
Originally Posted by
rickdugan
Well, from her perspective, she gave birth to you, raised you all those years and, in the process, invested a lot of her hopes and dreams in you. On a less fluffy note, I also have no doubt that she wants to be able to say, "My daughter does ABC." In fact, this was what was supposed to give her own life more meaning and make her supposed sacrifices all worthwhile. But instead feels like she has to hide what her daughter does from other people.
But the reality is that grown adults need to follow their own paths, whether or not their parents are disappointed. Taking the alternative path is never easy, especially early on, and it often involves having a few (or more) tough conversations with those parents. But IME most parents eventually back off if the grown child in question makes it clear that her choices are not open for discussion.
As for your brother, if I were you I would tell him to shut his fucking mouth or hit the bricks. Seriously, you were kind enough to put him up and he repays you by running his mouth to Mommy.
Good luck!
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