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    Ahhh! Have you ladies ever been completely smitten with a customer? What do you do!?

    There's this guy who has been visiting me for the past couple weeks and one of my tags is submissive... so it only makes sense someone who is in to domination would find me on there. I've done cam2cam enough now to know that the majority of the people I'm with are not attractive (my very exclusive on my first day a guy was smoking crack while jacking off!). He's never done cam2cam so I only assumed he was like the rest.

    Anyway.. so this guy is really into domination... but he's a gentlemen about it. He always gives me long breaks to "rest" while still in exclusive. So the other day I asked him to message me on Streamate and he sent me a couple pictures... he is the most attractive man I have ever seen!

    I can't stop thinking about him. Why does this beautiful man want me to do these things!? I'm practically going through the fifty shades of grey books in real life over here right now... haha

    I know it's over cam and not in real life. But he's got me so intrigued about him and I can't help but want to know more.

    Have you ladies ever went though something like this? What did/do you do!?

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    yea 11 yrs ago.. he destroyed my business hate cam customers since

    so you don't get it?? he is attractive, most beautiful man ever.. and you wonder why he wants to control you?? EGO.. I don't wanna sound bitter but after decades of this crap.. I can see right through men.
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    Oh no! Do you mind telling me what happened?

    You don't sound bitter. I'm all a flutter right now so some common sense is helpful, I appreciate it.

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    yea 11 yrs ago.. he destroyed my business hate cam customers since

    so you don't get it?? he is attractive, most beautiful man ever.. and you wonder why he wants to control you?? EGO.. I don't wanna sound bitter but after decades of this crap.. I can see right through men.

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    sure!.. well he romanced me for a few months.. I think about 3 months.. .. he bought me stuff from Victoria secret.. he sent me 1grand a month to paypal.. he did 500 dollars of video chat on imlive.. I was brand new to cam.. I loved the attention.. I lived a pretty poor life with dirt bag men so I liked the attention.. I met him.. it all ended.. he couldnt' bother with me anymore and therefore I lost a really great client.. and I was seriously upset he took my livelihood with him... and never again I engaged in such a thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anonymous camgirl View Post
    sure!.. well he romanced me for a few months.. I think about 3 months.. .. he bought me stuff from Victoria secret.. he sent me 1grand a month to paypal.. he did 500 dollars of video chat on imlive.. I was brand new to cam.. I loved the attention.. I lived a pretty poor life with dirt bag men so I liked the attention.. I met him.. it all ended.. he couldnt' bother with me anymore and therefore I lost a really great client.. and I was seriously upset he took my livelihood with him... and never again I engaged in such a thing.
    I'm so sorry that happened to you Thank you for sharing, I will tread very carefully. Did he just stop talking to you after you met?

    I think I'm most intrigued about him and why he is on the site. I really want to know more about him, and just knowing would give me gratification He lives in a different country so meeting would probably not be feasible.

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    We portray a fantasy on cam. Even those who do a reality show out of themselves on cam, they inspire fantasies in customers heads. Customers inspire fantasies in camgirl heads, who let it happen, put their guard down and go over the boundaries of this job. Meeting in real life destroys that fantasy for all parties involved.

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    No, I never have. I always keep business separate from my personal life. That was the advice given to me by many performers when I first started in the adult industry. I have met some really amazing men on cam and I do wonder about them but I never take it off the cam site.

    I think cam sites have the rule of no personal contact or info exchange because of drama it can cause the site.

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    Default Re: Smitten with a customer!

    We were talking about this recently in one of the other threads. A customer who's spent money on you wants to meet (but do they really wanna meet you? Or do they just wanna meet the cam girl you...sorta like a celebrity/fan thing?), and whatever expectations he has for this long-awaited meeting...once the meeting happens you're no longer a fantasy of his. He's met you...he now knows your real name...he now knows what it's like to date/fuck you for real...he now knows all of your flaws. Lol. So now...seeing you on cam after that may not be as exciting anymore for him.

