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    I started dancing in October
    At a super fkn dive club
    By Thanksgiving
    I was done.
    I enjoyed meetin new people, the few girls I met
    Im not so sure why Im not dancing anymore
    Apart of the reason is.
    The guys went for less polished/attractive
    U had to look like the girl nxt door.
    Girls were sleeping with
    Management dwn to Doormen
    It was so many extras going
    On dudes would strictly come n grab
    N go or
    Dance once to see who's
    Trickin..
    "Im not pAyin for dances allnight
    I need more than that"
    I found myself sleepin with 6 guys.
    In a 2 month period.
    To either add to or get money.
    (i made the price they paid)
    I just had a baby 6 mnths prior
    To all of this.
    Feelings of guilt leaving her home
    With her grandmother.
    Until I catch a cab [email protected] 4 a.m.
    Nothing is more important to me
    Than my health,and safety
    In order to care for her properley.
    So I QUIT!
    Lets keep in mind im a student
    Im not gonna STRIP for fun
    Or enough to get back my housefee..
    There was not enough money n
    There..n it wasnr jus me!!
    I.was.considered a top girl
    (nothing [email protected] dive)
    Maybe I should try a bttr place.
    I got stuck there..somehow.

    F L I P S I D E....

    I have a fiance....who works as a electrician
    He makes good money we live okay.
    We have a few properties alot of crdit cards
    N bills. But
    Were at a time where bills are high
    Money is tight. He never knew anythinabout
    Me dancing.. He went out of town on a contracting job
    I really love him. We have been thru alot. Hes a good man
    We have fixed alot of issues hes changing on his
    Own he actually trusts me now pays my tuition
    And takes great care of our daughter. Tls me he loves me
    His respect for me as a mother to our child n my steo daughter
    He holds high in regaurd
    I am supposed to b getting married this summer.
    Idk wht to do.....
    I dnt wanna trip on how happy we could have been.

    I could lie n make up tons of stories n hide all evidence
    N live a double life. Jepordize my home, finance,and family.
    Lord knows id sacrafice anything but myself.
    Do I tell him I need more money.?
    Do I jus take my action n see wht happens?
    Sit my ass home n school n wait for wht
    He gives me?until I graduate.

    Stripping is all fun n money making
    Till your in love and torn between
    Making money and settling dwn.

    Voices are telling me "Bitch income tax season is here holidys
    Are over...u lost weight...they havent seen u...get a few custom honey
    Outfits n give those guys a reminder"...

    "everytime a woman DIDNT do something as a result of
    Having a boyfriend...later she regrets"

    Please give me any advice its appriciated.
    Thanks lovers!

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    Thanks for your candor; it's brave to say all this here. Whatever you do though, don't go back to your old club -- you'll have to relive your regrets a little bit each time you go back. But if you want to try making money maybe you could try a club that has a reputation of being more strict? It never hurts to aim high when auditioning, and you're at an advantage while your weight is down.

    As far as what to tell your fiance -- if the sex was unprotected, the only ethical thing is to tell him he's at risk of an STD unless he stays out of town for at least six months after your exposure (the worst ones take that long to show up). The best thing, of course, is to open your heart to him and hope he understands. If I were you I would consider splurging on a talk therapy session to get through this issue.

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    If you want to dance, dance, but don't hide it. You are planning on marrying this man and spending your life with him -- do you really want to start the marriage with a load of lies with no end in sight? Now, I'm all for giving it a couple of shifts first to see if you really want to be dancing before broaching that conversation, but you can only get away with keeping it hidden for so long.

    And +1 on not returning to that dive bar. There are better clubs out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by therealsafari View Post
    I started dancing in October
    Jepordize my home, finance,and family.
    Lord knows id sacrafice anything but myself.
    Do I tell him I need more money.?
    Do I jus take my action n see wht happens?
    Sit my ass home n school n wait for wht
    He gives me?until I graduate.

    Stripping is all fun n money making
    Till your in love and torn between
    Making money and settling dwn.
    "everytime a woman DIDNT do something as a result of
    Having a boyfriend...later she regrets"
    ^Your fiancé doesn't know you are considering dancing again, so you can't predict exactly how he will react. If it's something you are hoping to do, why not raise the subject with him, along with why you feel the need to get back into the industry. Hopefully he will be supportive, after all, it would take some of the finical pressure off him. If he isn't ok with it, you might be able to work something out i.e. it might make him aware of your finical situation and he may be able to help out. If needing to be at home with your daughter is an issue also, maybe camming would be a good source of income ( at least you could work from home).
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    I say dance if you want & if you need to keep it a secret then do so bc I was in a relationship last year & he always made sure I was taken care of then....... came his drug addiction & he went to rehab & dumped me & I was left homeless & broke! If you do decide to do it just save save save!!!!
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    I would absolutely not go back to that club. If you are a top earner and you aren't even making your fees back, there is no point in it. I agree with Lol, if you had unprotected sex with these customers you need to tell him so you can both get tested.

    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    I say dance if you want & if you need to keep it a secret then do so bc I was in a relationship last year & he always made sure I was taken care of then....... came his drug addiction & he went to rehab & dumped me & I was left homeless & broke! If you do decide to do it just save save save!!!!
    IMO, there is a difference between living with a bf/guy who pays your way, and living with a fiance that you have a child with. When you are in the situation of being with a fiancee/husband and you have a child/ren, it is no longer just your decision. At this point it is no longer
    Quote Originally Posted by therealsafari View Post
    "everytime a woman DIDNT do something as a result of
    Having a boyfriend...later she regrets"
    If you make the decision to play house and make babies, decisions no longer revolve around yourself. In a long term, committed relationship, things get more complicated. Your decisions need to be based on what is best for your family. And you can't be the only one to make decisions, the same as you fiance can't make all the decisions. They have to be made together. It came down to that when you decided to have a baby together. Are you going to feel like you regret things? Perhaps (sometimes I miss my old life), but in my opinion, it's worth missing out on stuff. Would you rather have your family over partying? Is dancing in secret more important than having them in your life?

    If money is getting tight I think you need to sit down with him to discuss the finances. Figure out how much your spending is versus how much he makes. Cut out non necessities and go from there. Then determine if you do need an extra income. Let him know you are willing to dance, but I think you should consider vanilla work. If you dance you have to know how to control the situation and draw boundries with customers. If you are going to dance, find a club you can make money at just dancing.

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