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    Default Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I'm a bit torn over this topic. When I was younger I was really naive and I feel for douche bags who preyed upon me. Every time a guy misleads or cheats on me I feel the need to get revenge. I know moving on and being happy will make them miserable but I just can't resist doing more to hurt them.

    People say Jodi Arias was crazy. I agree but I felt bad for her. Players don't realize they're playing a dangerous game. I wouldn't kill someone. I wanted to attack cheaters in the past but I didn't.

    I get revenge by damaging their reputations. I accidentally found out one was a con artist running all kinds of scams and made that info available to a bunch of people. Another tried to get away without paying money he owed me so I harassed and threatened him and his family until he gave me the money. There was another I told his gf he cheated when he didn't she dumped him and kicked his broke ass out of her house.

    Is it wrong or crazy to get revenge? Does anyone have any stories about revenge or leaving gracefully?
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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    no its not crazy..i've struggled a bit with it. wanting to wreak vengeance is human nature. i've always struggled with it, to the point where i actually considered sneaking into my cheating ex's backyard and slashing his tires when i was younger. lol.
    with the con artist, you did nothing wrong at all. you were protecting other ppl from him! you gotta make sure that you aren't hurting yourself more than them in the process though! or you aren't hurting other innocent people. i guess it really depends on the situation.. most dickheads will get what's coming to them, but it makes me angry as hell when i see these scumbags getting away with shit over and over again..do i know where you are coming from. i guess its better to let them bring themselves down in most situations, although i have to say if anybody bady hurts my family or anybody close to me..they will be feeling my wrath! haha. idk, its an interesting discussion

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I'm actually pretty vengeful when it comes to cheaters. It's SO disrespectful to cheat on someone who thinks they're in a monogamous relationship with the cheater; it hurts the person who got cheated on, not to mention it puts them at risk for being infected with STDs because the cheater didn't want to be monogamous. So it's not only going to emotionally hurt someone, it's also putting their health at risk.

    I'm not saying cheaters deserve to die lol, but if a person does something so dirty and disrespectful such as cheat, the person who was cheated on deserves a rightful revenge. Nothing overboard, but some kind of payback.

    I know some people believe in letting it go and letting karma do the work or letting the cheater get what's coming to them, and that's fine too. But when someone gets cheated on I feel they have every right to be pissed and seek payback.
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    I've never really had to get revenge on the shady types because they are prone to making really shitty choices and destroying their own lives. I'm not really talking about relationships though, just people in general. I swear ~*natural revenge*~ without my influence, or ~*karma*~ as some call it (though the word karma in Buddhism means something completely different), has happened to EVERYONE who ever did something shitty to me, lmao.

    But I mean, if you want to seek revenge, that's totally your choice. Some shit is hard as fuck to let go of.

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    It's hard not to want to get revenge.
    Cheating is a horrible, horrible thing that ruins peoples lives.
    It's unfair that the person who was cheated on has to endure emotional pain, probably have future issues with trust, and be forced to pick up the pieces alone while the cheater has few, if any real consequences and basically gets to walk free.
    Karma is a nice theory and all, but who wants to sit around and wait for that to happen after someone fucked your life up?

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    For me personally, if I've already wasted a lot of time and energy on a douchebag than I am really not interested in wasting more of my time in hopes of seeing them suffer when I could be using that time to better my own life by making more money on cam.

    If something was to drop in my lap (i.e. someone asking me an opinion or for a personal reference on the person's personality) then I am not going to be all kumbaya about it or anything. I won't bite my tongue but I don't really see the merit in throwing my time resources into making someone else's life worse when I could make my own life better.

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    I see nothing wrong with giving those who scam financially a taste of their medicine. Many years ago I came across a con artist who was also a pimp. He lied to me claiming he worked in radio and all of that. He didn't, he worked as a DJ in a strip club on the side of his pimping. He stupidly talked me into moving in with him and allowing his access to the checking account of my business. He then drained all the money and when I wouldn't hook he kicked me out! It doesn't stop there, he got me fired from a club I was dancing as well. Yes If I could figure out a way to scam him back or hurt him I would, even though this took place years ago. He ruined my life, my business and for many years my trust of men.