    I don't even know if my post makes any sense. I just know that I've had crushes on two different MFC members in the past who used to be big spenders in my room. I've talked to them both on the phone and even considered meeting them (but never did). Neither of them visit me on MFC anymore.

    I'm just gonna be keeping camming and personal life separate. I think it's best that way.
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    Default Re: Smitten with a customer!

    It's really hypocritical of me I know, but just the fact that a customer is paying to sit there at his computer and play with his penis looking at images of me keeps him firmly in the customer zone for me. I just can't think of him as anything but a customer after that. (And even worse if he tries to come on to me and get me to meet or something without spending anything, ugh. Ban ban ban).

    Definitely some good advice in this thread so far.


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    I think it's important to remember that you can like certain customers - enjoy conversations with them, think they're attractive/funny/intelligent, appreciate them as people - without becoming "smitten." The former makes work much more fun. The latter makes work much more difficult.

    The vast majority of guys you spend time with/give attention to without payment will expect that in the future. This guy can be your genuine love interest, or he can be your customer. He probably can't be both. There are many, many reasons - including your privacy, your safety, and the fact that you know very little about his real-world life - to pick "customer."

    And if you keep him as a customer, you can enjoy all the intrigue and mystery of a new attraction for much longer than you would be able to in real life. People are messy in real life. The fantasy can't survive that. You might find that the fiction brings you a lot more enjoyment than the reality, and that's perfectly fine because fantasy is what you're selling (for money) and being sold (for genuine affection).







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    Exactly! Charge him and keep it moving!
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    He's never done Cam2Cam but he is super attractive in the pics he sent you? Lord, he could be anyone! He could be married, wife isn't submissive and he wants someone to fantasize with....you just don't know and I wouldn't go digging either. When he is in session with you, enjoy it, and that's it, until next the next session. He may never come back or will move on to someone else when he gets bored with you or runs out of money, finds a girlfriend in the real world...they do that! I have never heard a "cam girl fairy tale" story, where she runs off in to the sunset to live happily ever after with one of her customers. In fact, it's usually a story of heartbreak, deception, jealousy, abuse, etc....just.don't.go.there.


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    Default Re: Smitten with a customer!

    Obviously everyone is giving good advice about keeping a customer a customer, and I agree. But if you're a camgirl, and you're having sexual fantasies - use them! Write down some of the fantasies you're having. Story telling is a large part of what we do; notice how many guys get off more on what you're saying than what you're doing? Have the fantasies now, then save them up for the next D/s-inclined guy that wants you to talk a lot. Guys looove watching a girl get turned on as she talks about "what would we be doing if i was there with you, bb?"

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    I'm not saying he might be doing this, but some customers send fake cams also. I had so many times a hot guy on camera, just posing etc, fetish gear, oiled up, was very suspect to me to be just another guy models feed, or a girls feed, if they were pretending to be a woman. Ultimately i don't care what they get off on, so i never investigate or ask questions, but taking them seriously would be bad.

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    YES!!.. he abruptly quit talking to me. It didn't mean anything to him. for me it was my kids future, my future and my paycheck.. and my broken heart... I never trusted a cam customer ever again... luckily I learned that lesson a few months after starting cam. It was very devastating.. the reason I started camming was to reclaim my life and finally create a life I wanted .. not what men wanted me to do for them.. But this was a guy who seriously wanted to be with me.. never believed another cam guy again...LOL
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    I'm so sorry that happened to you Thank you for sharing, I will tread very carefully. Did he just stop talking to you after you met?

    I think I'm most intrigued about him and why he is on the site. I really want to know more about him, and just knowing would give me gratification He lives in a different country so meeting would probably not be feasible.

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    The first rule of camgirl club is you do not mix business and personal.

