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    Default How to cam when you feel so... blah?

    I'm so depressed right now I can barely move, let alone cam. I understand taking a few days off is essential when you're going through a rough period, but I really need to get back in the game soon because I need money.

    What are some of your "fix-its" for a bad mood that helps you get on cam and act happy when you're really not?
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    I find that cleaning out and reorganizing my cam room helps me get in the mood to work even when I've had a bad day. Also, when I'm just not feeling it I set some sort of small goal for myself... usually it's some sort of "time on cam" goal or something like that. If I hit that goal I do something nice for myself whether it's a cheap bottle of wine, or a trip to the movies. It gives me something to look forward to.
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    I don't have a choice.

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    Laughter helps, especially very dark, gallows humor type stuff because if im depressed at least let me laugh about how totally ridiculous life can be.

    Watch a funny movie, funny youtube comedy clips, go to damnyouautocorrect.com and read for 20 minutes (I read that site for an hour and used half a box of tissues, crying with laughter). Go to chingrish.com for the cute translation mistakes. Watch funny pet youtube vids. Once I can get to laughing I can even laugh at the pathetic beggars

    Sometimes even that doesnt do enough though so I just be a robot, turn on my cam and keep my face off screen and tease someone into private eventually. Just put in the hours if you can't get peppy. Seeing some money come in finally often helps me stay on and get into a better mood.

    (((hugs)))

    It's a never ending battle for me too. Depression sucks.


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    Quote Originally Posted by laurielegs View Post
    Laughter helps, especially very dark, gallows humor type stuff because if im depressed at least let me laugh about how totally ridiculous life can be.

    Watch a funny movie, funny youtube comedy clips, go to damnyouautocorrect.com and read for 20 minutes (I read that site for an hour and used half a box of tissues, crying with laughter). Go to chingrish.com for the cute translation mistakes. Watch funny pet youtube vids. Once I can get to laughing I can even laugh at the pathetic beggars

    Sometimes even that doesnt do enough though so I just be a robot, turn on my cam and keep my face off screen and tease someone into private eventually. Just put in the hours if you can't get peppy. Seeing some money come in finally often helps me stay on and get into a better mood.

    (((hugs)))

    It's a never ending battle for me too. Depression sucks.
    I tend to do the keeping face off screen too, sometimes while splitting with a paid chat only site. Depression really can suck, but its just me so I gotta do what I gotta do.

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    Reading stripperweb.. some of the stupid things heard and seen as well as cam fails are so entertaining and the people here inspiring.

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    Yes, input, plz. I'm in a slump too.
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    I´m feeling kind of down right now, I haven´t work in a week because I was not in the mood to smile or look happy, I suppose I was burned out. So I´m going to change my hair style, buy something nice to myself, and think about all the things I need/want and can´t afford if I´m not making any money.

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    Having some wine close by helps haha!. Buying something nice for the cam helps alot even if its cheap. Yesterday i went out and brougt some cute cheap undies and a little midriff top all together the outfit was 7 bucks. The guys are loving this over my more expensive outfits lol. I also change up my space alot and play some EDM so my room is like a party with just me haha! #fakeittillimakeit

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    The camfails/bloopers threads on here often leave me laughing hysterically (love IsobelWren for making me feel less alone in my accident-proneness!). I often find that I'll set mini goals when I'm feeling depressed or without any real energy - If I can go on cam for 2 hours, then I can take an hour off to watch a favorite show on Netflix, drink some coffee or tea, and knit away. Then I get back on cam another 2 hours...lather, rinse, repeat. Often, once I've hit that 2 hour mark, I've made some money and my mood lifts a bit, so I'll promise to stay on another hour and throw in some chocolate along with the Netflix and knitting.
    I'm also finding that if I stay on some sort of daily routine that involves exercise (even just belly dancing in the kitchen while making breakfast for my kids) helps. When I remember to, I take some GREAT multi-vitamins (USANA) and I can honestly tell when I've missed a few days in my mood and energy levels. If it's one of those days where nothing else works, a hot shower and curling up under the blankets with a favorite book helps me too. The big thing for me is to not beat myself up about not working...Every profession has a burnout rate. I used to be a social worker and I went through some hellacious burnout and vicarious trauma working with clients - my employer was always supportive of taking "mental health" days. When I'm feeling so depressed, non-energitic, or feel like I need a break from all the sex talk, I give myself permission to take a mental health day and just focus on doing things for myself. It works wonders...HTH and good luck!


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    When I'm really burned out, focusing on something else for a day or two helps. Or even just putting on some music that makes me happy can make the difference between not wanting to work mode and being super-pumped to work.




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    I make weekly mini goals for myself to help motivate me. I also do a pay period goal as well. During the winter, I chug a redbull before camming or drink some "Camming Coffee" (Which consists of caffeinated water run through an espresso coffee blend). I make sure my goals are obtainable and will be something I either desperately want, need, or deserve. "If I make $600 this week, I'll treat myself to a pedicure." "If I sell 3 clips and make $175 on cam tonight, I'll buy a new pair of jeans." "If I double what I made last pay period while i was on shark week, I can treat myself to my favorite restaurant" (normally a $75 meal so it's a big deal for me).

    I have extremely bad seasonal depression, so I really have to push myself to stay motivated during the winter, especially because antidepressants make me sleep all day and gain weight (which I already do when I'm depressed, so I avoid them). You may want to try taking the supplement Sam-E (which is like $20 for 30 days on Amazon). It's done WONDERS for my mood, sleep schedule, and overall motivation. Oh and it starts working within days (and is non-prescription in the states) so it isn't like Zoloft where you drop $50 for a 30 day prescription and then wait two weeks to even see if the damn pills are working. Maybe worth a shot Hope I've helped!