    This loser frequents strip club forums and is likely here whether he posts or not. His game is to talk women into this idea he has connections to industry people, and that he is related to a famous producer. In fact he contacted me on another strip club site I used to post at and I managed to get his email and play stupid. He is delusional and thinks 300 pounds is a normal weight and he lies about his age too. I also found him on a dating site claiming to be an entertainment manager.

    Cheaters to me though are another story. In that case I would just dump them on be on my way. Cheaters aren't worth doing anything about, except perhaps letting their partners they are cheating.

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I have been in situations where I was very tempted to get revenge on a cheating ex. However, I never went through with anything because I didn't want any of that drama reflecting on me. Recently a friend went through her boyfriend's phone and posted his philandering texts all over her Instagram. She got her revenge certainly against the ex and the side chick but I think that overall it just made her look lame.

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I forgot to add, I think at the very least if the person your significant other was cheating on you with is in a relationship, their spouse/bf/gf needs to be made aware.

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I tend to fantasize heavily about vengeance on evil exes and use it as my gym fuel. I work out harder when I pretend it's to be able to run from the cops after setting my ex on fire or some shit.



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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    Quote Originally Posted by Genoveve View Post
    I am naturally a pretty vengeful person myself but I think in situations like this the best thing to do for yourself is to completely just move on. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is. With toxic people you need to get to where you just plain don't give a shit either way in regards to them and acts of revenge is not conducive to that. Thinking of revenge means you are still focusing on them.
    yes yes yes, i agree in the sense that this is specific to relationships. (I think scam artist cheating would be dealt with differently). i mean, the urge for revenge is there, sure. but...yeah...by still focusing on this shitty individual, you're holding on to the negative emotions and ultimately become the toxic person yourself. usually the "punishment" is totally unbalanced....i mean, my [former] dude's ex was pissed that he moved on so she keyed his car. Hmmm...it's fucking lame & expensive for the person whose car is now scratched, but....then you become the weirdo who may require a restraining order.

    Ruin the person's reputation? That means you're talking shit (generally an unbecoming quality) or LYING as you mentioned in your post. That's not cool either.
    You threatened the family? How is it that they should even be involved with the subject at hand? I mean, wouldn't we say how fucked up it is if a guy is threatening to out a girl to her family? Also NOT.COOL. AT.ALL. Same thing were you to screw with their job or professional life.

    Those are all easy ways to get revenge, but then you become the person who is playing DIRTY. Moving on, even when it's the worst pain imaginable, saves yourself the madness in the long run.
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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I think the problem, like MellyMay said, is that punishments tend to be out of balance with what they did to you. Yes, it's terrible that they cheated on you and broke your heart, but ruining other parts of their life has nothing to do with that. They temporarily fucked up your romantic life - they didn't ruin your professional, familial, or social life by cheating on you. (If they did actually ruin other parts of your life, that's a whole separate problem). It's one thing to warn others that they are a cheater, or to expose a con artist to protect others - it's another thing to harass them in other areas of their life and try to ruin everything for them, especially to the point of making stuff up. That's not a "just punishment" to fit the crime. It's just childish.

    What they did to you sucks, but it's not your job to distribute karmic punishment all over their life because they ruined your romantic relationship. It just makes you look crazy and people sympathize with them, not you. I'm not condoning cheating at all, but I think the leap to "they aren't good at romantic relationships" to "they must be terrible people through and through who deserve to have their entire life fucked with" is a rather large stretch. I say keep your personal relationship nonsense between the two of you and walk away. It's not pretty to spend so much time obsessing over revenge and showing other people how much you can't move on from them.
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    I also think..... we, as women, get enough of the "That chick is crazy" or "What a crazy bitch" etc etc etc.

