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    Default can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    Hey guys--

    So I work at a nude club in LA. I used to work at this club in the past and had a great set of regulars, unfortunately all of them have stopped coming into the club and I didn't really want to keep in contact with them when I quit dancing for 3 years so I wouldn't even know how to get in touch with them.

    I'm trying to find a new set of regulars for myself because that's just how I prefer to work. My club is not what I would call busy, it's a slow club with high-spenders, so you have to make every customer you dance with count. However, I am having SERIOUS issues getting even one regular. When I worked here in the past I did run into some guys that just wanted to take me out, but it wasn't a huge problem-- most of my customers understood I was working and that our relationship would be a professional one. Now it seems like every guy is only interested in seeing me again if it involves taking me out. I have tried numerous strategies but I am just hitting brick walls, and it's a lot of work for me to be dancing with new people every night... it's very competitive just to hook one customer and many of the guys that come in have regular girls anyway, so it's a struggle to get them away.

    What kind of strategies do you guys use to hook regulars?

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    Cultivating regulars is getting harder and harder in certain areas without seeing them OTC. If you're constantly getting bombarded with OTC requests at your club, it sounds like your fellow dancers may have conditioned them to expect that, or at least make it a legitimate possibility with enough dancers.

    If you're not willing to go OTC, and the majority of your customers are looking for OTC, all you can do is drag out the denial. Tell them you've been burned before and want to hang out at the club first. Or keep being busy but super disappointed because you really want to get together. This is obviously not going to cultivate terribly long-term regulars, but I find if they are looking for OTC right off the bat and it's on the table with other dancers, there's not much you can do about it.

    Check out this threads for tips on cultivating regulars otherwise: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ntain-regulars

    Basically -- let them know you had a great time with them, you can't wait to see them again, and when you work. You can also offer to exchange numbers/email if you're down, but if you work a regular schedule, I find it's not overly necessary.

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    I gotta say it takes me AWHILE working somewhere to build up a regular clientele. I tend to try and make the guy feel special that I'm reaching out and giving him my email phone number or schedule or whatever by saying something like: I really enjoy our time together HERE I really enjoy DANCING for you because you are such a perfect gentleman it's so wonderful having you as my CUSTOMER. This way you are simultaneously praising him yet defining your relationship as dancer and customer, not opening yourself up for date requests after your contact info is exchanged. If guys keep asking you for OTC I just say that I only go OTC with long term customers and if a guy says he wants to take me on a date I tell him if he really wants to he's gonna have to spend ITC a couple times so we can get to know each other or some bullshit like that. I really think it is a bit of a waiting game to attract and retain quality customers. Something that I have found to be helpful is giving a more sensual, personal seeming dance so it feels like there is a deeper connection between the two of you. Also being a good conversationalist, recalling conversation topics of the past and personal details about them. Easier said than done. I also like to make a big show when he arrives. Running over, touching his arm, excusing myself from a table of other guys to spend time with him etc etc. Obviously this special treatment is reserved for customers that have proven to be effiecient uses of my time and energy.

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    Thanks for the link shanna!

    I do OK without regulars, it's just more work. I got there at 10 tonight and it was 6 straight hours of hustling, not one break to break my $800 mark. I used to be able to pull in double that no problem with my regulars, taking breaks...

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    ^Your 3 year break may not have felt long, but this industry has been changing rapidly over the past several years, and now it's inevitable that you will work harder for the same (if you're lucky) or less amount of money -- even harder if all you do is dance (no extras/OTC). Still, all you can do is give each customer the best experience you can offer, work regularly, and encourage them to come back to see you.

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    Why not sell the fantasy? Tell the guys that you would looove to spend time with them - when you know them better. Dangle the carrot. You are special and you don't go around meeting everyone. Some regulars like the idea of building a relationship and jumping through hoops to win you . Maybe you can gain some regulars if you say maybe and not yet to meeting-rather than no.

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    All Ive been asked repeatedly is.."Do u do private parties"?..There have been no potential regulars..And as soon as I say no I dont do private parties the interest goes out the door..I think its basically bc girls r doing crap out of the clubs.. if many guys who come into the club r going to give repeat business-- its only if there is some kind of action they cant find in the club that they r interested in..No one wants to get to know u anymore..Just see if ull fuck then outside of the club bc they dont see u as a real person or want to get to know u like the old class of customers used to want..

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    Quote Originally Posted by audrey_k View Post
    What kind of strategies do you guys use to hook regulars?
    Simply give them what they want, LoL...

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    It takes time usually. Smiling and ''oh that was, fun, can't wait for you to come here agian'' goes a long way. I came to the coclusion that the simple things work best. I usually try not to give my number but giving your e-mail is not a bad idea..

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    Quote Originally Posted by RedWine View Post
    Why not sell the fantasy? Tell the guys that you would looove to spend time with them - when you know them better. Dangle the carrot. You are special and you don't go around meeting everyone. Some regulars like the idea of building a relationship and jumping through hoops to win you . Maybe you can gain some regulars if you say maybe and not yet to meeting-rather than no.
    That's what I tell most of my customers. Saying no right off the bat just ends the conversation so I say something along on these lines. It works for some but I find it has a half-life.

    I've been doing well without the regulars, it's just more work. I have a couple customers that are kind of regulars, but they don't dance with me exclusively and they take long breaks before coming in. But, I am making money so I guess I shouldn't be complaining! Thanks for all your input.

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    I got a regular guys! I'm so proud of myself. It happened totally by accident actually, a bouncer recommended him to me last week and I ended up doing a bunch of dances with him (1,000$ w/ tip). I knew he enjoyed himself but I wasn't sure if he was going to dance with me again because one of the girls said he was pretty dirty and he normally dances with dirty girls (and I'm not). But he came back in again tonight and did twice as many as last time ($2,000 w/ tip). I know he's not dancing with me "exclusively" but I'm so happy to have a wealthy regular who can spend and isn't spending the whole time convincing me to go out with him!

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    Default Re: can't find any good regulars, everyone just wants to take me out!

    I've officially got three regulars at the moment SO proud of myself and SO happy.

    Two of them are trying to get me OTC but they're not being super persistent about it so I just keep using the "let's get to know each other better before we do that" bullshit. The third is not interested in OTC at all and told me last night that our personalities are perfect for each other (we were talking about how we're both good-hearted nice people who date assholes but should date nice people) but that because of where we met a "real" relationship would never work, and that he dated a stripper in the past and would never do it again... music to my fucking ears.

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