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    Default What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    I'm sure you girls are no stranger to this.

    I had three regulars. One German, one Swiss, and one American. The German didn't tip much but always talked so I didn't have an issue talking with him. He bought my snapchat and whatsapp (at a huge discount just because he was a nice guy and the first one to ever talk to me when I started). Everything was alright until he started trying to give me advice constantly (you should change your room topic to... you should make this cheaper... no, don't do that, do this...), talk to me 24/7 (like send me 5 messages after I didn't answer the first), and ask why I "did it for money, not just for fun" (seriously? It's fun and all but I'm not going to sit there naked for 8 hours for free, ass). So I got fed up with that and blocked him. Then the Swiss guy would spend a lot on me, but he had a girlfriend and wanted me to come meet him anyway. He'd ask me to come meet him every day. And then his girlfriend would find my cam girl Facebook and yell at me on there, calling me a whore and stuff. So I blocked her and ignored it. And then he would just say derogatory shit to me, like "Wow, you're not making anything today! " and "Some girls can make 2000 just showing their boobs, but not you " and other rude shit. So I blocked him too. I figured the money isn't worth being treated like crap and having his girlfriend after me. And the American is the worst so far. He asked for used panties, which I have been selling to him. And he got a bit creepy. "You can trust me. I'm your friend. I care about you." over and over. Once you say "you can trust me" fifty times, I don't believe it, sorry. He found my personal Facebook account, tried to add me. I said "No, I don't mix this and personal life." and said he can add my cam girl FB. He said "No, I want your real one. I want to be your real friend." and tried to add me again. I again said no. Then yesterday morning he adds me AGAIN. And I block him off Facebook. He emailed me asking if I was okay (going through personal problems so took the last 3 days off of camming to think about life)...

    Long story short: How do you deal with creepy ass regulars that won't STFU and legitimately creep you out? My partner says I should stick with them because they pay me so who cares. But I swear, some of them (like the above) drive me crazy to the point where I wonder if their business is even worth it. Plus, it's not smart to rely on just two regulars for your income you know? Shouldn't I always be looking to entice new customers? I recently got another regular who is normal and fun to talk to, and I pray and PRAY he does not turn out psycho like the others. Am I going about this the right way? Should I block them or just stick through it or what? I don't know if I'm doing the right thing here.
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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    Block them. Don't waste your energy, there will be more customers.


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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    Block 'em and forget 'em. You wouldn't let someone treat you like that in real life so why settle just cuz they're paying to treat you badly? No dollar is worth worry or stress. If you don't enjoy them get rid of them. Seems like an easy choice to me!

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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    I ban them for the rest of the year.

    Usually by the time I unban them a year later they are a lot nicer and less creepy to me.

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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    I don't give them the chance to be anything other than a customer. Your safety and peace of mind is far more important than appeasing regulars. We all need/want/like money but you shouldn't be harassed or made to feel uncomfortable over it. I'm sweet but I make it very clear that I'm a fantasy and that is all I will ever be. You can let them down softly but still get their money. If they don't understand, let them go because they all have an expiration date and will be replaced by a new customer anyway.




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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    Quote Originally Posted by kortneykay View Post
    I don't give them the chance to be anything other than a customer. Your safety and peace of mind is far more important than appeasing regulars. We all need/want/like money but you shouldn't be harassed or made to feel uncomfortable over it. I'm sweet but I make it very clear that I'm a fantasy and that is all I will ever be. You can let them down softly but still get their money. If they don't understand, let them go because they all have an expiration date and will be replaced by a new customer anyway.
    Yes! Even regulars who I thought would always be with me have eventually stopped visiting, or they'll just lurk now. It stings at first, but life goes on, and with the high traffic these sites get you can rest assured there will be other customers after them.

    Also, beware of the spenders who think they're entitled to have your phone number and free this-and-that. It's become the norm for MFC models to give their phone number to the highest tipper, but you don't have to offer that if you don't want to. I sure as hell don't, and a former regular made a smart-ass remark about me (to a fellow model) about how I won't give out my phone number because I'm "too paranoid." *rolls eyes* Do you see how spoiled and entitled some of these guys are? That guy used to be a very good tipper, but now I'm just glad to be rid of him.
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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    Me? I never take a customers advice when it comes to MY JOB!
    I never let them into my life other than at work.
    I will get pissed and tell the this is my JOB, knock it off, you want to play go someplace else.
    Tell them you will block them before you do it. This has helped me get a few back on track.
    Don't lead them on, don't play games for money, empty promises.
    And most of all, never believe those that KEEP trying to get into anything other than you JOB, they are out to fuck you over.
    Kick, block, ban, report it's all in your hands. These guys are out to meet and just sat back paid you, waited hoping to suck you in, they are not friends, they are disgusting!

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    Default Re: What do you do when regulars get... weird?

    Block them and don't talk to them anymore.
    You will get more customers. Although you may not be able to find regular ones very quick just bear with it for a while.
    Soon you will find better ones.

    Camming can really drain you if you talk to customers like that, it could make you even depressed.
    They are not good. So just ban them and forgot about them.

    Whenever a customer annoyed me and i can't bear with it anymore. Then i always ban them even if they are good customers.

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    Blocking these dudes is ESSENTIAL. I'm in a position now where I dread getting on cam because I know such & such guy is gonna contact me. It's negatively affecting my bottom line. And....if anything is making you uncomfortable, it's prob not worth the energy being put into it.
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    I kick or block them. Loveshooks pretty much covered all the things I would've said. I will say that camming has helped me be assertive and a take no b.s. type of person.
    Quote Originally Posted by loveshooks View Post
    A big part of camming (and maintaining sanity) involves establishing and maintaining boundaries, and I'd argue that this is even more vital when one has a style of camming that's 'regular-centric', for lack of a better phrase. I enjoy my guys, in a lot of cases I allow them to get pretty close with me, but my barometer for acceptable behavior on cam is the same as it is off cam. In my private life I don't spend time with people who annoy me, disparage me, cling, intrude or try to emotionally manipulate me, I'd sure as hell never allow a client to behave that way.

    The moment someone starts to make you feel uncomfortable, on cam or off it's time to bounce them. As far as keeping them around simply for the $$$$, I'd imagine you'll have more time and energy to devote to interacting with new clients once you break off with these guys who are monopolizing your energy. Never rely on one guy or a small handful of guys for your income, you want to build a sustainable business, not have a patron who determines your income, kwim?

    You can learn something from this, though. If you're relatively new to camming and you've already had three clients sorta spin out of control the common denominator in all these relationships is you. Work on establishing boundaries that work for you, work on enforcing them and you'll go a long way towards minimizing these sorts of patterns in the future.

    Setting boundaries is a skill and a process that a lot of chicas struggle with initially, I know I sure as hell did when I first started camming. Learn from this experience by getting comfortable with vocalizing your needs/expectations and your $$$$ will improve and you'll experience far less aggravation.

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    Thanks so much for the advice! You're all right. If it stresses me and makes me upset and not want to get on cam, it isn't worth it. I will block the other guy too. I am new so I'm learning and will definitely follow this advice! I'm the boss of my room and I won't tolerate guys who make me legitimately angry or uncomfortable.
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    I said good day!
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    So you get nothing! You lose! Good day, sir!
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