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    Hi girls, havn't posted in a while. Basically my life went off the rails a bit last year after I graduated. When I should have been sorting out a graduate career I was dealing with depression and addiction. I have got myself back on track but my confidence has taken an absolute battering. I still live at home and my father has horrible outbursts of rage and my mum is a drug addict so that makes things difficult. I have got a cv together and am going to start applying for jobs and strip in the mean time so hopefully move out asap. I've just taken an absolute emotional battering and am still going through some things. I need some advise on how to re-build my confidence back. I want to be the old fiery, confident me.

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    Nothing makes me feel like a million bucks quite like getting my hair done, & you do not even have to blow a bunch of $$ on it. Revamping your hairstyle w/ a new cut & colour, or sm highlights, or getting your nails done can go a long way towards stoking that inner fire.

    Try to maintain a balanced diet & sm exercise to combat the physical/chemical side of your depression.

    If you enjoy reading, pick up a book abt smtg totally new that you would be interested in learning. It will help to keep your mind occupied, & may give you smtg interesting to discuss in your nxt champagne room, plus you get that mental boost from learning.

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    get outside and go for a run, take a yoga class, or just go for a walk! i find the more fresh air i get the better off i am dealing with my depression. and it also helps keep me grounded sobriety wise when i wish. treat yyourself to a healthy lunch like sushi or whatnot and like mentioned above get your hair done! good luck and congrats on your journey
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    all the above and speak to a professional. Consider a 12step recovery group for support.
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Well I'm a blue, but from what I've seen, a dancer needs two separate "confidences".

    The first is just the confidence to brush off the "nos". I'm not sure there's a woman alive who would not get more nos than yeses working as a dancer. Even if, say, Shakira was a dancer, she would be hearing your tits are too small, are you a natural blonde, you're too old because 1 is not the first digit in your age, etc. If you feel like you need to take too many breaks at work, I'd suggest you take a break by being a "wanna dance?" girl. Walk up to every customer, don't sit or ask to sit, introduce yourself and ask if they want a dance. If they say maybe later, try again in an hour, because fuck them if they can't just say "no thanks". Many custies panty-bunch about the "wanna dance" approach, but others don't care, and I've been told they are more likely to be the less emotionally-draining custies.

    The second confidence is that, while it's nice to turn heads when you walk through the mall, your life does not rise or fall based on how many heads you can turn. I've known many dancers who, in spite of being very, very cool people, seem to feel like they are on death row or something because they're over 25.

    The advice above, about focusing on the small pleasures of life like a new do, is also good. I'm guessing exercise also helps, but I'm too lazy to speak from personal experience about that.

    If you're like me, maybe the big negatives in your parent's lives also eat at you. It always nagged and nags at me, could I have done more for them. As a coping mechanism, people tend to talk mostly about their hopes and dreams and successes. Instead of facing their real anxieties, they vent over minor shit. (The lucky ones achieve fame and fortune doing this on reality TV.) The truth is that the world is a very broken place, there is much more that doesn't work than does. The facade of fixability gives this false sense there should be a fairly easy answer to everything.

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