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    I am not one of those guys who expects for anything I do inside a strip club to translate to anything outside the club. I just consider it harmless fun. I am a boob man, and I like to meet up with girls that will let me play with their boobs for a reasonable price. But I met a girl at work, and we started talking and went out a few times. But since I often talked with the boys about my club exploits, word got to her. She told me that if I wanted to continue to see her, that I would have to stop cheating. I was taken aback because I have never had sexual intercourse with a stripper. She then said that touching another woman's boobs was cheating. Finding her to be unreasonable, I decided to move on. I never thought of what I was doing as that serious! I hope other girls are more understanding, because I like a variety of different kinds of boobs and I will not give up my club visits. There is nothing wrong with my attitude towards this, is there?

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    It's a social and relationship grey area and a fine line, it solely depends on your partner. However, in a round about way touching another women intimately IS cheating in a women's eyes. Most women wouldn't accuse you of cheating for getting a lap dance alone, but getting one at a high contact club would be crossing a line for many.

    You are paying for a service in the sex industry (even if you are not actually paying for sex) with sexual motives and the intent to engage in a sexual experience with a woman other than your partner. It can make a woman feel inadequate and question herself, in the same way many women get uncomfortable about their partners watching porn.

    Most women who have a significant problem with SC's in general are insecure, inexperienced and ignorant (not necessarily in a negative way, most just simply haven't been inside one, have had a bad experience in one and/or judge the clubs and dancers on second hand info' from the media, gossip etc).

    SC's are generally "harmless" and a form of entertainment. But, it depends on how the girl feels about them in general-every one is different. Some would see it as cheating, some wouldn't.
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    I know I wouldn't, personally, be able to be in a relationship with a man who was engaging in sexual contact with other woman on a regular basis (nor do I personally know any woman who are). You sound like you find it very arousing and that stops it from being harmless fun as far as most girls are concerned. Just remember, if you feel like that's acceptable, you couldn't really fault a girlfriend who really enjoys handling a variety of different kinds of dicks. She might not feel like it's cheating.

    That being said, there are all types of different relationships and if you're not the jealous type or you find a girl that is okay with that (while not doing anything either of you counts as cheating), then it's perfectly fine . Hopefully you find a girl you can be happy with

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    Quote Originally Posted by coma288 View Post
    if you feel like that's acceptable, you couldn't really fault a girlfriend who really enjoys handling a variety of different kinds of dicks. She might not feel like it's cheating.
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    This is why I don't date customers.

    I am a stripper and I can understand 100% why a girl wouldn't want to date a guy who goes to strip clubs. I would never date a guy who goes to strip clubs, EVER.

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    Mr. Cooper, how fair are you with this concept, would you date a girl (not a stripper) who regularly let any guy play with her breasts if they paid her? Would you think that was cheating in an exclusive relationship, or just harmless fun?
    This is just a question, not an implied judgment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigCodyCooper View Post
    I am not one of those guys who expects for anything I do inside a strip club to translate to anything outside the club. I just consider it harmless fun. I am a boob man, and I like to meet up with girls that will let me play with their boobs for a reasonable price. But I met a girl at work, and we started talking and went out a few times. But since I often talked with the boys about my club exploits, word got to her. She told me that if I wanted to continue to see her, that I would have to stop cheating. I was taken aback because I have never had sexual intercourse with a stripper. She then said that touching another woman's boobs was cheating. Finding her to be unreasonable, I decided to move on. I never thought of what I was doing as that serious! I hope other girls are more understanding, because I like a variety of different kinds of boobs and I will not give up my club visits. There is nothing wrong with my attitude towards this, is there?
    That is why you should keep your mouth shut about your exploits even to "the boys", you must learn to practice discretion. Basically one of the boys also wanted said girl and was butt hurt that she started seeing you so he spilled the beans.
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    Quote Originally Posted by safado View Post
    That is why you should keep your mouth shut about your exploits even to "the boys", you must learn to practice discretion. Basically one of the boys also wanted said girl and was butt hurt that she started seeing you so he spilled the beans.

    Loose lips sink ships. Keep your exploits on the down low. Why the need to share with the buds?

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    Some dudes can't help but let the other members of the pack know how swingingly it's going, and it's their undoing. And really, that very many women, perhaps a majority, will expect exclusivity at ALL levels of erotic contact if you're going to be a couple, should not be news to any fellow who has been around.

