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    Lightbulb Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    It's going to be a bit till I lose some weight. I'm doing Zumba so I won't be waiting to long, what I wanted to ask is, should I wait till I'm out of high school to pursue the actual exotic dancing? I'm 19 so I'm not under age, just making up credits due to tough time freshmen/sophomore year, input is much appreciated, thank you ladies!

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Are you worried about running into classmates or teachers? If so, either yes, hold off, or dance far from home. If no, what makes you think you should wait?

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    My first question is how overweight are you? If your BMI is under 30 you should be ok to dance someplace. The second thing to think about is losing weight isn't about how much exercise you do but how well you eat. If your body isn't getting the nutrients it needs from 10+ servings of fresh fruits and veggies a day, it will be really hard to lose weight. I use MyFitnessPal to regulate my diet. It's free and really easy to use.

    As far as whether to start dancing now or to wait until you are done with school has more to do with how disciplined you are with your schedule. Are you able to force yourself to get up in the morning after working until 2am and still make it to class? Can you set aside time to get your homework done and still make it on time to work?

    There is also the aspect of how good are you at avoiding peer pressure? There will be ample opportunities to drink or use drugs. There are a lot of parties that you will get invited to. Are you ok with being single forever? Of course that isn't necessarily what will happen, but a lot of dancers who start young will find that long term relationships are hard to come by even if you only work as a stripper for a short time. Maybe men in your age group are less likely to be judgmental against a woman who engaged in sex work at some point in her life.

    You should also understand, that this job isn't just like being hired to be a "sandwich artist." It takes a very precise set of skills that don't easily transfer to other kinds of careers. In some cases, it could prevent you from engaging in some kinds of work in the future, such as child care or some forms of public service. I really hope you never plan on running for public office. Dancing could also make any future custody battles skew against you in a court of law.

    Decisions matter. Choose your path well.

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    I started dancing in my senior year. I graduated just fine. work a weekend schedule if you can. You probably won't bump into classmates as most people don't hit stripclubs til college. Be smart. Don't get fucked up at work, because the hours alone make studying hard. I say go for it.
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    A lot of dancers study and work part time. It's a flexible job with a high income, so it suits students well i.e. you don't have to work 5 days a week as a waitress, just to pay your rent-so you will have a lot of time to focus on your studies. I don't see any problem with working while studying. What are you specifically worried about?
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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    depending on how big you are, you can always start at a lower-tier club..in fact, when you are starting out what i would suggest would be a low-pressure, smaller, quieter club, least thats what i did lol.
    as for graduating high school, plenty of high schoolers get jobs on the side.. and with dancing you usually make better money, with much less hours put in. but i do see a lot of younger dancers who don't have their head on straight yet ( that woulda been me at 19 too), that get into drugs, blow their money, fall for pimps and other scumbags, etc. and burn out. so don't get into all that, be smart, and you'll be fine

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    My Bmi is over 30 which isn't good, I have a thyroid problem and drastically changing my diet. I'm not worried about anything really, just wanted to see if I should start out as a college dancer instead of a high school dancer, also, my boyfriend is very supportive about the idea of me going, since I brought up the idea, he's pushing for me too go and helping me with my diet. I told him when I do go and he visits, I told him to buy dances from other dancers to help them out

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Also too, I live with my father, he's 58 so I'm an old soul, very level headed, also I LOVE performing for people, it makes me feel wonderful ^_^

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Quote Originally Posted by SweetK View Post
    my boyfriend is very supportive about the idea of me going, since I brought up the idea, he's pushing for me too go and helping me with my diet. I told him when I do go and he visits, I told him to buy dances from other dancers to help them out
    ^If he is "pushing for you to go" then be careful as some men can take advantage of you finically. If he is curious about the club, environment, job etc (after you are hired) go together to check out the club as patrons, have a drink, tip or get a dance, enjoy yourselves as a couple to put his mind at ease. It is never a good idea for a partner to attend your place of work while you are working (it's a recipe for disaster).
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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    He's not pushing me in a bad way, he's just very e xcited about the idea, weird right? Lol

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    I would agree w/ all of the above posts, but esp mind Simone's & Olive's advice. The SC world tends to open up a person's eyes in a hurry. It's easy for a partner to be totally cool w/ their gf dancing, until they actually see it for themselves & it is suddenly not-as-ok anymore. SOs in the club tend to be a serious distraction from your $$-making anyway, even if your relationship is solid; best to not have him there when you're working, period.

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    this may sound odd, but my partner and i are in an open relationship and love each other deeply, but with casually having fun with others occasionally (his idea, he brought it up too me) Its Because the Strength Of our Relationship Is Extremely Strong And Have Open Communication Thank You Very Much Ladies For Helping Me Out, I'm Sure I Have More Coming Your Way

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    hey me too, i dance 45 min away for the reason of staying somewhat incognito. if you feel a burning desire to dance, do it! it sucks at first cause more often than not newbies arent to skilled on the floor/pole. but once you feel the power surging through you on stage it fuels a sort of raw sexiness, that cannot be mimicked.
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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Some men really like the idea of being a cuckold. These are the guys who love, love, LOVE dating dancers. They are frequently patrons of dancers, as well. I've got three such fetishist I entertain every week and make a sizable sum from. You are a lucky girl to have found a guy with this particular fetish, however, it may make quitting difficult later on. Especially if he becomes very invested in your job as a sexual turn on.

    He's not pushing me in a bad way, he's just very e xcited about the idea, weird right? Lol

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Thank you ladies very much! my hunny is very loyal too me, he looks at it as another profession and not just as being a stripper. He's a very intelligent man and supports me every way. We don't live together yet because we're both in high school still. I'm a very lucky woman too have a supportive and loving significant other

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    I'm glad to hear your SO is supporting of your desire to become a dancer! I really want to stress the advice to NOT have him visit you at work though. For one thing, most clubs tend to ban SOs from visiting because of drama/pimps/whatever, but for another, him watching you interact with customers is a totally different dynamic than being in an open relationship. It's just better to not stir that pot. A lot of dancers would also be hella uncomfortable even approaching him if/when they found out he was your SO anyway. Go to a different club than the one you work at for fun, but let work be work. You can dance for him at home.

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    Alrighty, thank ya hunny ^_^

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    Default Re: Hello Beautiful's! I have a big question to ask you

    Quote Originally Posted by SweetK View Post
    My Bmi is over 30 which isn't good, I have a thyroid problem and drastically changing my diet. I'm not worried about anything really, just wanted to see if I should start out as a college dancer instead of a high school dancer, also, my boyfriend is very supportive about the idea of me going, since I brought up the idea, he's pushing for me too go and helping me with my diet. I told him when I do go and he visits, I told him to buy dances from other dancers to help them out
    Do Paleo....trust me it will change your life. I'd also like to commend you on taking responsibility for your health and taking steps towards a better and healthier lifestyle. As someone who was formerly overweight (though it was my fault)I can say it takes a lot of courage to take those first baby steps.
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