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    Default The loud person next door

    A new 'person' just bought the condo next to me, with paper thin adjacent walls, and I hear slamming doors and loud music all afternoon into the wee hours of the morning.

    I'm really asking how to deal with the slamming of her door, mainly. Should I leave a note on her door? Or just deal with it?

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    I would maybe leave a note on her door about the slamming, and keep it nice. If it continues, I would maybe ask the owner of the building what you can do about it, because it's probably bothering other people too.
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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    I'm having a similar problem with the man that lives above me (he's not a sex worker though lol) but he has at least 3 baths a day. I applaud his hygiene but my place has a horrible echo and when he runs the bath, it sounds like a power washer in my apt. If I'm streaming at the time I have to hit the break button because people can hear it and they leave my room and when I'm in private, I have to explain and apologize for the noise.

    I can't complain that he's having a bath during the day or evening but his 3rd bath is always at 2am or 3am or 4am (you get the idea) and it's guaranteed going to wake me up (even with earplugs)
    I've considered leaving a note but I don't know him and don't know if he's the type that would start having more, just to be a douche!

    All I can say in your case is to leave a note or perhaps mention it in person. There's no other option you have, unless you're just going to learn to deal with it.
    And try not to show that you have a negative vibe from her because that might come out in your body language or tone of voice/letter and she might get defensive.

    Good luck with it

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    Glam I cracked up because I know I drive my neighbors crazy as much as they do me , just leave a well mannered note be friendly.

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    I would approach her in a friendly manner that suggests she wasn't aware nor doing it on purpose.
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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    is there a possibility to subtly ask her personally to maybe calm down the door? if she thinks you know what shes doing and yet you are still being respectful and polite she might be more likely to bend over backwards to help solve the situation; i mean, she is potentially putting herself at risk for being reported and i guarantee she doesn't want her income taken away. however i realize that isn't a;ways possible and a note would be perfectly acceptable. as long as it is polite - the first time. good luck glam!!
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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    I think a note would suffice at 1st, i had a situation like this some time ago myself: somebody bought the apartment under mine 2+ years ago & every single day i heard loud music when i wanted to sleep, it was soo loud it got me up every damn time, every time he was at home he will use the stereo and put loud music it got me nuts, i never knew when it'll happen next.
    My son told me it's a young guy around 30 yo, i after a while met him in the elevator & i told him i am the lady from above his flat & how much he disturbed me with his loud music. Big 'mistake' on my side, he reacted very ugly on it, we got in conflict badly, the guy is a douche & was drunk that day, he got very pissed, i got pissed too, we started to argue, i complained to building admin, i even called the police that evening cause he went home and put music soo loud just to piss me off, then he put music all the time when home & even louder my flat was shaking, he yelled in his flat, he disturbed other neighbours too, he got fined when i called the police (i own this flat), etc etc, it was a mess for a good while.

    He really disturbed my life & my ability to work & sleep cause he played gipsy music also in my language, horrible, i have sound on when i work, i could not work nites cause i could not sleep days then i could not work days/ evenings cause of the music. I am single & nobody to protect me, my son is a teenager, what can he do? He avoids conflicts, he dont want us in trouble with this douche but that idiot really 'tortured' me for long time before he stopped a while ago, i bet others filled complaints too & he got fined even more, i hope.
    Now time to time he puts music loud but it's not like before. He avoids me, when he sees me he runs lol.
    So pls be careful Glam, u never know how people can react when u confront them, pls be safe and good luck! xxx

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    Kill her with kindness. I would take the sweet approach and just be friendly. Make her care about being considerate. If she sees you staring at her then maybe she is mirroring the looks you give her? Just something to throw out there. THings are not always what they seem. Leaving a note can come off as passive aggressive and then she may see you as being petty or weak and really mess with your tranquility? So I would just be friendly and see what happens.

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    My former room mate had to go through the same thing! She heard the door slamming all the time across the hall, the person was going out to smoke all hours of the day and night, set her dogs off barking like crazy.
    She did leave a note, BUT... left no name. It was something like : "We try our best to be quiet around here for others, please try too."
    It was nice, not signed off, it will keep her guessing it could be anyone who wrote that even if she asks around. I would not start a shit storm either. That should be enough.

