I've recently had one of those "aha!" moments where I've realized that my naturally introverted personality is actually something that can be very beneficial for working at the club and not something I need to force myself to change. A lot of us assume we need to act a certain way, usually the extroverted party girl type, hot and super flirty "porn star" (without the sex) even the bratty girl next door has extroverted qualities....while I've always tried to cultivate a fun persona, I've been finding it harder and more emotionally and psychologically draining to keep this act up, especially as I'm picking up more hours. It's lead to me drinking more at work, wanting less social time with my friends when I am off because I need that time to recoup, and just general anxiety and stress.
There are articles, webinars, blogs and even a couple books out now about the power of introverts and how we can be successful in business. Of course, none of this is being applied to our business as strippers. It got me thinking about what qualities introverts have naturally that can be a plus for us in this environment. These are the ones i've come up with. I would like to hear others!
1. A sense of emotional intimacy: as an introvert I'm much better with private/intimate one-on-one conversations with people than speaking to large groups or even mingling with everyone in a large group. While it's probably good to at least introduce yourself to everyone in a group, having a deeper conversation and connection with one person gives that customer a sense of intimacy which can be used to sell VIP (this is actually the main way I sell VIP...deep conversations over general sexyness and playfulness)
2. Take advantage of the "slow" shifts: because i tend to shy away from crowds, i do get overwhelmed on the busy weekend night crowds. When i'm faced with dealing with a bunch of drunk and boisterous guys and tons of girls on top of that I start to feel stressed out and it really takes a toll on how i perform- I don't even know where to start. So i've started working the "slow" shifts: monday, tuesday, wednesday days and weekend days and have noticed an increase in $...partially because the day customers are usually higher quality but also because i'm not having to emotionally deal with large crowds. I'm able to be more strategic and focused
3. Sexy-shy: I've been called this so many times. Apparently there's something really endearing about a stripper who's also kind of shy. No matter my front I just come off as shy and while some guys aren't looking for that, many think its really cute. Theres also the idea of shy girls secretly being the "freakiest" lol
4. More productive shifts: I'm friendly with the other girls at work but because I prefer to have a few very close friends as opposed to being extroverted and bubbly with everyone, I waste very little time chatting in the dressing room. I keep to myself, take quick 20 min lunch breaks which I spend reading instead of getting carried away in conversations.
5. Connecting to other introverts: I can spot these guys a mile away. They are the ones in the group kind of just taking it all in, looking a little uncomfortable or the guy in the corner watching the game or looking at his phone. Sometimes they want to be left alone and are losers with no money but often I find these guys to simply be introverted and my non aggressive approach puts them at ease and after a little warm up they are ready for a few dances!



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