First off, let me say I've enjoyed reading the threads here, it's helped me catch up on the SC life - and get the dancers' perspective. Background - going to be 40 in a year+, divorced, professional, and two great kids who take up all of my free time at home, when I'm not working (we share custody). I go to SC's on business/travel. No illusions here - I get it's a job first, and foremost. There is no white knight here, or a "fun" guy a dancer is supposed to choose over a guy who pays, or the good looking guy over the guy who pays. I'm the guy who pays for play. So, I had my annual guys trip this past month - and I'm still baffled by it. Again, no illusions, but what I'm really asking is - how far will dancers go with their own personal story truth-wise, and even pass up some $ to try and get us to buy the fantasy?
Anyways, on the trip, at one club I meet the dancer who is exactly my crush appearance-wise. She's obviously very successful (she made a ton of tips on the stage, and 3-4 guys asking her to go to VIP after I met her - more on that in a minute) - out-of-town freelance regular. I have a spectacular time in VIP, with contact, but nothing you'd consider extras. But hands-down, the best LD skills I've ever experienced, even without extras - she was spectacular. Now, I realize it's part of the act, but she seems to enjoy herself too, especially as she realizes I'm not going to dry hump her or go out of bounds, but really desire her. During this time, of course, she tells me more & more of her life - nothing too crazy, kid, divorced, family close-by, etc. - all of which I figure could be true, or could be entirely made up - but that's her right. I ask & get to give her more contact, as I enjoy that almost as much as receiving, after 2-3 dances, as she tells me "you've earned my trust, I feel safe" - 9-10 dances in all. All in all, an amazing, physically incredible time.
Anyways, next night, I decide I have to try and relive that night one more time - when I get there, I walk up to her just before she hits the stage, and she comes to me right after for some more VIP time. So here's where it gets weird - we have another awesome time in VIP, at least 7-8 dances. And there's a lot of mutual action going on, but again staying away from full extras. And then, as things get really hot, she stops me, and says - "I have to stop, this is too intense". Not telling me to stop what I'm doing - but she stops the VIP experience (she needs a break, literally). But, 2 hrs later, with 30 mins to go b4 closing, I asked her if she was game for VIP one last time (and of course, she said yes). And again, it was intense, amazing, and mind-blowing. Knowing I'm her last custy, she really kind of cuts loose. At the end, I do NOT ask for her FB/BBM/cell, because, well, I don't think I'm ever coming back. She gives me a great kiss (on the cheek, now that the lights are on), and says "you are such a good man" - and then tells me where she normally works, and what days. I blow it off because I think it's not going to happen again, since I'm never coming back. Then I find out a week later we have 2 annual business trips now planned at her city, out of the blue. So, I go check out the info she gave me, and through the club site indirect link I get her FB page - which actually confirms everything down to the T that she told me. So now I sit, completely baffled.
Again, I know it's a job, first, and frankly, I wouldn't get the interest if I wasn't paying first of all. And I understand what I'm feeling now isn't love, it's desire fuelled by two incredible nights of pay-for-play. I get that. What I don't get are 2-3 things, and I figure it would be better to hear it from the dancers than from other guys:
1. How much personal info do dancers normally give away? Is it normal for *really* personal information to be given away to anyone who pays? Or is this unusual?
2. Why would any dancer stop a sure thing as an ongoing VIP? That totally goes against the $-first principle...
Those are the 2 questions I can't figure out - any help here? Because I made it so clear I wasn't coming back (because I really didn't think I would), I don't see any type of long game being played here. The other practical question - now that I am going back for at least an annual visit - I'd love to contact her, again only for ITC business - I'm not saving anyone, this is work for her, and my life is complicated enough - but if I can get a shot to relive those 2 nights, hands-down I'm taking it. Because I didn't ask for her cell/FB/BBM, I really don't want to invade her privacy. I'm sorry if I sound like every other story told here, but I consider myself a level-headed guy who knows the score - my head tells me this wasn't that different, but the 2 questions keep me thinking there's a small difference. I appreciate the views from those who've been on the other side, and will listen to your input, even if it's not what I might want to hear.



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Any dancer is going to enjoy her time w/ you much more when you behave & are actually there for the company/services she provides, rather than trying to force yourself on her. It is not impossible to have an experience w/ a dancer that is mutually enjoyable, even if the two parties find their enjoyment in different aspects of their time together. 


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