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    Just curious. My close friends know, and my partner of course, but that's it. I don't know what to say when people ask me what I do for work. Sometimes I say "nothing right now" (I'm in a language school so I don't look like a total slacker), or "I work online". Sometimes they ask what kind of online work, and I say customer service in the States, that's why I work night shifts, because of the hour difference... lol.

    But sometimes I wish I could just be open and say "This is what I do, and I love it, and I'm proud of it." Is anyone open about camming? I really love my job, even if it sucks sometimes, but I feel like people will judge. Then again, I've been judged all my life (I dressed goth in high school...), so who cares what people think now, right?
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    My good friends and roommates know, my partner knows, and my mom knows, otherwise I kind of get a feel for someone before I bring it up. Most people are cool with it, that I've found.

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    My family knows (son, parents, brothers) and some very few good friends in rest anyone knows i work accounting at home (which was my real job for a while anyway). Here cam work pays best compared to any other job i could get w.o having a university degree.

    ETA: i tell people i work nights because that's when i can focus best working with numbers which again is true cause its more quiet & can perform better.

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    that you so much for this post!

    I actually just started this thread on the subject:

    Although no one has responded to it yet.

    This has been an ongoing problem, but I like the 'online customer service' idea.

    I've worked customer service before, so it's not too much of a stretch.

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    Thank you so much for this post!

    I actually just started this thread on the subject:

    Although no one has responded to it yet.

    This has been an ongoing problem, but I like the 'online customer service' idea.

    I've worked customer service before, so it's not too much of a stretch.

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    My parnter, my close friends, and the couple people from my past who found me but thankfully know how to keep a secret.





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    A few close friends and a stalker ex-bf

    I don't want my family to find out because it will be a big fucking headache

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    My boyfriend, 4 friends and my brother who accidentally found me but is cool with it

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    Three friends, one guy that I was banging, two guys that I was thinking about banging, and a few randos for various reasons.


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    that you so much for this post!

    I actually just started this thread on the subject: https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ou-do-for-work

    Although no one has responded to it yet.

    This has been an ongoing problem, but I like the 'online customer service' idea.

    I've worked customer service before, so it's not too much of a stretch.

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    This is my go-to fake job. Just be prepared for guys to be all "oh so you service customers eh?" all the goddamn time. And constantly ask what companies you're with, etc. People are nosy. You might want to check out the "I don't think camming is working out for me..." thread for ideas of other online jobs to solidify your cover.

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    my kids, my exes, my parents , my brothers and sisters and my neices and nephews... pretty much everyone except my neighbors..lol

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    Brothers ,sisters,Close friends and anyone that inquires about what i do and if i feel comfortable with them ill let them know.Also a few of my Exes.

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    my mother, my husband, and 3 of my closest friends. they all cool with what i do.

    two of my friends actually are wishing they were women so they can cam.




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    My mom, my sister, and my ex-boyfriend knows. My step-dad and grandmother has never directly asked me what I do but my mom told them that I do customer service.

    People from High School probably know because I didn't really hide it when I had a Myspace and Facebook page. I'm sure I was talked about. At my old job I kind of got outed....I added this kid that I worked with to my myspace (which had my glamour photos up) an when I returned to work months later people were telling me that he showed everyone my myspace page. So everyone was talking about me lol. Come to find out years later people stayed talking about me at that place but of course no one said shit to my face. Boy I don't miss the politics involved with a 9-5. I don't talk to anyone from my past so I'm not sure if they are still aware of what I do.