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    I told my bf that he can go to the SC anytime he wants. My only stipulations: The girl he gets dances from must be skinnier than me with bigger tits and all her teeth. His response: "Can I look outside of PA?"

    Last time we went to the SC I bought him a lapper with a hefty gal named Candy. He's never wanted to go back.

    Back to your question. SC's are harmless fun. I personally wouldn't want mine going but I've discovered there's more than one way to skin a cat. I don't need to nag or whine for my bf to realize what he has.
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    Thanks for the responses. I went to the club this evening after my Carolina Panthers lost because I was sad and really needed cheering up. The Sports place was very slow, so one of my favorite girls sat with me and when I decided to bring up the topic of this thread and she said "let's go in the back by ourselves where it's quieter and talk". She then told me that since I was her good friend, she was going to be straight up with me. I have to understand that girls just think differently about things like this than guys. What I see as harmless fun she probably saw as an act of disrespect. She asked me what her chest was like, and when I told her she was not bigger than a small B cup, she said that hearing about my "adventures" with girls' boobs probably hurt her and made her feel "not good enough". I had never stopped to think of it that way. I never meant to hurt her, but maybe I did. I am just a schmuck for not thinking things through more. My favorite then complimented me, but she did it in a way that made me feel bad. She said "a lot of guys I deal with in here are real jerks and losers, but you are a nice, smart good looking guy. You could get a girl easy if you just did the right things". I ended up feeling like she was saying I had to choose between strip clubs and having a steady girl. The thing is, I don't know if I can give up clubs. I don't meet many girls outside anyway because I am actually very shy with girls. The girl at work was someone I was assigned to work with on 12-hour shifts during one of our nuclear plant's refueling outages. She was outgoing and initiated stuff. The truth is, I am very shy with the girls. I am scared to approach them and scared of being rejected. Besides, I don't know if I'm cut out for monogamy. I love boobs- I think maybe I have an addiction. I'm a sad little man I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigCodyCooper View Post
    I ended up feeling like she was saying I had to choose between strip clubs and having a steady girl. The thing is, I don't know if I can give up clubs. I don't meet many girls outside anyway because I am actually very shy with girls. The girl at work was someone I was assigned to work with on 12-hour shifts during one of our nuclear plant's refueling outages..
    I know a lot of girls who are okay with their boyfriends going to strip clubs, it's the fondling other women thing that bothers them (I can't speak for all women). Speaking personally, I love watching other women hit on my boyfriend, the condition being that I'm
    there for it. If he went to a club, any club without me and I heard from friends that he was making out with/fondling other girls; I'd be really hurt.

    That being said, most guys love tits, maybe watch more porn? Or next time you're in a relationship try giving her tits more love? There are plenty of great things you can do with you SO's breasts :p

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    Unless Dolly Parton comes to my neck of the woods I'm not worried.

    Me, personally I wouldn't get butthurt about it. I would just change my strategy. I don't give my boyfriend a reason to go to the strip club.

    Just move on and find a hot chick with big tits. (Unless you really like this oe)
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigCodyCooper View Post
    I have to understand that girls just think differently about things like this than guys. What I see as harmless fun she probably saw as an act of disrespect. She asked me what her chest was like, and when I told her she was not bigger than a small B cup, she said that hearing about my "adventures" with girls' boobs probably hurt her and made her feel "not good enough". I had never stopped to think of it that way. I never meant to hurt her, but maybe I did.
    ^Well at least you now know this, for the future. Enjoying a SC trip and being a "boob man" is nothing to be ashamed of, but it's nothing you need to share with an SO in the initial stages of your relationship either. I'm sure she doesn't air the fact the she fantasises about *insert celeb'* here with you, but it doesn't mean that she doesn't think about them intimately, during sexual activities with you or alone etc. It's good to be open and honest in relationships, but only to a certain point IMO. Harmless white lies are not unhealthy i.e. "Yes I went to the SC with the boys. No honey, of course I didn't get a dance. We just had a few beers after work". It's not a complete "lie" and it saves her the hurt. This keeps everyone happy, short term, casually. If you are looking for a serious relationship, you may have to make sacrifices .
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigCodyCooper View Post
    The thing is, I don't know if I can give up clubs. I don't meet many girls outside anyway because I am actually very shy with girls. The girl at work was someone I was assigned to work with on 12-hour shifts during one of our nuclear plant's refueling outages. She was outgoing and initiated stuff. The truth is, I am very shy with the girls. I am scared to approach them and scared of being rejected. Besides, I don't know if I'm cut out for monogamy. I love boobs- I think maybe I have an addiction. I'm a sad little man I guess.
    Why are you worried about not being able to meet other women when you're dating one right now? Honestly you sound like a young, immature guy who is not ready for a real relationship. Stop wasting this girl's time and enjoy you're strip club exploits. There's nothing wrong with not being ready for a relationship and wanting to have fun but there is something wrong with wasting a nice girl's time because you don't want to have to face that fact.

