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    I really want to go online but i feel so down.
    It's not like i am tiredof camming... i love it and i really want to cam but for some reason i feel so down.
    I have this customer who got angry at me and these customers who ignore me.
    There are days when i have so many people talking to me at once and days when i feel like nobody wants to talk to me or everyone is avoiding me.. especially my regulars.
    I feel so down.
    What should i do?

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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    The key is to not give one tiny shit what the customer does or thinks. You have to separate your emotions when you cam. If you cam for a reason, let that be your reason every time you go on, or choose a reason to go on. For example: Perhaps you want to buy a new car. Cam for your car and nothing else. Every dollar you make will go to your car fund no matter how much or little you make. Or, make a pretty box of "excuses". Every time you don't want to go on cam, write down the excuse, throw it in the excuse box, and do it anyway. Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

    Please do not cam to fill a social void. Guys sometimes won't talk to you. As long as they are paying you, that is all that matters. You can chat with "invisible" customers. Just make sure you're upbeat and optimistic. Go on, make money, and log off. If the site you are on now isn't fulfilling your financial goals, find other sites to work on. You can do this!




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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    Try taking 5-HTP. You can get it at Walmart. It's an over the counter vitamin that boosts the serotonin levels in your body, you know, the stuff that makes you feel good. Also, just turn on your cam and do it, fuck what the guys say, they are stupid anyways. As long as they fork money over to you, that's all that matters. Try doing voyeur shows, so you don't have to interact with them. The silent "ban hammer" and "kick" button is always your friend for those stepping out of line.

    And remember, when it comes to custies, this is ALWAYS how many fucks you should give:
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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    This is the story of my life.

    Make bank
    catch up on bills
    think wtf lets not work for a month
    then play catch up again .


    I need to stop that shit now.


    So I'm going to think of what life will be if I went beyond. How I have a little one who won't be told no for sports, animals who will feel more loved than most.

    I set my bills I need to pay now and then second I have that fun thing to splurge on in the back of my mind.

    A. Double birthday party (pool style)
    B. Water park
    C. Family Photos
    D. Big fuel efficient suv.

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    Just think of how many wonderful cocks you'll miss on cam if you don't log in. If that isn't motivating enough, I don't know what is?! GET DAAAAAAAAAAA DICK$$$$$$$$$$$!
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    PRO TIP: if no one is talking to you/doesn't like you when normally they do..it's you.
    REMEMBER: the cam sees EVERYTHING. If you think you're having a bad day, if you think no one wants to talk to you...you will and they won't. Period,

    I see too many camgirls blaming the guys or the industry for them not wanting to cam or not making bank.
    DON'T THINK THAT WAY. It is a self fullfilling prophecy. Assume whenever you have a bad day on cam or you don't feel up to it that it's YOUR bad. And think of ways you can make it better =D
    There are a million things you do when on cam that can affect how you do and how the cam world percieves you. Think of subtle differences in you attitude or your show or location,lighting, outfit, makeup... Keep a journal and take notes on what you wear, what you do, how you feel. Try and note the little things.
    Example: I had a bad cam week reecently where I was making 1/2 of what I normallly make. Finally sat down with my boyfriend [and assistant] and we decided to change up a few things. Found out as a result that my lighting in a different way helped, as well as which room I was camming in that day.
    If I had not sat down and thought it out critically I would still be making 1/2 of what I was used to and blaming the customers for being cheap rather than trying to constructively solve the problem myself.
    Good luck! I hope I helped motivate you!

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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    I'm pretty sure everyone has these feelings - probably a lot of the time. It's those moments when you don't dislike camming, you don't dislike the custies, you like the $$, but nerves and tiredness and laziness just get to you. I'm definitely prone to giving in to feelings like that, so I don't have tons of advice.
    I have noticed that having a glass of red wine (read: one, not four), while getting ready makes a tremendous difference. Also, I love putting on makeup in general, so sometimes I tell myself that I'm just going to put on makeup for fun - once I'm made up I feel all pretty, and my whole attitude changes. Not to encourage substance use, but coffee is helpful, too.
    When you find a little trick that works for you, write it down and keep a list. That way, when you want to get on, but are having trouble just doing it, you can just look at your list of tricks and pick one (or more).