    When I first got into this biz I use to tell people that modeled. I stopped doing that after I grew out of my naivety. Then I started telling people that I worked from home as a customer service and marketing representative. After saying that they'd always ask questions that I never really had the answers to. So now I just tell people that I'm a web designer/developer...which isn't a lie because I did go to school for that. Might just start telling people that I'm a web designer/developer for private businesses..... that way I can just tell them that I can't legally talk about my work lol.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiiannon View Post
    Sometimes I wish I could just be open and say "This is what I do, and I love it, and I'm proud of it." Is anyone open about camming? I really love my job, even if it sucks sometimes, but I feel like people will judge. Then again, I've been judged all my life (I dressed goth in high school...), so who cares what people think now, right?
    I wish I could be that way as well. I can say that I don't give a F about what people think until I'm blue in the face but I honestly don't like having to deal with the judgement. I couldn't imagine telling every person that asked me what I do for a living that I was a camgirl and now a cam domme. They'd ask too many questions and I don't need judgement or nosiness from people that I will never see again or see once a year. Then dating and camming...ugh is a whole nother story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiiannon View Post
    Just curious. My close friends know, and my partner of course, but that's it. I don't know what to say when people ask me what I do for work. Sometimes I say "nothing right now" (I'm in a language school so I don't look like a total slacker), or "I work online". Sometimes they ask what kind of online work, and I say customer service in the States, that's why I work night shifts, because of the hour difference... lol.

    But sometimes I wish I could just be open and say "This is what I do, and I love it, and I'm proud of it." Is anyone open about camming? I really love my job, even if it sucks sometimes, but I feel like people will judge. Then again, I've been judged all my life (I dressed goth in high school...), so who cares what people think now, right?

    Only close friends/family know. I suggest only telling people you can trust (or think you can trust lolol, but that's another discussion).

    I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly don't think it's good to be open to everyone about camming. Yes, people can find you online. Yes, it is nothing to be ashamed of. BUT It's not safe to tell people casually that you cam. There is no shortage of people willing to blackmail/shame/out/stalk/otherwise fuck over sex workers.

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    My husband, my kids (they are both grown up and out of the house) and my best friend. I suspect that my siblings and mom know because of something my mom said last week. She's 86 years old and I was taking some video of her and my son at her nursing home. While I was filming, she said "Working that camera is what you do best!" I couldn't help laughing
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    My husband, a bunch of our close friends (but not all of them-- although we're sometimes in the same group together), and any scene (BDSM) friends we happen to bring up the subject with.

    I usually say I'm in school when people ask "what I do", which is the truth. If it's for some kind of form or something official, I say I'm self employed. Once I had to write who I worked for as an independent contractor, so I just wrote "Streamate Ltd" and no one looked at me funny.
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    I'm very open about it to the point that TOO many people know. Word of mouth is quicker than technology I think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlotteslut View Post
    I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly don't think it's good to be open to everyone about camming. Yes, people can find you online. Yes, it is nothing to be ashamed of. BUT It's not safe to tell people casually that you cam. There is no shortage of people willing to blackmail/shame/out/stalk/otherwise fuck over sex workers.
    This. My not being completely open about camming is 90% due to the creep factor. Honestly I think the only difference between most of the men we know IRL vs most of the (rude, misogynistic, entitled, downright rape-y) men we get in free chat is that the former don't know that we're camgirls. I get enough unwanted attention from men IRL without them knowing that I'm a sex worker and I worry enough about harassment, stalking, rape, etc from creepers who see me as less than human without them knowing my real name and location.

    Even (otherwise) decent guys are probably going to treat a woman differently if one of the first things they learn about her is that she fucks herself on camera for a living.

