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    Default Hate between different kinds of sex work.

    I am first and foremost a dancer, which I have been doing for several years. Over the past year, I have gotten into online domination, am a PSO, as well as own a slave and do sessions out of a dungeon once a week in addition to dancing. I also have really bad anxiety, bipolar, and depression, which makes it hard to focus on working and just making money. I have absolutely nothing to show for all of this work (however that's a different thread entirely). During late summer and fall I was having personal issues and was not able to take care of my owned slave as well as I should've. I let him talk to other Dommes, and he monopolized some of my friends' time. They've been really mean to me, making snide comments in a chat room because they believe I don't have the right to Domme. My slave and I worked it out, and we are on the same page. I feel horrible for just letting him hang like that, and he understands what was going on in my life was first and foremost. Well, last night I had another Domme attack me on instant messenger last night, saying that I was a scared little girl, that I am pathetic that I have to take my clothes off for a living as well as being a Domme (I would Domme full time but I'm a horrible multi-tasker, so doing all my work from home would lead me to never getting anything done.) It's just easier to still be dancing. I like getting out of the house, being social, and the quick cash. After her blasting on me, I couldn't sleep last night. I wonder if this is how everyone thinks of strippers. She mentioned how she makes over 80k a year not taking her clothes off. (Not that you'd want her to anyway. lol.) I enjoy my job and I don't think sex workers should be shaking their head at other sex workers. I don't care if you're taking your clothes off, not taking your clothes off, fucking people for a living, or what have you. I don't care how much money you make compared to me. I'm happy with where I'm at and my life. Yeah I have made some mistakes and have some growing up to do, but I've even admitted to it many times publicly. I don't understand why I have to be attacked like that.

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    There are definitely plenty of people who share her views on strippers. But there are also many who look down on dommes, phone sex operators, cam girls, escorts, etc. etc. People also look down on call centre employees, used car salesmen, insurance agents, and a plethora of other jobs. Nothing you do will please everyone. The sooner you stop taking their views personally or to heart, the better off you'll be.

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    Making a living off of your sexuality in one or more venues does not make you any better or worse than anyone else. All different types of people get into sex work for different types of reasons. No one type is better or worse than the other, and sex is neither as good or bad as people make it out to be. Nudity is human and natural and it's a powerful thing to be able to make money using your body. Unfortunately, within sex work there is a mentality of a hierarchy with certain people.
    I would just ignore her in any way you possibly can and just keep on doing what YOU know you do well. There is no way to please everyone, so do what makes you happy.
    If that is taking your clothing off for a living, then by all means, go for it. What you do is your business, plain and simple.
    Anyone that says otherwise probably isn't worth your time or energy.
    Society is always going to look down on sex workers, but there are still good people out there who don't feed into the usual crap.

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    I personally think its an intriguing world..the whole Domme thing. I am not really familiar with it but I find it fascinating. I agree with the above poster who said that many people look down on car salesman, insurance agents etc..it just seems that somewhere someone is looking down their noses at u no matter what u do for a living or how u do it.

    People piss me off. Where they see a weakness they will exploit it until they blow it out of proportion..Truth is many people have mental problems..In fact imho almost everyone does..Just different disorders and to different degrees...You are in no way less of a person bc of being bipolar or what have you.

    Its hard to do but you have to rise above these comments and shit people..I am having to do that myself actually. Everyone who isnt supportive of my job or the fact that Im not perfect and never will be can [email protected]# off really..Its people who feel bad about themselves who get their rocks off by fucking with others. Those people are pitiful especially when they go out of their way to do and say mean things just bc the mood hits them..Its funny to me bc they dont realize how bad they make themselves look with their desperate attempts at attacking people.

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    Default Re: Hate between different kinds of sex work.

    because its human nature to always want to feel superior to other people..especially prominent in INSECURE or JEALOUS people.