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    Hooker? Really??! I can't believe you used that word.
    Also, if you can't handle the sound of a door shutting, maybe you should move in the country or something. I don't understand people that complain when they hear regular noises from neighbors while living in a complex or a big city or what not. Like, why do you even live there if you can't handle any noise and get health problems from it? Seriously.

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPinkCupcake
    I don't understand people that complain when they hear regular noises from neighbors while living in a complex or a big city or what not.
    Regular noises would be a dog bark here and there, or the vacuum cleaner...but not until the wee hours.

    The sounds of a door slamming and a dog barking from the afternoon until the wee hours is annoying as hell...especially when it's an apartment building or a place with paper thin walls. I'd be pissed too. Gotta be considerate of the neighbors.
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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    First off, I really don't think it's fair to blame her for your migraine/illness, regardless of the vibes you're getting from her. Her being an escort (because her door opens and closes a lot and you see men coming in?) isn't really relevant either. I'm not saying this to minimize what you have to deal with, I'm saying this to point out that you have preconceptions about her that are coloring your view and may actually be making her actions more annoying to you or making her seem more antagonistic than she is.

    Your problem seems to be that her door slams a lot throughout the day. Since you seem to really dislike her and she seems to have picked up on that your best bet would probably be to leave a polite note, such as "Hi there and welcome to the building! You may not have realized that the walls here are super thin and sometimes doors can set off the dogs on this floor. For this reason we try to open and close our doors as gently as we can, especially when it gets late. Thanks in advance!" I wouldn't sign it but I'd make it polite enough that you wouldn't be scared to put your name on it, and I would fold it over so people knocking on her door can't read it. If she is an escort I'm sure it will give her peace of mind to know that the neighbors don't care about the men going in and out, only the noise.

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    Default Re: The 'Hooker' Next door~Your opinions~ I'll explain

    So others can be rude but she should move? Door slamming and dogs barking all the time are not normal sounds. It's called being a good neighbor and not bothering your fellow neighbors. She lived there first and then the neighbor recently moved in.




    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPinkCupcake View Post
    Hooker? Really??! I can't believe you used that word.
    Also, if you can't handle the sound of a door shutting, maybe you should move in the country or something. I don't understand people that complain when they hear regular noises from neighbors while living in a complex or a big city or what not. Like, why do you even live there if you can't handle any noise and get health problems from it? Seriously.

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    How do you know she's a "hooker" anyway? Maybe she just likes to hook up with guys or has a lot of guy friends? I know I have a lot of guy friends myself.

    When I lived next to noisy neighbors, I decided to break my lease. Thats just about all you can do, trust me. You can leave her a note, but there is nothing that can legally be done if she isn't quiet unless she's throwing a party or making non-stop noise to the point where you can get the police to come and listen from inside your apartment.

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    How do you know she is a hooker??

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    Always blame the person who is not there.

    If you can catch her in person, find a cutesy way of letting her know you know what is what and you don't care but Oh, those A-holes down the hall, they just hate any noise, and if they figure out what is up, oh boy.

    Really it is the truth, you don't care how she earns her living, but some people would, so you are just helping her out.

    I see no need to create a personal confrontation with a person that is a stranger to you and likely to stay that way

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    Thanks ladies! I'm just reporting that the problem has been solved. "Thank You Uncle Tony!" (Just kidding).


    That's about it.
    have a great weekend everyone.
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    Have you tried a white noise generator?

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    ^^ Yes, Thanks, I have a white noise generator. No noise can drown out the constant sirens and honking horns outside though. it's ok. It's only temporary. That's why the internal noise and hallway noise drove me wacky. it was coming from both ends1 Earplugs work well to an extent, when I want to sleep. I'm sure it will be ok now. I plan on staying up all night as well, because camming is best for me then.

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    Glad your situation is fixed!

    I was living in an apartment complex a few years ago and I always have about 3 dozen key chains cause I lose my keys all the time... of course I was working at my club so I would get home at 5am. It drove my neighbor insane hearing my keys jiggling and jangling when I got home, which I always did because I have my make up box and dance bag in my hands so they were usually dangling from my mouth. She left me a care package-- REALLY expensive spa products-- and a note asking me to be a little more quiet with my keys. The fact that is came with such an expensive gift made me much more amenable, of course, so I left her a note apologizing and explaining why I had so many key chains but that I would try to be quieter. She left me another package with one of those remote key finder things from Sharper Image in them and another note thanking me for my response. Best neighbor ever!

