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    i feel lost, stuck, i need answers and i just don't know where to turn. if i could just get my ass the mainland i'd be ok, i'd have more options. i'm in a marriage that isn't going anywhere.but i stay because it allows me medical and he pays my bills. i have no money on own. dancing has come to a hault the clubs here either have there black girl quota or are just dead. i'm having a hard time finding a regular job. i still keep in touch with a real good sugar daddy of mine, he said that i could stay with him in georgia, but fuck who wants to be up under his ass all the damn time. i can't ask my mom to help me goto school, she has so much on her plate. my husband doesnt make enough money to afford us to live and pay for me to goto school. my sugar daddy on the other hand has more than enough for all of my wants and needs. i can say im honestly tired of doing extras for extra money. i have a few customers left that are still here that i can make more money off of them outsides the club than in. so from time to time i c them, husband has no clue. almost all of my friends and co-workers have moved on to the mainland are living so much better. it makes me feel like wtf am i still doing here. but moving for me is more than a notion. if i go i have to make sure that i can take of myself for atleast 3 months. if nothing else i gotta have a place to stay and i have to bring my car shipping a car to the mainland alone is 3 to 5,000 my god. my husband has a possibility of us moving duty stations, but him being army and with his job, it isn't going to have me near any place that i can make money dancing nor goto a decent cosmetology school. once he leaves hawaii he's gonna take a major pay cut. fuck, its not like he's a officer or something that we'd still be ok. somebodies bills arent going to be able to get paid. shit i have to make a decision and fast i just don't know if i just up and move i'm scared. i'm not even gonna lie. my family isn't very helpful shit i've always been in hawaii. it don't even know those people and when i meet them its always drama about what the older folks did before. i need advice.

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    Have you considered camming? It's something you can do wherever you are (I think!) and you'd be able to pick and choose who you want to surround yourself with.

    I know you don't want to hear it, but I'd LOVE to be in Hawaii right now!!!

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    ^You took the words out of my mouth (camming).

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    If you have already been doing extras at work, why not just go all in & escort?

    Otherwise, re: possibly moving duty stations, if this ends up happening, have you guys considered living in different areas (tho still married) for awhile after the move? Obviously he has to go where they tell him but is there any possibility you could find sm where nearby where dancing prospects are better? I am not saying at all that you guys should split up, that is kind of a whole other thing.

    Does he know abt the SD in Georgia?

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    If you decide to escort, please use a safety screening service like date-check.com or preferred411.com.

    I thought the military made a change so that the education benefits can be used by the spouse too now. Maybe those benefits would pay for cosmetology school.

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    thanks everyone for responding i appreciate you guys s0o much. first camming, yes i have been thinking about that as well. i have a friend that does it she doesn't make hella money but she doesn't put much effort into it either. problem is... my husband and i moved back in with my mom an grandma. it allows us to save some money. we were living in housing but that was taking all the bah and everything end up being on me so i put a stop to that. now where am i gonna cam from? theres no way i can have privacy to do what i gotta do. daytime my moms home and shes a busy body. nighttime hes home and he wants to be in our room. my grandma goes in her room shes not really a problem just my mom an husband. i've tried talking to him about couples camming but he's hella square in his thinking.

    escorting i have actually tried with a agency and all. we don't have many agencies out here. we have alot of massage parlors, there practically everywhere. to much asian drama bulshit. the agency i was with got shutdown. the owner still tries to keep in touch with certain girls and gives us leads when hes a client looking for your type but its once in a bluemoon.

    ive mentioned to husband about me dancing on the mainland and coming back and forth. he has this shit that in the beginning i'm going to come back then after awhile im not going to. which he maybe right. i always deny it, buts its probably true. i care about him, but i'm not in love with him. we are just too completely different people. who come from to different worlds.

    as far as my SD, he does know he knows alot about him actually. there were so many times where my husband couldnt or wouldnt help me out and my SD was there to save the day. he paid for practically my whole breast aug revision hotel, flight spending money everything. my husband kinda is just here. there was a point where my husband actually thought the SD and i were having a affair. i guess one could say that, but i don't think, of it that way hes not my type at all just has alot and im able to get what i need done. one of my friends even asked me why don't i just have a kid of the SD's dear god..... i mean hey the kid an i would be set but fuck. the 1 kid that he has that baby mama is set likes shes good aint gotta worry bout shit but dear god to have to look at that everyday.

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    military will pay for a spouse to get educated. heres the issue my husband hasnt been in the army long enough to transfer his gi bill to me. ive tried i even got him to reenlist with the intent that i just knew i was going to use his gibill. if he reenlist again so for another 3 years he'll be in 8 years and then he has to promise them that he will stay in x amount of time if they pay for me. he's not gonna do it and i cant see myself with him that long. im just geting tired. i dont want to seem like im using him but hey he's been using me since day one so now he's getting a little taste of his own. we have a very strained relationship an his family makes it worse. they make my life a living hell they do it on purpose. but like i said i have things to accomplish so i gotta do what i gotta do i guess.. smfh.

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    If things really are that bad, might be time to cut your losses (as well as his) & just split. I am a big believer in the seriousness of wedding vows & making the effort to make things work but if you are both giving up on each other then it really does not seem to be any point in staying together. Using each other is no way to go abt a marriage IMO.

    Go to GA & let the SD take care of you at least until you are able to stand on your own two feet. If he sets you up in your own digs then you will have the option of dancing, camming, PSO, escorting, or whatever combo of those suits you, & it sounds like he can set you up to continue your education as well.

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    so i decided to look up flights and car shipping. things aren't looking so bad. i feel like i can hustle up the money in a decent amount of time. the thought of leaving my dogs behind is making me sick. its not realistic to be like ok everyone pack the fuck up we leaving, but i am going to miss my family if i leave. my life will be so much easier though my god. i don't know how to tell my husband hey i getting ready to leave in the next couple months. hes not gonna take that very well. talking to him never turns out very well. i just feel like i gotta do something shit im 25 next year im getting old. what have i accomplished for myself in almost 30 years of my life. (i know u rounded a bit there but yall get where im coming from.) maybe i can go for 3 months come back for a momths and just do it like that. but i cant attend school being gone for 1 month every 3 months.

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