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    Hi I’m Luna, I’m relatively new here, but have been camming for around 6 months (and doing phone sex for nearly a year). Sorry in advance for the long post. I am on a 2 week holiday right now, but when I go back to camming I’m going to be changing some things. Mainly my schedule, but I’ll also be working on some new sites (I’ve only been on one site so far) and maybe splitcamming.

    From the beginning I have been doing anal (because I enjoy it in my personal sex life), but I have only been asked to do it on cam around 4-6 times a week. When I change my schedule and start working some new sites, I am expecting that number to dramatically increase (purely because my amount of customers will [hopefully] dramatically increase.)

    A couple of weeks ago, by some freak of nature, I was asked for anal 18 times in 2 days. By the end of the 2 days, I was in a lot of pain and discomfort. I am worried about my health and comfort when I go back to work (and probably receive a lot more anal requests), and I am trying to come up with a way to manage it in a comfortable but profitable way.

    I’ve had a few ideas:

    1. Stop doing it altogether. But it brings me a lot of customers (and therefore more money) and I am not uncomfortable with it in general, I just don’t want to be doing it 20 times a day!
    2. Carry on doing it, but charge extra. This will reduce the amount of requests for it I get and make me feel like it's more worth it. But I like being 'all-inclusive' and I think guys are the same and don't like paying for extras. Plus I don't want to be doing things I don't want to do purely for the money; that could lead me down a bad road. If I were to do this, how much should extra should I charge?
    3. Carry on doing it whenever someone asks, but instead of doing it with my big dildos and quite hard/fast, just doing it with a finger and my very slim (and comfortable) anal toy, and only allow it gently.
    4. Carry on doing it with my big dildos and hard/fast, but only 1-2 days a week. As in, when I publish my schedule, write on it “I only do anal on Tuesdays and Thursdays” or something like that. If I was going to do this, should I do anal on my busiest or quietest days? On quiet days it will bring more customers, and on busier days the customers will already be there but it might encourage them to do a show/a longer show/spend more money/tip more etc. Do you think if a customer wanted anal on a Wednesday and I only did it on Thursday, they would wait a day or just go and find someone else?


    So I guess I was just wondering, if you were in my position, which option would you choose for maximum profit without discomfort? Or do you have another option I haven’t thought of? Any advice at all would be so helpful!

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    I'm sure the other ladies have better advice.
    Mine is, NEVER hurt yourself for a buck! Don't do it. Trip to the doctor with exams would probably cost more then the money made. Some guys can be brutal, they just don't care. It's OK to be a no girl too.
    I can't stand those guys. 18 times? I would never sit again.

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    Number three. If you start to dread camming that won't turn out well. This way you have options, the show will probably end successfully without bothering you, or if he tries to talk you into bigger toys, he spends more time in the show, more money while you decide whether you feel like using them that day or not. Take care of yourself.

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    I would say do it only when you feel like doing so. When you feel like using your dildo, use it. When you are more comfortable with your finger, use finger. Whenever you think that you're doing it too much, stop for couple days or as long as you feel. Just let know your customers that you don't always do anal... the change could even turns in your favour maybe? I think guys prefer knowing that you really like what you're doing instead of accomplishing every request just because it brings you money.

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    Welcome, Luna! You did anal with a big toy 18 times in 2 days? Holy shit, bb (pun intended)!
    I would go with solutions #2 & #3.

    For solution #2, how you work that depends on what site(s) you're on. On SM and AW, I only offer anal in 1on1 chat. Since my 1on1 rate is higher, they are paying more for it. Also, I find it hard to do anal in a group chat setting. The first guy asks for anal, so you start the anal, then another one wants BJ, so you turn about and do a BJ, then someone comes in and requests more anal, since he missed it the first time. It's like a circus. Occasionally, I will get a guy in group chat that really wants anal, so I'll say that I only bring out the anal toys in 1on1, but I'll do some anal fingering in group (since I'm such a horny slut, I just can't resist, lol).
    Many ladies that offer anal will only do it in a block show where the guy has already paid for at least 15 minutes, so that's another way to handle it.

    Solution #3 is critical. Many guys asking for "anal" are really asking for any sort of ass related activity. I have a couple sets of beads, a couple plugs, and a narrow, smooth glass wand that I use for the actual in&out action. I've ordered a glass plug that is long and narrow-ish, which I'm hoping can be used for thrusting type anal, and then left as a plug for DP. When a guy asks for anal, I try to offer beads or a plug first, and only do ass fucking if they specifically request it.
    (A tip about DP - try to avoid using glass in both holes. They can "clink" together, which is audible and causes a pretty painful pinch.)

