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    I am VERY curious to hear your opinions.

    While I was on stage and dancing to my last song, this trailer trash "stripper" comes on stage, and lies down with money in her mouth while struggling to yell to this random guy in the audience.

    I was SO shocked. I get nervous going on stage so my adrenaline was pumping to begin with, but after she came up I almost lost it. I glared at her while continuing my routine.

    I would like to know, what would you have done and has this happened to you?

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    im confused.were you two on stage together? your money get mixed up? or did she walk up to your stage??? if it was the former..
    me, personally..i always err on the side of caution with fellow dancers, so i would smile and say " hey, idk if you know, but that's my money you have there..i know things get a little mixed up on stage and all". be firm, but nice.

    if it was the latter, i guess the same applies. be polite but firm. i would probably be a tad more "firm" if she walked up to my stage and did that shit.. probably be like " um, no you can't do that. that's my money, please don't touch it or come onto my stage when im dancing"

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    If she is trying to sm how steal the attention from you onstage by climbing up there w/ you, I would get the bouncer over pronto to pull her away.

    My first instinct when this sort of thing has happened (& it has happened to me a few times over the yrs) was actually to grab the offender by the hair & toss her off -- like 'This is MY performance time, bitch!' but that is usually a surefire way to trouble. I handled it by getting another girl to call the bouncer over, while nudging my stage $$ well out of the intruding girl's reach.

    Only time I ever actually clocked a girl in that situation was by accident when she jumped up onstage while I was flipping around upside down on the pole & didn't see her


    Edited to add, I wrote all this thinking you were talking abt an intruding dancer rather than a customer. I would generally treat overstepping female customers the same way, but if it was a dancer or customer looking to tip me rather than upstage me or try to ninja $$ off my stage, I'd try to roll w/ it as much as I was comfortable.
    Last edited by Aniela; 12-28-2013 at 05:53 PM.

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    I'm surprised a bouncer didn't step it. What she did was very unprofessional and obviously crossing boundaries.

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    The other replies are right on the money in any other part of the world, but that's actually a super normal thing in our part of Canada.

    When a customer wants to tip the dancer on stage, he'll often send up a fellow dancer because then they frolic around on stage together and put on a little lesbian show. If she wasn't a stripper and just a customer, that's also a pretty normal way to tip --- up here, customers lie down on the stage with their money and you dance on/over them. They don't generally place it on the stage or anything.

    Next time: smile, dance over the customer for a bit, take their money, say thank you, and continue with your stage show.

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    This is quite common at my club as well. Usually, since most of the dancers get along, there is no problem with tipping this way for us.
    I have had custies try this and I usually give them a cheeky smile, take the dollar with my hand, giggle, and ask them to remove themselves from my stage. It usually works and if they start any trouble, that's what the bouncers are for. I've only had trouble with it once, and once I firmly told the person to "get the f$#% off of my stage" then they complied fairly quickly.
    Or you could tell the girl that her actions make you uncomfortable and you would prefer she stay on her side of the tip rail from now on when tipping you. Whatever works for your situation best.

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    I don't think I was very clear...

    I'm not sure this was even a stripper. She made NO indication of wanting to tip me, but instead try to "show me up" with her "sexiness" and steal attention. I know how customers tip and this definitely was not the case. Obviously if we were performing together, there would be no shock...I wouldn't be upset because that would be stupid.

    This was a random ass girl...stripper or not....who was clearly high OR drunk OR both who felt like she could push my buttons. When people do shit like that they assume you won't do or say anything. Don't mistaken my quietness as me not being able to speak up for myself. If you push me enough times, I will take care of things. If it happens again, I'm just flagging the bouncers down...

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    Sounds like just a dumbass attention-seeking female customer who felt like she needed to prove to her friends how "wild," "crazy," and "cool with strippers" she is. Unfortunately, at my club, the management doesn't care when female customers get on stage or dance on the bar or do crazy shit because they think it adds to the party atmosphere. Whatever.
    It definitely is infuriating, but for me, I've found it to be better for me money-wise if I try to be sort of nice to these dumbasses rather than roll my eyes or do anything obviously bitchy. Because then you just look like a bitch to every customer in the place. I just try to grit my teeth and say my mantra: "You catch more flies with honey."

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    oh, it was a customer?? and the bouncers didn't go anything? that's nuts, in my club if customers are kissing/standing instead of sitting at stage/dancing/singing/ etc . they get a talking to. i would be furious

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    So, it was a drunk customer girl who laid down on the stage with money in her mouth? Again, in Canada this also would seem like she was trying to tip you... she lays down, makes an attempt at being sexy and you crawl over to her all playfully and take the cash. Was this the situation or was it something malicious?

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    Default Re: Oh NO She Didn't

    It sounds to me like a customer probably gave the girl the money to tip you on stage, and she made it into a girl-on-girl style show by laying there and encouraging you to take the tip either with your own mouth (fake kissing) or between your breasts.

    If she scooped the money off your stage, that is not cool. I'd have told her recycling is not appreciated in strip clubs. I've seen both genders pull this bullshit, before.

    This is definitely a dive bar kind of practice, you won't see anyone doing it in an upscale place. I've worked in a lot of backwater places, and laying on the stage to tip is pretty normal in rural areas or in dive bars.

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    Since she went up with money, it still sounds like she was just trying to tip you. Sometimes the female customers try to get a little frisky and want some attention, but it's still just a stage tip. Best thing you can do is smile, take it, and go on with your stage set.

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    Dude, chill. This girl was trying to give you money. That's how stage tipping works here, as the other girls have said lol. I know, seems strange, and if she was trying to "steal" attention from you...probably some drunk girl out with her buddies getting a little to crazy, that's all. Generally the standard is to do a little 30 second dance over top of whoever is tipping you. It's called "dive for five" when someone lays down on the stage with a 5 or 10 in their mouth or hands.
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    ^Oh fun, I never knew there was a name for it!

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    Sorry doll but this is very normal. Hell, when I go to clubs as a customer I prefer to to the 5 on stage for most girls. So long as you're in Canada, there's no avoiding it.

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