship. If she is being annoying I tell her. She has a pleasant singing voice and is a nice person. She's not malicious in any way. She doesn't make money because when she's there she's busy socializing with the other younger dancers. *Shrug* no skin off my back.

    If you go off aesthetics she's very cute. She does very well with a hearing impaired regular that comes in to see her about 3x a month.
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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    yes, constantly. Unfortunately, 3/4th of the young dancers have let everything I have said go in one ear and out the other !

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Heh heh heh. Barnacle. LOLz. I feel for you... Can you elaborate on how she "affixed herself" to you? Does she follow you around? Does she shadow you? Why do you think she chose you to latch on to?

    I can't figure out how you feel about this situation... it almost seems like you are mildly annoyed. I dunno, I can't tell...


    But yeah, back to your question: I've shared my story in this thread: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...Help-New-Girls

    "Do You Help New Girls?"

    I help them all of the time.
    All of the time.

    I don't go too far out of my way... but if the girl seems like a reasonable human being, I will happily give her any advice she asks for. I introduce myself to new gals and welcome them aboard.

    A few years ago, I befriended one very pretty girl from Bhutan. She was shy and a bit confused when she started out. We'd walk the mile (6 avenue blocks) to the train station together because we were both trying to save money... we were the crazy broads that would hoof it home rather than take a cab. Clearly we were both serious scrimper stripper sisters. LOL. Safety in numbers, we'd walk back together and we chatted a bit.

    She had an intelligent, kind aura around her and I noticed her good attitude. Long story short I decided to help her out...Bonus point! She never asked to borrow my clothing or makeup!!!

    After a few months this smart cookie became an amazing stripper... she started out-earning me on certain nights, and we'd trade tips and hints. I learned a lot from her too... it's a two way street. I am always open to good advice. I'm not too proud to ask for advice. Heck, if I knew EVERYTHING, why would I be reading this site all of the time?

    I feel like I learn something new every damn day... I liked her perspective on certain things and I feel like it was a pretty equal acquaintanceship... we weren't BFFS, we weren't hustle buddies, we never hung out after work or on off days, we never called one another, we didn't look the same, we didn't dance the same, our hustles were nowhere near the same, we didn't have much in common, she never drank, I'm kind of a lush, she lived further away than I did and had some family issues so she stayed secretive about her job, I flagrantly didn't give a fuck about people knowing my vocation, we were very, very different people... we were just colleagues with a mutual respect for one another and she had the good sense to listen to my advice and use the tidbits that applied to her wisely.

    I moved on from that club and I hope she is doing well... She taught me a thing or two and I helped her be a better stripper.

    I think it's just good karma to help other girls out.
    If it weren't for two very patient strippers I was fortunate enough to meet in 2003, I wouldn't be where I am. If it weren't for a gorgeous gal who frequented this site in the past, I wouldn't have been able to rock NYC clubs. The ladies I've met on SW (and to a lesser extent EDN) have been wonderful guides. Girls that showed me kindness in the clubs when I was new (or "new" due to relocation) helped me more than they even know.

    As soon as I got my bearings, I made it a point to show others the same kindness I was given before. I welcome new dancers, I offer constructive help, and I give them encouragement if it's necessary.


    For any new dancers that want to get in good with experienced strippers... Follow these suggestions:

    • Be polite
    • Be low key for a bit of time
    • Be professional and considerate
    • Talk less and LISTEN MORE
    • Slow times are the best times to ask questions
    • Don't ask for clothing, shoes, or makeup... if you're unprepared, it is your problem
    • If you fuck up, even inadvertently, take the high road... take responsibility and apologize
    • Don't get too personal... don't ask personal questions, don't tell personal stories, Ain't Nobody Got Time For That!
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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Hahaha, I'm imagining tempest with this bemused "da fuck?" expression...

