Ok, I could really use some support. For anyone that has had a breakup and remembers the stages of loss - you know the "how will I live" phase - Please read. I just want input on the immediate situation.
Please stick with me on this lengthy post I have a lot to cover.
So I posted not to long ago about my long term boyfriend having a depressive meltdown and we were having money problems.
Since then, he proposed to me in December and things went well, everything seemed to be falling into place. When he put the ring on my finger I told myself, "This is it. I will fight for this relationship." However, we have lived together for 2 solid years and both have mental health issues; Therefore we still bicker frequently.
So the argument started because he brought me lunch on his way home and said
"I went out of my way just for you, I didn't even buy myself anything."
He goes for a run and I find a receipt showing that he did order for himself. I immediately jump on his case when he gets back because I HATE being lied to about ANYTHING. This led to an argument emailing over the next few hours, with him deciding maybe it's time to break things off. We argue like this all the time so I think "oh he'll come around" and I figured I'd make a change and not fuel the argument. So I'm not going to let it get to me because he's not going to leave.. he's just trying to push my buttons. After a day or so I'm a bit teary and when he comes into the bathroom to reconcile, my stubborn ass pushes him away. He leaves, emailing me about being sorry and I say I'm sorry and I want to tell him to come home, but I'm stubborn so I go to the bar.
I come home around 1am. I think I was overly tired (I didn't drink hardly anything) Sobbing, pleading until he leaves for work at 7am. I'm emailing him to please just give me another chance. He's not feeling it..... a few hours go by.. he wants to work things out... he comes home early and gives me the biggest hug and I sigh a sigh of relief.
The next morning he is crying and says he's not happy with me anymore and he wants to move out. I'm crying again. This isn't good because my 4 year old daughter just got home. I need a distraction so we go to a friends and only came back to go to bed until we go to stay the night on sunday. When I got home monday he left me a confusing note about not being happy with or without me sad faces and everything. Saying he wanted to die, wanted to kill himself.
Here's the deal. He's been staying at his mom's. Only coming home to drop off the dog before work. (I don't think he'll be staying there when she comes back because his stepdad will not allow the dog over) He's taken his toiletries.. even for the dog(this dog is his child) But EVERYTHING else he owns is still here. He won't give me a clear date to when he's moving out. Won't pack his shit. I cannot stop crying every time he comes by. Every time I try to work I cry.. I've cried so much I can't eat and I vomit anything I eat. I have mastered the Kim K. ugly cry! He did take me to the grocery store today because I don't have a car, but he's still firm with his decision it seems.
I need to know if this is just a manic episode or if he's truly done! Is he trying to punish me or is he really leaving? I can't begin to move on while he comes by once a day and all his belongings are still here! When his mom comes back he's going to have to come back and I can't have someone move in to help with rent if he isn't clear straightforward.





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. Yea I have dealt with this crap of a situation before my own self. U r still holding onto hope bc u really dont want to suffer the loss. i know all about it. Truthfully, if the guy wants to end things with you then he needs to stop giving u false hope pack allll of his stuff up and leave u alone..Thats the only way ur going to start the lengthy process of moving on. The pain is beyond overwhelming..I know...



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