What is a good anniversary present for my ATF? For say about 50 euros. I got her a CD for her birthday and I want it to be something a bit different. Can you get decent jewellery for that kind of money?

What is a good anniversary present for my ATF? For say about 50 euros. I got her a CD for her birthday and I want it to be something a bit different. Can you get decent jewellery for that kind of money?

One year anniversary of when I stumbled drunkenly into the club and had my first private dance with her.
Personally, I'd rather just have the 50€.

Fair enough, you're saying it's a bit of a pointless exercise?

What you are saying makes sense to me, but somehow I'm not fully convinced. If I simply give her the money then I think that's going to be a bit awkward.
Oh, well. I'm sure you're right. I do want to make her happy.





Seriously, if you think handing a stripper extra money is going to be awkward I think you need to reexamine your situation with this woman. You've known her for a year but you are still a customer and she is still a dancer. If, after a year, you know so little about her that you can't think of a gift on your own that tells me that she has not exactly been an open book with you about her interests, likes, dislikes etc. That translates to her keeping you in the customer zone. Enjoy the dances, give her a nice tip for what you consider to be a special occasion. If you knew her all that well you would know what she might like for a gift.
It's only going to feel awkward for you, not her. You are equating it with putting cash in a box, wrapping it with a bow, and giving it as a Christmas gift to a family member. That would be awkward. But she is not family/girlfriend, so when you give her the larger-than-normal tip, be sure to say "happy Anniversary to us" or something.





I would say tell her you'd like to treat her to dinner (nothing else) away from the club to commemorate the anniversary (that she's probably unaware of). If she declines, sbe's really not someine you need to feel obliged to such a gift.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill

Fair enough, that's a pretty good idea.




Giving jewelry might cause some stress. When a regular of mine gave me some I appreciated it for a few minutes until I realized I'd have to remember to wear it when he came by the club an appropriate amount of times. Since I don't like wearing jewelry in my personal life it added an extra few minutes to my pre-work scramble.
Please just give her a nice tip! If you need to be romantic get her a rose along with it, just don't waste money on an expensive arrangement. Cash is the only gift I've ever been truly grateful for in a club.





While bem's suggestion might be a good idea if you were trying to figure out if you are "more than just a customer" it's also quite possible that she will be annoyed by your request and put you in the category of "needy customer". To be honest, after a year, I would think the topic of an OTC lunch or dinner would have already come up if there was any interest on her end.
Don't try to push things into a direction that could only cause her discomfort unless you are willing to risk annoying a dancer that you seem to enjoy spending time with.





I would advise forgetting all about the idea of any kind of 'anniversary', especially as far as bringing it up to her.
Your best bet for the money would be to spend the 50 euros on another, new dancer.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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Lots of great points above, many of which are worth re-reading. I would say that, from a different perspective, it's worth a little self-check to see who you're really doing this for. I have a friend who I occasionally SC with, who is always bringing the girls presents, despite our discussions where I'd advised him to take a different route. Then it hit me -- it's not really about the girls, it's about him. Part of what he loves about the SC is finding an ATF, and treating her like a little princess. He does a lot of worldwide business travel, and I suppose going shopping for his ATF-of-the-month keeps him busy, and he loves loves bringing her in gifts and having her make a fuss. I don't think he really wants to know about what the girls do with his stuff, although I have to say some of it is pretty damn cool stuff from lots of different countries. But he's getting what he wants out of his strip club visits, and I am not tempted to slap some sense into him as long as that remains his attitude. If he was really trying to please her, I'd talk more sense into him.
For myself, among the most dramatic reactions to a gift I gave was one that cost me nothing and took me about 60 seconds to make ... but to yoda's point above, I knew her well enough to know exactly the right thing to give, I wouldn't have gotten anywhere near the reaction if I'd spent $75 on a gift that a bunch of strangers on the internet suggested




I love sitting at the bar while the girls try to figure out what to do with flowers brought for them.
too nice to throw away but can't bring them home...........





They quite often give the flowers to the DJs. No joke.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I think it's sweet that you are giving her an "anniversary present", but, like the other girls have mentioned-money never goes astray (and it's easier). Perhaps you could get her something small and thoughtful, as well as taking her to the VIP to "celebrate"? You could offer to buy her an outfit of her choosing from the dress maker, if the club has one (I've seen this happen a lot).
“Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world” -Marilyn Monroe
"True sexiness has many facets-confidence, strength, intelligence, and humor. It isn’t just about trying to look sexy; it’s an art and one becomes skillful in it when she realizes that there are all these conflicting elements that all come together to make something magical"-Dita Von Teese





^This! Dinner isn't a gift for her, it would be one for you (initiating OTC contact from you) and she may or may not be comfortable with that. You have a fun business relationship, so giving her a "gift" is like someone getting a Christmas card or a gift hamper from a co worker or client-it's a nice gesture, it's courteous and makes the client feel special and thought of.
“Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world” -Marilyn Monroe
"True sexiness has many facets-confidence, strength, intelligence, and humor. It isn’t just about trying to look sexy; it’s an art and one becomes skillful in it when she realizes that there are all these conflicting elements that all come together to make something magical"-Dita Von Teese

I don't think the club has a dress maker. Getting her an outfit would be nice but I wouldn't be good at choosing her the right one and I wouldn't know what her size was.
I've actually been thinking that buying her some kind of funny TV series on DVD would probably be the way to go, I think she would probably like that.

Yeah, you are right, it would be more of a present for me than for her. She knows I want to take her out to dinner so she would say if she wanted that.










I would suggest your best bet might be a gift card to a store you know she likes. That way it will be something she chooses that you got for her rather than a stack of twenties. Then again, I'm of the position that if she isn't willing to socialize with you outside of work (and outside of getting paid to do it), what is the point of giving her a gift if the relationship is that impersonal? I have spent a lot of time away from the club with a lot of different dancers and I always found that more enjoyable than club time with them, regardless of how we spent the time.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill





Exactly, especially considering finding the perfect piece of jewelry that a woman will like is not easy task for a husband for his wife, you finding something she's truely going to love (when you seem to have no idea what to give her in the first place) is unlikely. Sorry but that's the truth. I have had so many boyfriends give me jewelry that I absolutely hated and just had to grit my teeth smile and say thank you babe! The best gifts I've gotten from boyfriends were ones that we picked out together but I don't think that's an option in this situation.
And, you're not a boyfriend, sorry. She's at work so what she really needs is money, not a gift. Just smile and say "here's a little extra as a thank you for such a great year of dances, can't wait to see you again" or something.

I know I am not her boyfriend and I know she needs to make money and I intend to spend generously. I just like the idea of getting her a gift that she will actually like. The more fool I, maybe.
She got me a Christmas present. She gave me a USB stick with a season of "The Big Bang Theory" ('cause I am a maths nerd) and a picture of her holding a glass of wine at a party. It was a nice Christmas present and I liked it. I just like the idea of getting her something she likes in return. But never mind.
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