
Originally Posted by
Almost Jaded
From the other side of the coin...
Dated/got engaged to a dancer, but we met in the "real world" and she wasn't stripping at the time, started again while we were together. Lasted 4 years.
Met a cute little thing at a club as that relationship was ending. Spent some money on her - not a LOT, but a couple VIP's worth, and we hit it off. She insisted on giving me her real name & number (I actually protested & told her she shouldn't do that, LMAO). Long story short - we've been together 5 years, officially married just over a year.
Without going into a whole lot of detail, I've dated - as in, more than a fling, 6+months together - 2 other dancers I met ITC and had flings with a couple others. It DOES happen, however it's uncommon. I can honestly say that most of those wouldn't have happened without an "in", i.e., already with a girl they knew and therefor I was "known" to these girls and not a guy that walked in off the street in their eyes.
I know a lot of dancers very personally as in, long term close friends, and from what I've seen, maybe half of the dancers will date a customer under the right circumstances - but usually only once or twice and swear off it after that. I know 3 - including my wife - who have had successful relationships from this. Three out of hundreds, mind you. I know a select few who habitually date guys they meet and work, always swear they won't do it again, and do anyway, citing never going out and meeting guys OTC as the reason "it's the only place I meet anyone".
Overall, if you're looking to meet or even just hook up with a girl, the strip club is FAR from your best bet. You're rarely meeting the real girl, you're meeting her work personality, and SHE knows that, and therefor knows that the person you like isn't really her, plus she's there to make money, bot look for a BF - he overall situation isn't conducive to dating. My experiences and others cited are in the interest of full disclosure - it's uncommon and largely unwise.
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