    By doing outrageously destructive stuff, it just fuels the fire and perpetuates that thought process. And THAT does not serve us well.
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    I can't help but fantasize about vengeance but I'd like to think next time I get screwed over I will just let it go and not waste my time. Although it would be funny to leave the next cheater stranded in the worst ghetto in my city. I agree ignoring is the worst punishment it's just so hard. The ex who I threatened him until he paid me back still emails me 5 yrs later trying to talk to me. It was wrong of me to harass his family prob went too far but I would have been out of thousands if I didn't. He ignored me until I contacted them. Right before he paid me back he said I will give it to you if you agree to leave my family alone. Once I agreed he gave me my money. Sometimes it's necessary to play dirty if you want to get things done.

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    Revenge is like a catch 22.

    It may feel good in the moment but in the long run acting out revenge may cost more than you can imagine. Ever heard of crimes of passion? Trust me I've been there but came to my senses.

    And there are times when you have to give f*ckers a dose of their own medicine so they quit f*cking with you.

    I guess it depends on the situation.

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    When my college ex cheated on me, I told the mothers of his godchildren (they're VERY Catholic) what he did so that they knew who was in charge of their childrens' souls for a while. Their boyfriends were also there the night that my boyfriend cheated, so I did want them to know that the same thing could have happened to them too given the setting and situation. He's no longer a godparent (not going to lie, finding out this part was VERY satisfying), and despite his efforts for 8 years for us to get back together I just won't talk to him.

    The ex after that who cheated, I just won't talk to despite his efforts to contact me. He's going to do a fantastic job self-destructing on his own.

    I used to obsess over my exes for a while, even though I wouldn't return their attempts at contact. I wanted them to feel all of the horrible things that I felt as a result of what they chose to do to me and our relationships. I was a very toxic person for a while. Then I finally realized that they have their own pain to deal with; they're both too self-absorbed and clueless to figure out WHY they do what they do (cheaters are insecure and have to fill the void with other things) and how to communicate properly so they will always be caught up in their own personal hell.

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    Ive always like the phrase " you wont be punished for your anger, you'll be punished by your anger."

    ultimately it will always boil down to your own personal moral stances and how you view things. I personally just let it go. The only time it happened I couldn't say I wasn't upset and hurt. - but I didn't let it linger or fester, didnt want to do anything that would make a situation potentially worse or have it spill over and cross contaminate anything else in my life. I simply moved on. revenge would have accomplished anything except waste my time and energy over something already done with. All it would do would make them angry and cause issues that will bite me in the ass later, wouldn't give closure- but sure as hell not fix anything, just add onto a toxic situation.

    Then again this is me- I cant speak for anyone else
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    I don't go out of my way to get revenge, but if the opportunity arose (say, someone mentions their friend is dating him) I won't hesitate to voice my opinion.

    Usually these people self destruct on their own. Case in point is my ex who jerked me around for a couple years, told people I was crazy and stalking him, etc. The last summer I spoke to him, he had keyed my car and was showing up to all the same parties and harassing me via text and verbally... So of course everyone realized it was HE who was obsessive and being a shitty person. It was a HUGE slap in the face to him when one night he chugged an entire bottle of whiskey and when they tried to stop him driving, someone said "Nah man, we don't give a shit if you want to kill yourself, just don't risk other people." His friends had basically turned on him and I'm sure it hurt him; they left him in the yard to go hang out with the girl he'd been talking shit about. He still harasses me to this day but I haven't seen him at a party or bar in a LONG time... Idiot lost a few friends obviously... Karma and running his mouth caught up to him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morrigan View Post
    Ive always like the phrase " you wont be punished for your anger, you'll be punished by your anger."
    I love that, it's so true!^ Lot of good wisdom on here.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Morrigan View Post
    Ive always like the phrase " you wont be punished for your anger, you'll be punished by your anger."
    I love that! In the same vein, there is the saying there are two wolves inside all of us - love and hatred, and the one that grows is the one you feed.