    I have customers who have been customers for years they are genuinely nice guys, seem like lovely people, but even after years they know and I know no money, no me. I think it's fine to enjoy your customers while you're working. If they spark a fantasy in you use it, as someone suggested write a sexy story and sell it but remember this is a job. When logs off he goes back to his life and you go back to yours, and that is for the best.

    Also he sent you hot pics, but you've never gone cam2cam *side-eye* maybe those pictures are real maybe they aren't, but you know it doesn't matter. It's easy to be wonderful and fascinating online for a limited amount of time anyone can do that. Do you really think anyone is one 24/day, and of course it's going great you're getting paid so you fulfill his fantasy, are you going to do that when he isn't paying you?

    Why does this beautiful man want you to do thing? Let me give you the list
    1. His wife won't
    2. His girlfriend won't
    3. He can't find a good professional sub in his area
    4. He requires discretion
    5. He's a pain in the ass in real life and can't maintain a relationship.
    6. He's too busy in real life and can't maintain a relationship
    7. He is shy/ passive in real life and you allow him to live the fantasy version of himself
    8. He wants to practice on you before trying it with his real life partner
    9. He found you both hot and he likes to pay for his kinks
    10. He's horny.
    I could go on but the key thing is none of those reasons have anything to do with you. That's not an insult but really very few guys see only one model. They will tell you they see only but umm nope it's not true.

    Listen when a guy is a show and he is paying me he will tell me I am his world, his air, his cocaine and for those 30 minutes I am, but then he logs off and his wife is all those things.

    It's fine to think a customer is attractive, but keep it in perspective and don't let it interfere with your bottom line.
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    Actually i posted something like this before too...although i used the word "attached"
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-your-customer

    I still cannot get that customer out of my head. I think i still have a crush on him or still like him. I often think of him and yeah imagine things.....I never thought i would feel like that to a customer.
    But it's really hard i think, because they are customers. You don't really know what is running on their minds...they could just be playing with you or trying to really make you fall for them (just to prove something). I am so scared that if i continue feeling like that i will get hurt.

    Also all of us are actually different in real...boring compared to what we often portray on cam so even if you two met it might just become boring.I knew some models who have these guys who are "in love" with them for years but then stopped talking to them after they met...

    Also... could you just be in love with him because he is your dom?

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    I add something to what was posted here: single cam girls are more likely to get hurt when getting 'involved' with cam customers, we are simply humans, never perfect, us cam girls and them customers fantasize about each other, sadly is just a fantasy, reality is never what we expected, both for us or them.

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    I am going through the SAME thing. This custie is super respectful and inteligent. From the way he talks, I think he's older. I have never done C2C with him before though. He enjoys dominating me, and I ACTUALLY enjoy it too. It doesn't feel like work when it comes to him. I allowed him to DM me on twitter, but that's as far as I will take it. I'm thinking about not allowing that anymore as well. I'd rather have these chats in a pvt anyway!

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    He sent me a couple more pictures. I have no doubt in my mind that it's actually him... because they aren't really pictures you would send someone if you are trying to impress them haha. You know, like a group picture at your friends wedding with just your face cropped out. Cam2cam soon! So we will see. I asked him a ton of questions and he answered everyone of them. I'm pretty sure the reason he is single is because he is so busy with work all the time like one of the reasons RINA said.

    Thanks for the advice ladies, I'll keep it strictly on cam.

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    Oh! I failed to mention the guy i met per above in my prior posts, he was very disappointed. I could tell on his face.. he said i was not the same girl.. he thought i was going to be more wild.. bouncing around on the bed like the cam girl he saw me as.. lol.. yea they are really only into your camgirl persona.. no matter how much they say they like the real you.. they do not ever KNOW the real you.. even if they think they do. They are in love with the camgirl.. face it girls.. most of these guys don't even know your real name for the love of god.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheBrownFox View Post
    We were talking about this recently in one of the other threads. A customer who's spent money on you wants to meet (but do they really wanna meet you? Or do they just wanna meet the cam girl you...sorta like a celebrity/fan thing?), and whatever expectations he has for this long-awaited meeting...once the meeting happens you're no longer a fantasy of his. He's met you...he now knows your real name...he now knows what it's like to date/fuck you for real...he now knows all of your flaws. Lol. So now...seeing you on cam after that may not be as exciting anymore for him.