    Yes, cities are noisy, but it never hurts to ask someone to stop making noise if it bothers you. They might not even realize they're doing it-- I definitely never thought about my keys being loud when I got home. I was always super careful about my music being loud or the TV being loud, since the walls were paper thin there, and not slamming the door, but I never thought about the keys. It's all about how you go about asking. I find that requests accompanied with gifts work very well.

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    ^ i wouldn't do that, it may come off as very catty and backfire on you. just a nice little gift that any woman could use like the one that audrey K suggested. are you also 100% sure she's an escort? have you ever met her?

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    Instead of being immature and catty why can't you just go talk to her? Maybe she didn't even realize she was disturbing you? Some walls are just thin and thats how some places are built - you live in a well padded apt or house and get used to slamming shit around - then move around sometimes you just don't know how loud you're really being.

    The worst she could do is blow you off - then go to management or file a formal noise compliant. Are we not adults?


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    ^^ Thanks for sharing that story.
    If She ever gets noisy again, I'm going to take that advice, and perhaps leave a gift box of condoms, lingerie, and maybe a gift certificate to an online sex toy shop, wrapped in a pretty box with a bow on top. LOL!
    And this, ummmmmmm. No. #1 you don't even know that she's an escort. The only "proof" you have is that she has an odd schedule and you saw a dude in a suit at her door. Wow, cause only guys paying for sex show up in fancy clothes lol. I mean, really? You've completely made up a bunch of assumptions about this person and are now wanting to drop a "hooker giftbag" at this woman's door. Grow up. You can't even talk to the woman in person so you're resorting to a 'nose-in-the-air' attitude about her ASSUMED line of work - that's all I'm sensing here - like, you DO know how derogatory the term "hooker" is right?

    The only one we know for sure that's into sex work here is you, soooo drop the high and mighty bs.







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    Going to security might work - but I just wonder if being direct wouldn't address the problem more efectively. Making a ton of noise then going to security seems all very passive-aggressive. Just being direct & honest that you don't care about anything but the noise (specifically the door slamming) seems like it would either work or let you know exactly where you stand - which would be the 2 goals (either fix the problem altogether or at least know it's not easily fixable). You say she realized the noise issue with your first move (making a lot if noise yourself) but the only way to know for sure is to tell her directly.

    I know most people don't like direct confrontation but it doesn't have to go down that way (as confrontational) on your part - being polite and focused on the problem but firm that a solution is necessary works best in my experience. It's also more likely to address the problem directly. Worst case you find out she has zero chance to willingly do it - best case she gets the direct message instead of indirect attempts. Good luck.
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    There's nothing worse than a slut shaming stripper.

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    When I lived in Austin I had the worse neighbors. I had one that was always drunk and screaming on the phone outside. She also fucking fed all the feral cats so our stairwell smelt like piss. Everyone complained about her and she ended up getting evicted. We also captured the cats and took them to a no kill shelter after she left.

    The best one was the hippy college girl. She lived right above me and this was around the time my husband and I had 9-5 vanilla jobs. But she would have drum circles in the wee hours of the night. Not kidding. Drum circles at 2 am on a Tuesday. Constantly poured bong water over the edged that would splash on my dog because he always stuck his head out to people watch. She only listened to one Modest Mouse song (Tiny Cities Made of Ashes) that would be blasted.

    I've asked her kindly plenty of times not to do drum circles late at night, pour her bong water off the edge, and to listen more of the Moon & Antarctica because it is a great album. I've warned her that cops frequent there a lot (which they did and she knows that) and some people aren't afraid to and I wouldn't want anything bad to happen to her.

    She didn't listen. Thursday 4:00 am drum circle. Dog covered in bong water. My neighbor who lived right next door, who was our good friend, asked if he can finally call the cops. I said do it and mention that my dog got covered in bong water.
    She ended up getting arrested for paraphernalia because I guess she opened to door when they were passing a blunt. Because I heard "Did you seriously open the door with a blunt? You have a peep hole."





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