    I also think it is so hard to walk away from people who hurt us because of what psychologist Marvin Lerner calls the "Just World Theory." It says that "we're motivated to believe that the world is a fair place. The alternative—a universe where bad things happen to good people—is too upsetting. So we engage defense mechanisms such as blaming the victim—“She shouldn’t have dressed that way”—or trusting that positive and negative events will be balanced out by karma, a form of magical thinking." I think we subconsciously employ this idea when we seek revenge. They did something bad so they must be punished, or it's "not fair." If I don't punish them, then I am "letting" them "get away" with treating me badly.

    Walking away from someone negative who hurt you is not about "allowing" them to get away with anything - it's about you deciding that you are worth more than wasting your time and energy thinking about them for another second. The world isn't "fair" and sometimes shitty people do shitty things to good people, and it's not your fault, but it's also not necessarily your job to "even the playing field" by "punishing" them any way you feel like it. There's a difference between making sure harmful people aren't getting the chance to harm and dupe others who might not see them for what they are, and just flat-out wanting to "get even" because you are mad that they didn't follow the "rules" of how you think the world should be.

    I think it's really difficult to step outside this mindset that everything is personal. They did this thing to me, they treated me this way, and if I let them get away with it, then it's my fault and I'm the weak one. When really, whatever shitty things other people do is about them and them alone, and you can make the decision to not take it personally and forget about them.

    It's so hard. I know. Trust me. I struggle with it every day, but I know I'm making the right choice to just keep avoiding them instead of going off. It ultimately leads to longer-lasting happiness and peace. Being the bigger person isn't necessarily about others knowing that you're the bigger person. It's something you do for yourself so you don't feel the burden of carrying around hate and anger.
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    If you really feel the need for revenge, you may find something humorous is just as satisfying as something mean. The old flaming bag of dog poop on the front step etc.

    Your lasting image can be of them trying to get dog poop out of their shoes rather than banging your former best friend

    Plus wrapping their car in saran wrap carries a lot less jail time than running them over with your car

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    Here's a random example of revenge totally backfiring: [admittedly, i reaad TMZ too much ]

    Justin Beiber egged his neighbor's house the other day.
    Now he may be charged for a felony because the damage exceeds ____ dollars. From eggs. Just eggs.

    So....his retaliation penalty is now gonna be way disproportionate to what probably instigated it, aka a noise complaint & exchange of words.

    Granted, this is an extreme case and we can't all live in mansions, but..... I think it just goes to show that revenge can be both financially detrimental in addition to dragging you down mentally/emotionally. And I'm sure court appearances are liekly a HUGE pain in the ass.

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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    I don't believe in revenge or hurting others emotionally etc, but of course we ALL feel and think about it after a bad break up (it's only natural). For example, I like to be the one who moves on first.

    I prefer to completely cut ties with people who hurt or disappoint me in general (i.e. people who don't add anything positive to my life). This hurts people more than you expect, no one wants to be forgotten or feel like they were always dispensable or replaceable.
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    Default Re: Is it okay to get revenge on cheaters or players?

    The first guy I fell really hard for was a player but I wasn't aware of it at all. We did not have friends in common, I met him online. His relationships typically last 2 weeks to 3 months and we were together for 7 months. When he left me and gave me excuses that did not make any sense, I felt so broken inside.

    I was hurt very often in the past and had a difficult childhood, no family and don't have many friends. I find it very hard to trust others and establish significant relationships, wether it be friendship or romantic relationships. He was the nicest person I've met ever who treated be the best... I would have never thought he would make me suffer this much, when I finally opened myself to someone and let him in my life.

    I wasn't able to accept the end of us. I harrassed him and tried to hurt him in every way I could, attacking his insecurities. It was immature of me and I regret it. Knowing it affected him didn't make me feel better, when I was telling him things I should have never said, it also hurted me.

    What he did wasn't right, I don't want to get into details but he also has his own problems. I understand more now, it wasn't his intention to inflict so much pain to me or other women he's been with but it doesn't excuse what he did. I apologized to him months later. The best thing to do is move on and take it as a lesson learned.

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