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    It was probably because she was a bitch and nothing more. Best to ignore people like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by djezcheeze View Post
    I am first and foremost a dancer, which I have been doing for several years. Over the past year, I have gotten into online domination, am a PSO, as well as own a slave and do sessions out of a dungeon once a week in addition to dancing. I also have really bad anxiety, bipolar, and depression, which makes it hard to focus on working and just making money. I have absolutely nothing to show for all of this work (however that's a different thread entirely). During late summer and fall I was having personal issues and was not able to take care of my owned slave as well as I should've. I let him talk to other Dommes, and he monopolized some of my friends' time. They've been really mean to me, making snide comments in a chat room because they believe I don't have the right to Domme. My slave and I worked it out, and we are on the same page. I feel horrible for just letting him hang like that, and he understands what was going on in my life was first and foremost. Well, last night I had another Domme attack me on instant messenger last night, saying that I was a scared little girl, that I am pathetic that I have to take my clothes off for a living as well as being a Domme (I would Domme full time but I'm a horrible multi-tasker, so doing all my work from home would lead me to never getting anything done.) It's just easier to still be dancing. I like getting out of the house, being social, and the quick cash. After her blasting on me, I couldn't sleep last night. I wonder if this is how everyone thinks of strippers. She mentioned how she makes over 80k a year not taking her clothes off. (Not that you'd want her to anyway. lol.) I enjoy my job and I don't think sex workers should be shaking their head at other sex workers. I don't care if you're taking your clothes off, not taking your clothes off, fucking people for a living, or what have you. I don't care how much money you make compared to me. I'm happy with where I'm at and my life. Yeah I have made some mistakes and have some growing up to do, but I've even admitted to it many times publicly. I don't understand why I have to be attacked like that.
    I also do not think that sex workers should look down on other sex workers. But I believe she forgotten that many people look down on dommes as well and she would complain if someone told her to get 9 to 5 job as well. I wrote her and told her this:

    " I know it is easier for you to look down on me but remember to society....domme is no different than a stripper, pso, or cam model....they think we are whores for money rather we take our clothes off or not. Instead of hating me for being whatever...you need to learn that you a sex worker just like me and embrace me. If not...then keep looking your nose down on me, a courtesan can look her nose down at the streetwalker but to society they are the same thing...remember that one, when someone treats you no different than a lower class streetwalker."

    By the way, I think that it is cool that you work as stripper, domme, and PSO You need some new friends who do not care about that stupid stuff. That was not a real domme but a thankless bitch trying tho show she is morally superior to you

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    Thanks for the support ladies. I know she was pretty much talking out of her ass, but it does hurt when someone who is also in adult work to get a real job when they sit in their pj's all day talking on skype and sending ptv emails on nf to slaves. I know she was mad because she felt she had to talk to my slave while we were on hiatus. However, she did not have to talk to him, nor did she have a gun to her head. She wanted me to THANK HER for talking to him. LOL

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    As an 'old school' dancer, I 'grew up' in an industry where a dotted line existed between those girls who actually offered sex for money, versus those who didn't. This was an outgrowth of the now increasingly outdated concept that exotic dancing was part of the 'entertainment' business rather than the 'sex' business.

    This doesn't mean that girls who chose to work on one side of that 'dotted line' shouldn't be equally respected by girls working on the other side !!! And, of course, in recent years the 'entertainment' side has been in rapid decline while the 'sex' side has been growing !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by djezcheeze View Post
    I know she was mad because she felt she had to talk to my slave while we were on hiatus. However, she did not have to talk to him, nor did she have a gun to her head. She wanted me to THANK HER for talking to him. LOL
    ^I agree with the other ladies, but wanted to add that-maybe she was bullying you because she was hoping to take on your business also? Her efforts (for free?), while you were taking time off, obviously didn't pay off.
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    Melonie that is true. I too danced in the "old days" and were considered entertainers instead of sex workers. However, even back then there were still sex workers in the industry, they were the dancers who provided more than the strippers would.

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    I work as a pso and a domme, and have been considering camming for a while.

    I have mad respect for all of you ladies in this industry no matter what the particulars of your work is. I am constantly amazed by your insightfulness, your generosity, and your intelligence. If you run across people who don't appreciate you for those things, move on and forget about them.

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