    I don't even know if my post makes any sense. I just know that I've had crushes on two different MFC members in the past who used to be big spenders in my room. I've talked to them both on the phone and even considered meeting them (but never did). Neither of them visit me on MFC anymore.

    I'm just gonna be keeping camming and personal life separate. I think it's best that way.

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    Yea I wanted to add.. i had a very loyal cam customer for about a decade.. he knew we would never meet.. but we were very casual about our cam/customer relationship.. one day i never heard from him again.. I always wonder what happened to him?? and he was a customer who i never met or crossed the line with .. you see?? you just never know!.. and i knew this guy for 10 yrs.. we talked about our personal lives .. he spoiled me paid way more than the shows i charged for.. and no more .. just disappeared.. my point is.. if you think he cares about you?? he fucking doesnt!! TRUST THAT!
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    He's never done Cam2Cam but he is super attractive in the pics he sent you? Lord, he could be anyone! He could be married, wife isn't submissive and he wants someone to fantasize with....you just don't know and I wouldn't go digging either. When he is in session with you, enjoy it, and that's it, until next the next session. He may never come back or will move on to someone else when he gets bored with you or runs out of money, finds a girlfriend in the real world...they do that! I have never heard a "cam girl fairy tale" story, where she runs off in to the sunset to live happily ever after with one of her customers. In fact, it's usually a story of heartbreak, deception, jealousy, abuse, etc....just.don't.go.there.

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    Default Re: Smitten with a customer!

    I have a whale who is 100% my type of guy. He comes by once a week or so to chat with me. He always tips me big and maxes out his credit. The first time we had a chat, he sent me some pics and I barely could believe that it was him, because he was so hot and the cock pic just looked crazy big, too. He told me he couldnt do c2c, because he had to temporarily lay in bed for medical reasons. That obviosly made me suspicious about his real identity. Then he finally did c2c with me and it turned out he is exactly the guy in the pics. He is also very smart, so polite and he has a great voice. I had to admit to myself that I have feelings for him and every time we chat I feel amazing. He even lives in a neighbouring country, so there would be a chance to actually meet him. I live only 500 miles away from him. I am tempted to tell him about my feelings and give him some personal information, but I will stay rational and treat him as what he his: a CUSTOMER. I don't even know how he would react if I told him how I felt. He could just leave and never return.

    My method to keep a professional distance is asking myself the same question other girls posted here, mainly:

    Why does a guy like him have to pay for cyber sex?

    In my case I'm pretty sure that he is married, although he told me he is not. I decided not to get hurt and keep the relationship the way it is. I will enjoy the time we have online and keep my feelings for him to myself.

    What really worries me is how I would react if he told me he had feelings for me...

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    Same like we have a cam persona they have a customer persona.

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    At the very beginning of my career I let some guys who were smitten with me (not really me, the camgirl me) get the best of me. I was on iFriends at this time, a crap website IMO. There were three of them- 1 recently divorced guy who never spent a single dime on me, an asshole Army guy who completely took advantage of me, and a guy who never stopped asking me to fly out to him so we could have sex.

    I actually talked with divorcee man on Skype for free (stupid of me) just so he could tell me over and over how he wished he could be my boyfriend, bothered me constantly while I was trying to work, then one day I flat out asked him if we would ever go private and he got butthurt because he really thought we were in love and must have believed I was sitting in front of a webcam for fun.

    I won't get into the other two because they aren't as relevant as divorcee man, but the moral of the story is this: Your mindset should always be, "I'm here to make money." Eventually I learned to sniff out the timewasters and all camgirls do, but in the meantime realize he's just a guy whacking it to you thousands of miles away.

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