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    Strip clubs are nothing but harmless fun, and nothing bad ever happens there.
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    OP, I know I would consider it cheating if a guy I was dating was playing with other boobs, even if he was paying. I would feel uncomfortable dating a man who went to clubs anyway but definitely one who paid for play. Incidentally I never let a guy play with my boobs and I would think it was creepy if a customer did that but I understand it's pretty common now. Still doesn't mean I would like it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by coma288 View Post
    I know I wouldn't, personally, be able to be in a relationship with a man who was engaging in sexual contact with other woman on a regular basis (nor do I personally know any woman who are).

    ...if you feel like that's acceptable, you couldn't really fault a girlfriend who really enjoys handling a variety of different kinds of dicks. She might not feel like it's cheating.

    Exactly! I have never bought into that horseshit about how a lapdance means nothing at all and women shouldn't be upset at all about their boyfriends or husbands getting them.

    99.9% of the time, if those guys found out their wife just let 'Max' at Le Bare rub his dick all over her pussy for a half hour, it would suddenly no longer be 'just harmless fun'.



    Then you get the people who think that a few micromillimeters of fabric between the dick and the pussy somehow means that the dick and the pussy weren't really just rubbing all over each other for 30-40 minutes straight. Give me a fucking break. I can see how if it is at work and the woman has become desensitized to the sexual nature of the process, it might not be a sexual experience for her--but it is still very much a sexual experience for the guy. How that is not cheating on the woman back home that he isn't telling about it is beyond me...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    I can see how if it is at work and the woman has become desensitized to the sexual nature of the process, it might not be a sexual experience for her--but it is still very much a sexual experience for the guy.
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    Every time I read about the lap dance of now I remind myself that I am glad I no longer dance. I wouldn't like the idea of feeling some stranger's dick even if I don't see it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    99.9% of the time, if those guys found out their wife just let 'Max' at Le Bare rub his dick all over her pussy for a half hour, it would suddenly no longer be 'just harmless fun'.
    I think your numbers are very high. Middle ages married people are quite often sexually bored. Once you have kids together, a mortgage have built a life have years of building up trust. Her cumming from some other guy, especially a guy whose she's paying to make her cum isn't a threat. An affair with a real friend would be different but a male stripper, heck no.

    About 6 months ago I offered a help a female friend a rather wild divorce party since all of her friends (excluding her daughter and son in law, and that would be way-way inappropriate) couldn't throw a wild party to save their lives. Typical locked door male strip club... My wife is closer to her than I am and would have been in attendance. And frankly male strippers on average get much raunchier than their female counterparts.

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    "Aren't strip clubs just harmless fun?"

    No, they are lucrative businesses.

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    No. Strip Clubs are places women go who need more money quicker than at a vanilla job and in return placate alpha-male pricks whom get their rocks off exerting their perceived power, and exploit beta-male cringies whom lack the confidence to get sexual attention from women and are willing to trade cash for a chance at companionship; and at the end of the night, will either go home with fists full of wads of sweet, sweet cash which they will throw on their beds and roll around in, or nothing at all giving what little they earned back in tips and house fees to go home and drink their pain away.

    But, I like to think of them as wonderful dance clubs where women get naked and shake it to some rock n' roll!
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    I would be mad if my partner went to clubs and grabbed women's boobs too. Why would he do that, when he has me? I understand going to a strip club to have drinks and watch dancers. But paying for dances and especially touching them would make me angry as a girlfriend.

    It depends on the girl of course, but I think most would be angry with it.
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    Strip clubs are a sure-fire path to second base for what might work out to be a better deal than trying to get to that point on a second date, given a success rate of less than 100%. I think that for the perspective of a high quality girl dating a guy, that should be unacceptable.

    But it depends on the locale. Another discussion held elsewhere pointed out that in some places, Texas was the particular example, SC's are open after bars close, so some guys just go there as an after-hours place to hang out and aren't there for private dances.

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