    I never had a mentor but I get a lot of noobs that latch onto me. They're always the doe eyed innocent ones that are terrified to get on stage. I try to help them out with the opening lines and conversation topics but I don't want them following me everywhere.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Oh yeah. I like to do other girls makeup but I don't really give them much advice about how to work the club. My mentoring is limited to helping with false eyelashes or flat ironing hair.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    i have the opposite happen ! for some reason, newbie girls think i need THEIR uneeded and unwanted advice -_-. about how i dress or do my hair mostly ( they aways suggest the plainest things too, so i think maybe they are intentionally trying to make me look ugly to get rid of competition).
    although there was one newbie who was the most clueless little thing i've ever seen! BAD hair, BAD clothes ( sweaters, baggy sundresses, prom shoes, heavy uneven bangs, refused to dance on stage). i tried my best to lend her shoes and clothes and give her very gentle advice but it did NO good

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    never been in the situation, but i do make myself available. i'd rather teach a newbie than have her doing extras/sitting with people for free trying to figure it out for herself.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    I don't mind helping out newbies every once in a while. Especially if they seem like good people.

    I usually give advice only when asked though.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    for some reason, newbie girls think i need THEIR uneeded and unwanted advice -_-. about how i dress or do my hair mostly.
    I believe in the notion of "don't speak unless you are spoken to"... unsolicited advice is incredibly annoying.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I don't mind helping out newbies every once in a while. Especially if they seem like good people.

    I usually give advice only when asked though.
    Yep... this!

    You have a way with words. That's basically the point I was trying to make... but you made the point far more efficiently.
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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Absolutely! I have always been happy to help out anyone in the business, and have gladly helped out very many girls. However, I would only offer advice when being asked because it may come off as rude when giving advice while not being asked. I would always welcome any questions in the future if I am able to answer them, even after complete retirement. I have always offered advice without any agenda or sabotage, and would not share the conversation with other dancers out of being respectful.

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    I think I'm on the opposite end here. I tried helping newbies a couple of times, but it turned out not the be worth it. One girl I worked with was very new, the others didn't like her much because she was a little weird. She tried to steal money out of my friend's purse and tried to cover it up. Once a girl asked me for some help and I was happy to help. Just a few minutes later she tried to hustle me out of money. I bitched her out and now I try to really limit what I say if girls try to talk to me. I'll probably change my mind if I worked with one for a while and they seemed nice enough.

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    Oh wait! I was in fact a mentor before and she is very cool. I met her from this site though. I am still friends with this girl. I will have to report back when I am at a computer.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    I will give advice if I'm not being hounded constantly for it by the n00bs. When I first started out I had maybe a couple of people that actually helped me out, so most things I had to learn on my own.
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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    I got unsolicited advice on now to do my makeup, dance on stage and hustling constantly. And one woman in particular would go super out of her way to tell me what to eat to fix my horrible skin. not appreciated.

    I would help out w/ baby wipes or whatever. I did not help girls trying to hustle, I did my own crazy research before I even stepped foot in a club.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    I guess there has to be at least some higher level of trust for any type of 'mentoring' to go down in the club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lynn2009 View Post
    I got unsolicited advice on now to do my makeup, dance on stage and hustling constantly. And one woman in particular would go super out of her way to tell me what to eat to fix my horrible skin. not appreciated.

    I would help out w/ baby wipes or whatever. I did not help girls trying to hustle, I did my own crazy research before I even stepped foot in a club.
    ^ And I would've went out of MY way to have given her unsolicited advice on how to keep her mouth shut! I hate rude people ugh, esp those who think they know it all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    yes, constantly. Unfortunately, 3/4th of the young dancers have let everything I have said go in one ear and out the other !
    Omg this is so true. They always ask "how do you make so much money? Please teach me!" In one ear and right out the other

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    Okay reporting back. I was a mentor once. I saw a girl posting here for a little while from my area so I sent her a PM on clubs that are good for newbies and how to work those clubs. She was very gracious and she would occasionally tell me how things were going and once she seemed like she was no longer new I gave her more work recommendations. I eventually met her in person and we got along really well. We still keep in touch and give each other hustle tips.

    This is kind of rare though. Most of the time like other have mentioned, in one ear and out the other.

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    Default Re: Veterans: Have you ever found yourself in the "mentor" position?

    I hate to say it... but some chicks just aren't worth the effort.

    It's up to you to decide who is (and who isn't) worth your time.
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