Hey guys--
So when I talk to customers, I tend to sit with them for 5-10 mins and talk to them-- I'm a very shy, introverted person naturally so the whole party girl, wanna dance thing doesn't work for me. I've tried it, it doesn't work. I get customers by sitting down, striking up a rapport and getting to know them-- and I get tipped a hell of a lot more that way. Most of my regulars are guys that like to talk and hangout, not just have my grind on them or stick my boobs in their face. I just ask them questions about their lives, try and make some connections, and think in my head how I'm going to turn the conversation toward them getting a dance in under 7 minutes.
However, I am getting really fucking TIRED of being told repeatedly (we're talking at least 5 times a night) "you don't seem like a stripper" "you're too smart to be a stripper" "you're really smart/bright/intelligent why do you work here?" When a guy says something like that I usually just smile and ignore it, or if they are giving me a look that says I need to address I giggle and say "I owe over 40 grand in loans and this job is awesome cause I get to get naked and dance and talk to cool people all night!" but sometimes they won't drop it-- they just seem absolutely SHOCKED that I work at a strip club and have a working brain. I really don't understand it, because it's not like I'm sitting there discussing quadratic equations or giving my viewpoint on romantic literature, I'm just having a conversation. And most of the time I've been drinking and am trying to be flirty, so I'm really not my best....
I know I'm intelligent-- I have a degree, my IQ is 140-- but at work I am not speaking the way I would speak were I meeting with a professional in my field, speaking with a colleague/professor or answering a question in a classroom... sometimes I even purposely try to dumb myself down when I'm at work and I still get this and it's just starting to get on my nerves. It's fucking insulting! I have no qualms about working at my club nor do I don't feel like the job is beneath me in any way. Some guys seem to be OK with it, but I can tell that other guys are intimated by me or the fact that I'm not a total idiot friend-zones me in a way. Or they say that I seem like the "kind of girl" they'd like to take out-- and I get that all the time any way, but I can tell with certain guys that it's related to the "not an idiot factor." I could go on and on about how you actually have to be really intelligent to make clean money in this business, but I know you all know that so I'll skip the rant.
Anyway... my question is, do you get this at work? Do you feel like it hurts your money? What do you do?




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! If they bring up work being stressful or hard, use that as a spin-off for "well it sounds like all work and no play....and your long overdue for some play; let me show you how to have fun." Or, "I can help you take your mind off of that....". You get the picture. Also, there is a sparse percentage of strip club purveyors that like a smart girl and will pay to have a "companion" for the evening. However, these people will usually approach you, since they tend to be very aware (i.e. not wasted and oblivious to their surroundings) and usually make good regulars, so focus your intelligence on being kinesthetically inclined, walk with confidence and remember timing is everything.

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