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    First off, I agree with Staples that a time-based goal is great for depressed days. I would definitely not do a money goal - you really can't control whether you have a good day or a bad one, money-wise, but you absolutely can control whether you log on and do the time.

    I also find that shaking up my usual show helps get me excited about working. Try something new, e.g. camming from a new location in your home, playing a new game, or adding new items to your tip menu.






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    Oh and maybe pick up an easy hobby you can do by yourself. I'm an extreme couponer, so when I'm completely burned out I clip coupons for a couple hours and watch stand up. I figure having a hobby that saves me money is a hobby that will make me happier long term. Works wonders for motivation.

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    I find that just making myself do it no matter what really helps me get back into a better mindset. I've been in a "blah" stage too. I haven't worked since Jan 24th. But, I know that now I just have to MAKE myself get on, and once I do I can get back into the swing of things. Forcing yourself to get ready and actually get on is the hardest part but once you get that first step done, it gets easier.

    That might not be very helpful, but it helps me. I hope you feel better soon! *hugs*
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    I think about being homeless. I don't have anyone I can borrow money from, or anyone who would support me financially. So I have to work if I want to survive.

    Also you cannot always be happy on cam, because no human is happy constantly. Just strive to be as pleasant as you can manage on a given day, and put in those hours bb.

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    Well, clinical depression being what it is, I've got days where literally NOTHING will get me into that ideal happy and friendly headspace. On those days, I go for the dark colored lingere, steer my makeup and hair more towards the sophisticated than the youthful, put on blues or a 19th century russian composer or something, and pray to the camming goddess that I look glamorously pensive instead of debilitatingly depressed. And I don't try to do anything too high-energy, slow and sensual is easier.

    And yes, go for the time goal, not the money goal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    When I'm feeling down, I also have a bad habit of impulse purchasing whether I can afford it or not! Did I really need the $30 bottle of vodka and $5 Starbucks drink at the grocery store yesterday? Nope!
    Ugh I do the same thing.
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    I think it's the anticipation that "I HAVE to cam tonight!' that makes it unbearable! When I'm stuck in a rug, I'll tell myself, I will get online for one hour, just one and if I can't take it, I can always log off. I am always in control. Once I am on, it's so much easier. Before I realize, I'm now working three, four hours!
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    Money sure can't buy happiness but poverty can't buy you shit either!

    Sammi-I feel for you! I know you are strong and this too shall pass. PM me if you ever needed to talk or someone to just listen!
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    This is exactly what I think about too. I feel you, OP. I've been going through some depression lately, and even getting out of bed has been a struggle. My bank account is in the negative, I have two large-ish bills due next week ... It's time to fake a grin and force myself to get on.

    When I'm feeling down, I also have a bad habit of impulse purchasing whether I can afford it or not! Did I really need the $30 bottle of vodka and $5 Starbucks drink at the grocery store yesterday? Nope!

    I honestly don't think I'm broke because I'm depressed. I think I'm depressed because I'm broke. There's my other motivation. I know about the whole money doesn't buy happiness BS everyone says, but I think Ill be happy once I'm earning money again.
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    I get depressed to, and then I get anxiety when I don't have money, or its slow and I am tired and just want to sleep. I take a lot of warm baths in the dark to help me zone out, and I try Imagine myself lying on a beach some where drinking out of a coconut. It doenst help that its depressing outside and our jobs make us totally shut ins.

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    This made me feel so much better! Not to imply that I'm happy that you feel this way. I just posted in the BBW thread about forcing myself on cam. This time of the year I get really depressed and I feel so hideous! My financial problems loom above my head as well which just seems to add to the pressure, especially on those slow days. While I do vanilla freelance work and have a professional license, work in my field has been super competitive and camming has literally sucked for me lately! I am a single parent to 3 kids and receive no help and have no one to turn to if we hit a rough patch. You have no idea how much this thread means!

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    Whenever I question why I'm still posting on SW!

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    This made me feel so much better! Not to imply that I'm happy that you feel this way. I just posted in the BBW thread about forcing myself on cam. This time of the year I get really depressed and I feel so hideous! My financial problems loom above my head as well which just seems to add to the pressure, especially on those slow days. While I do vanilla freelance work and have a professional license, work in my field has been super competitive and camming has literally sucked for me lately! I am a single parent to 3 kids and receive no help and have no one to turn to if we hit a rough patch. You have no idea how much this thread means!
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    Lack of money makes things a lot harder, i get depressed for not having enough money & for worrying about how m i going to pay everything & have motivation to go on?
    If i had plenty of money i would be soo happy & fearless, i would go out, make friends, spoil myself with spa sessions, shopping sessions, vacations, i can go on and on.
    Who said money cant buy happiness? That is ancient old saying i feel, do not apply to these times anymore.
    For sure money can buy SOME happiness, it's better to have them than being poor.
    I often feel 'bleah, fuck it, i dont want to work, i feel depressed, etc etc' but then after a while i am thinking 'ok, i feel bad but if i dont sign in how m i going to have money for food & bills & all needed here?'. So i get up, say 'this is my duty' and start getting ready for work.

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    Yeah i understand how you feel. It's really hard to work and entertain when you are feeling depressed.
    Sometimes when i feel depressed i do not go online for a while or even just for a day.
    Then i clean my room or change the position of my furnitures. If i still feel depressed after that and still have to go online. I go online just wearing my normal clothes and just do what i normally do watch T.V or anything online eat and not care about whether the guys will be turn in or not.
    Some guys might still tip or prvt you.

    I was very depressed lately and didn't work well for 5 days so 5 days i didn't get prvt :-o
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