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    -My 2 besties - one is super supportive, the other just thinks i'm crazy but knows its the perfect job for me.
    -One whole group of friends that are all pretty open with sexuality.... polyamorous folks, bisexual experiences, a fair amount of overlapping hookups between us all, and we all pretty much make out, so....yeah, they think it's fucking GREAT.
    -a guy at a diner who IMMEDIATELY assumed I was gonna fuck him and even said the rapiest line ever: "You know you want to." UHHHH, FUCK NO I DON'T, BRO BRO. (too many bloody marys led to my unnecessary oversharing)
    - a dude friend who likened it to prostitution and now we pretty much don't talk. (not missing out on much, obvs).
    -anyone who has followed from my boring IRL blog to my cammy/nudie blog
    -hmmm, actually, a good number of guy friends, now that I think of it. They seem to be less judgey about it.
    -UGH, my ex boyf (over since June 2009!) who insists "you're better than this," then pops into my room as a guest and CALLS MY PHONE which I screen when online, and gets pissy that i'm blowing him off despite my repeatedly telling him to stop contacting me. (I've since geoblocked the state he lives in now.)
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    My mom, dad,all of my friends,anyone i dated. I would be surprised if my brother knew because my sister in-law is incredibly nosey. I wish i could be more open about it because i love what i do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charlotteslut View Post
    Only close friends/family know. I suggest only telling people you can trust (or think you can trust lolol, but that's another discussion).

    I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly don't think it's good to be open to everyone about camming. Yes, people can find you online. Yes, it is nothing to be ashamed of. BUT It's not safe to tell people casually that you cam. There is no shortage of people willing to blackmail/shame/out/stalk/otherwise fuck over sex workers.
    I could not agree more. As a matter of fact, I have only recently began and low and behold was called out last night via Facebook message. Apparently, an old time friend and former supervisor seen my profile on ELM. I would not have been upset about him mentioning it as I always thought him a decent person, wrongo. He actually propositioned me for sex and ruined a 10 year friendship. Rather than just come out and tell me that he had seen my elm profile he started quoting things from my profile when he demanded that I send him nudey pics and meet up with him! What a prick!!! Sorry, so off topic but not even my mother knows. The only person who has a clue is my significant other. While I have a professional license to protect, I think safety is the biggest issues. So many men feel entitled, as did this jerk lastnight thinking that if you work in the sex industry you must just "give it up" all the time. Living in a small area, I also worry about how my children would be affected. I personally see no shame in it. After a turn of bad events in which the hospital I was employed did massive layoffs, a car accident and everything else known to man, working in this industry has supplemented my other work-from-home income or we would be out of a place to live. For me, keeping it under wraps is for my children, personal protection and career.

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    about 7 of my friends and a customs agent ( I don't know why but when he asked what I did for a living sex worker came out of my mouth and then I had to clarify myself).
    To every one else in the world who ask Im an entertainer. They always guess stripper or hooker and clearly my answer is always no so it just makes it so funny for me to watch their faces when they try to figure it out.
    To all the judgmentally people in my life, well I only have one, I just don't tell period. I'm never in the mood to have someone look down their nose at me.

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    right now only my bff and my wife ( twas her idea anyway XD ). Though to be honest I could care less who learns , but Im just not actively boasting about it ( though part of me wants to XD)
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    Everyone. Even if I go out on a date and am asked what I do for a living I tel him web cam, yes many don't like that, my first date becomes my last date at times. I have worked since I was 16 and went through college, I have not failed in life, just love the freedom of working at home when I want with the limitations I want. Outside jobs can't offer that.
    If I was in my 20's it would be different I am sure. I am now settled, and happy.

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    The people in my life that are aware that I cam or at least have an "unspoken understanding" about it are my boyfriend (who I first brought the idea up to, he was more supportive than I could have ever imagined!), my mother and my sister (19 yo). My sister knows that I work online but I think she has an idea that my job is in the adult industry. I have two younger brothers that I'm not sure I'll be comfortable telling until they're much older.

    I'm not really afraid of their opinions, my family has ALWAYS been super supportive with anything I chose to do in life, I'm just more worried about them accidentally telling their friends', etc and people spreading their narrow minded opinions around my brothers. I'd hate for them to go through something like that. :/

    My mother is quite literally my best friend, I absolutely wouldn't feel comfortable living a lifestyle I couldn't talk to her about. I guess I just REALLY lucked out, I have no idea how I would handle an over-involved mothers who was always trying to "rescue" me. I get enough of that online from the "white knight" guys. Eh.

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