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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    Thank you everyone.
    I will try my best to get this mood out of me with your advices.
    Thank you.

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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    While i agree with u to a certain point Pepper i want to add that sometimes it's very difficult to understand why u not having the success u want in cam work. There are many aspects related to work that are not connected with us or our performance on cam same like things connected directly to the way we conduct our work.
    I think personality is a major factor in how cam models decide to do work & the way we feel about our work defines the success we have or lack of success.
    For me this was always a dilemma, are we born with a specific personality type or we build our personality mostly on life experiences & things that happened to us, the environment we grew up in?
    This can be sometimes very confusing for people, while there are things u can control when working cam i am aware of the fact that we cant control everything, the body language, micro expressions, gestures and eyes/ look, all these gives a picture to the people watching us but not always makes us aware what we 'send' unconsciously.
    Yes guys feel our emotions thru cam, that's why cam work is soo difficult; i think some personalities type are more likely to succeed than others.

    I know i am a huge worrier, very sensitive, introverted, shy, a little pessimistic, etc; i have seen people like me on cam & seen very bubbly, happy, positive, energetic, original cam performers, the latter seem to do a lot better than 'my type'.

    Now, if you are built in a way, how much can u change ur acting to get to the point where u can be a great entertainer & feel good inside too and make bank? Is this even possible? To be 'somebody else' on cam, totally different than the original you?
    For me, i can act to a certain point but then i know i cant do things that dont represent me, i try to find a balance where i do a good job while i feel at least ok with myself, with the work i do on cam.
    I have ups & downs, sometimes i feel amazing & sometimes i feel pretty down, is a cycle connected to personal life events & earnings on cam.

    To give my post a positive note, i wish Original Poster to find all the power, strength & motivation to cope with situation & get the best results possible out of cam work! Cam work is not easy, for some people is more difficult than for others, even we feel down we must know that the only way to move it going up. Same like i tell myself i tell u now: work with ur mind, find resources inside u, no matter what people say or think the only one who can make things happen it's you.

    I told myself a while ago: so what i am not a top cam girl? So what people bark this & that in my chatroom or ignore me? Who said i have to be perfect in all? I dont have to be perfect, i dont have to be a top cam girl, i dont have to do this or that, nobody will kill me for not doing certain things or not reaching certain goals or money goals, i am my own boss, this means soo much actually, i can do whatever i want on cam, i'll do the things i am comfy with, these guys are not my bosses, i rule my room not them, i am The Goddess of my room & work space, i decide what i am willing to do for members, nobody else does.
    This way i was able to get over frustrations, yes i have good weeks and slower weeks but i know i am in charge always, i allow myself to be.... myself! I love myself, i accept my weak points same like i am proud of my great points, we are humans not machines, allow urself to be HUMAN. Much love xxx & Good luck!

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    I agree Alice! I just meant that one can VASTLY improve their cam experience by just paying attention to what personally works and what doesn't. I'm not just talking about personality [ being bubbly and happy etc] since not all guys WANT to deal with Ms. Bubbly [ seriously I have guys whine that I'm TOO upbeat and they'd like me better sedated ><]
    I was more referring to things like lighting, location, colors, outfit...things that you may change often and not really pay attention to. Paying attention to these little things helps ANYONE =D

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    Default Re: Motivate me Please!

    I also think it could be the roll of the dice on certain days. I don't give a flying fuck what customers think about me. They tip or they don't, they like me or they don't. I can act all happy and dance and they question me. I can sit and be boring they question me. I don't need them.

    Last night I worked CB and had my beach dress on. No goal. I had many members roll through who tipped the shit out of me. I had on less makeup and messy hair. It worked last night, I could not pull that off all the time however.
    My point is if you want to be on cam with no makeup and street clothes DO IT! If you want to look like a hot sex Kitten with major makeup and lingerie, DO IT! I see performers that I thought looked like crap, and they are banking! Performers all made up looking hot making no money. Don't think much about this job, it will drive you nuts. Just be you and try what you want to make it happen.

    We can't tell who is going to be in the mood for us from day to day. I just do it. I do sign off if after 30 minutes if it's dead though, screw that, and go work another site.

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