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    http://youtu.be/hubRz5PpzZg

    watch that video if you have time and comment your insight. I know there are some extremely shady and crazy horrible clubs out there

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    Default Re: What a traumatic experience.

    The title alone makes me not want to watch -_-
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    Default Re: What a traumatic experience.

    Not sure why that's the title. From watching the video I didn't perceive anything about her getting raped. Maybe I'm just stupid or too tired to comprehend things right now!

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    Default Re: What a traumatic experience.

    Title is "Is it Rape if she's a Stripper?"

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    She said, "I'm not a slut and I don't deserve this." Okay. So, "sluts" deserve maltreatment, in her opinion. I hate people who perpetuate slut stigma. I hate sex workers who do so especially.
    That girl is the most prime example of what is wrong with the industry: Women who should NOT be strippers, who are strippers. If stripping is traumatic for you, if you feel abused, degraded, shameful, regretful, or all-around bad about yourself for what you do, then don't do it. I understand that some women get "trapped" in the industry because of car payments, debt, loans, etc., and that truly sucks, and I'm sorry for them. What happens then is that they share their ugly experiences with the world, and THEY are the ones who make tearful memoirs (STOP IT PLEASE), or interviews for blogs/magazines/projects. They are the ones whose stories are heard, not mine, because mine is a positive experience, as are so many others. Because of that, my family looks at me as though I'm this damaged, low self-esteem, confused baby who is in denial.
    I wish so badly that all of these girls would GTFO of this industry NOW. Stop hurting yourselves. Don't ever do anything that makes you feel bad. Find another way. And go to a therapist about it instead of proclaiming to the world that stripping is a nightmare and ruined you and boo hoo...
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    Default Re: What a traumatic experience.

    here's some positive reinforcement to dancing if you wanna see the more positive side being advertised.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pdauyFhjaz0

    it's a 4 part mini series.

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    I've seen the pop videos. I really liked those, esp the girl who says she's " butthole naked" lmao
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    lmao that's cali she's my favorite.

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    I was shocked and confused when I saw her video. All I ever got from stripping was positive things, money, confidence, met my current man, calm state of mind knowing that I don't have to be homeless anymore, I even lost weight and toned. The only possible NEGATIVE thing I got was guys acting scummy here and there. And that happens to every woman somewhat decent looking. The other day I was walking to the gas station and had someone talk about how they'd "fuck me sideways". Stupid scumbag. But yeah, she must've worked at some REALLY fucked up club. Management beating her ass? Wtf.

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    I hope she's able to heal emotionally, and the club she worked at gets shut down. But I think she still would've had emotional issues with stripping, even if she'd worked at the nicest club in the world. Just from some of the things she said.... it sounds like she still has some belief/s that sex work is shameful on some level.... or it's shameful for a woman to openly display sexuality. One of her diary entries said: "I'm not a slut, I don't deserve this." What does that mean? If a woman is a slut... it's OK to mistreat her?


    Then she said her book discussed the question... can someone be raped if they work in the sex industry? It's amazing to me that a person would even ask that question.... especially someone who's worked in the industry. Uhhh yea.... if a sexual act is done against a woman's will.... it's called rape/and/or assault. Just asking that question.... makes it sound like if a woman is a sex worker... she should have no say in what happens with her body.... or she has no right to basic safety. It's like it doesn't occur to some people... that just because a woman is a sex worker.... doesn't necessarily mean she wants to engage in every kind of sexual act.
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    I hope she's able to heal emotionally, and the club she worked at gets shut down. But I think she still would've had emotional issues with stripping, even if she'd worked at the nicest club in the world. Just from some of the things she said.... it sounds like she still has some belief/s that sex work is shameful on some level.... or it's shameful for a woman to openly display sexuality. One of her diary entries said: "I'm not a slut, I don't deserve this." What does that mean? If a woman is a slut... it's OK to mistreat her?


    Then she said her book discussed the question... can someone be raped if they work in the sex industry? It's amazing to me that a person would even ask that question.... especially someone who's worked in the industry. Uhhh yea.... if a sexual act is done against a woman's will.... it's called rape/and/or assault. Just asking that question.... makes it sound like if a woman is a sex worker... she should have no say in what happens with her body.... or she has no right to basic safety. It's like it doesn't occur to some people... that just because a woman is a sex worker.... doesn't necessarily mean she wants to engage in every kind of sexual act.
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    I know. I found it pretty ignorant. MOST dancers/sex workers do as much as they are comfortable with... It's no ones fault but hers that she stepped out of her boundaries. I don't let guys touch me at all, not even my ass. While some girls are perfectly fine with hat. It's about your comfort level. If you weren't comfortable with stripping then you should have never done it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ToeOfTheCamel View Post
    That girl is the most prime example of what is wrong with the industry: Women who should NOT be strippers, who are strippers. If stripping is traumatic for you, if you feel abused, degraded, shameful, regretful, or all-around bad about yourself for what you do, then don't do it. I understand that some women get "trapped" in the industry because of car payments, debt, loans, etc., and that truly sucks, and I'm sorry for them. What happens then is that they share their ugly experiences with the world, and THEY are the ones who make tearful memoirs (STOP IT PLEASE), or interviews for blogs/magazines/projects. They are the ones whose stories are heard, not mine, because mine is a positive experience, as are so many others. Because of that, my family looks at me as though I'm this damaged, low self-esteem, confused baby who is in denial.
    I wish so badly that all of these girls would GTFO of this industry NOW. Stop hurting yourselves. Don't ever do anything that makes you feel bad. Find another way. And go to a therapist about it instead of proclaiming to the world that stripping is a nightmare and ruined you and boo hoo...
    /end rant/
    Everyone has a right to share their experience, positive or negative. Maybe stripping is a positive experience for you, but there are a LOT of women who do not feel that way. And they have a right to be vocal about it, just as you have a right to be vocal about how it's enjoyable, empowering, or whatever for you. I have worked with many girls who have quit stripping after years or months because they felt it was too degrading. And I have worked with an even larger number of women who would LOVE to quit stripping but can't because of financial reasons. And I've worked with an even LARGER number of women who are so fucked up in the head from years of stripping but can't see that the two are related.

    Honestly, the fact that you are blaming these women for the fact that extras have become so rampant in the club that many men are just taking instead of asking is really disturbing to me... I don't allow people to do things to me at work that I'm uncomfortable with, but there are so many dirty girls where I work that it's not uncommon for a guy to thing he can just whip his dick out or touch my vagina, let alone proposition me. And that's what's making these women feel so degraded, not working in a club.... there's nothing degrading about having men hand you money and tell you you're sexy/amazing, but there is something really degrading about having a guy assume he can stick his dirty finger up your vagina (or whatever happened to that girl, I didn't watch the video). And that's not what stripping is supposed to be about anyway! There are a lot of strip clubs in this industry that have basically just become legalized brothels. And many of these extras girls are engaging in extras in clubs simply because the competition to make money has become so great in that club because others are doing extras and they NEED that money, whether it's to feed their kids, pay a car bill, or just not have their boyfriend beat their ass when they come home empty-handed.

    So maybe you live in some magical world where women are never degraded as strippers and everything is honkey-dorry-- awesome for you! But I'm suspended from my club right now because I asked my manager to kick out a guy who stuck his hand down my pants and my manager told me that I had an "attitude" and needed to take a break (and they didn't kick the guy out). Did I feel really degraded? Yes I did! And I have just as much right to talk about how FUCKED UP that is as you have a right to talk about how awesome being a stripper is for you.

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