    If you wanted to try out #4, why not offer big/hard/fast only during a special show, like a Gold Show or similar. Let the guys know that this is a RARE & SPECIAL show and charge accordingly.

    Hope that helps!

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    I don´t do anal at all, but I think I would charge more or maybe do it with small toys. If you´re trying Streamate for example, you can, like many other girls, do it only in block sessions or goldshows if goal is met.

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    I'm not sure i would charge more. It depends if your rates are already high. I noticed you're in the UK too.. Assuming you're on a pay per minute site (not mfc or something) then i would look at pricing. If you're at £1.99/£2 for private, i would whack your prices up. I do private at £2 but i don't do anal, and i don't do big vaginal toys. The most to go inside my vajajay is fingers or a slim toy. I do have big ones but they don't come out often. Most guys are happy with that.

    If, you're at £2.75-£3+ then i think that's fine. I know for sure if i was doing myself in the ass with a big toy i would want a high rate per minute.

    If i were you i would make sure your prices reflect what you'll do. Remember lots of girls don't offer anal - and if they do, they often don't use big toys, so you're at an advantage there = can charge more.

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    I have written in my profile I do anal only in exclusive and it is "daily limited", also I stated "please ask beforehand, I cant do anal 24/7". It does make it even more special for some members, and I always have the option to decline anal in excl.
    I spice it up also by telling them I am really tight (which is true), it gives me the oppurtunity to take it slower and using smaller toys. I only do anal in my own comfortzone, if someone is rushing me or is a "faster harder deeper"guy I will just stop and tell them I am not their kinda girl....
    I simply wont ruin my body for them. I have new analtoys which are WAY smaller than the ones I used when I first started. They are the Spur for Vixencreations, I have had not one complaint about it (which shock me since it is really small). It is a great toy to use, but sometimes hard to bring in because the head is really soft. It is appr. two fingers thick
    My concerns about keeping tight prevends me from taking bigger toys

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    If you're uncomfortable, DON'T do it! I don't do anal or any kind of penetration and it has not affected my income one bit!
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    I chose 1, or 3. I think if you enjoy it, you should do it, but to take care of your body and go slow. Or, you can just stop altogether so that you may enjoy it in your personal life only. Camming can be pleasurable for both the customer and the model but I find it helps me if I set boundaries for myself, while giving the customer what he needs/wants. At the end of the day though, you still control the list of things you provide and your health should always come first.

    Sometimes when we announce things that we enjoy they can be taken for granted. For example: Squirting. I don't announce this, but I will do it if a customer requests it over a long show. I found that when I did mention I like/do squirting everyone came out the woodwork requesting it and I ended up with a very soiled office chair (and towels) and a very sore vagina. Please take care of YOU first. You can enjoy things without necessarily going overboard just because the customer wants you to.




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    I don't do it cuz i never do it, IRL and online.

    My thoughts are....OMG, 18 TIMES IN 2 DAYS? Gawd, even my puss hurts thinking about that.
    -Charge more. The amt of traffic & requests you get will only increase as you continue offering anal options, why not make it MORE profitable? Srsly, my prof everywhere says NO ANAL, and it's still the main goddamned thing I hear everytime i'm on. I definitely think it is something more "specialized" so....charge more.
    -Maybe have a themed day or 2.... like how people do Thong Thursday or whatever.....do something like Anal Friday or some shit.
    -Don't do it when you don't want to or if you are literally uncomfortable.
    -Maybe even have various prices for the size of toys.

    -If you don't wanna change much, do it less often than currently.
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    Congrats to you for being able to do anal. It's something that always grossed me out. I never tried it, and I definitely don't want my first time to be on cam, because with my luck, it'll go horribly wrong and I'll end up on efukt.

    Anyway, I like 2 and 3. I would charge more for it, and ALSO only do it with a finger or a small dildo (unless they specifically request a big one). I usually do shows without a dildo unless requested, because it does get sore after a while!

    So you'll be making more and be in less pain
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    There is a desensitizing anal lube, but please use caution. You tend to over estimate what you can take when you don't feel it. And also, (Sorry forgot your numbers) I would mix up 3 & 4 (I think it was)... Offer anal all the time with small, smooth toys and your fingers, and maybe do like a Goldshow once in a while with bigger toys.
    Good Luck
    Take time to let it heal and start again with small toys and your fingers.
    Be safe and I know you want to offer as much as you can, but your personal health is worth much more than what you could make
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    I'm not big into Anal either. It fucking hurts to lube a finger up and stick it in my ass! I have a super tight ass, so I know I tighten up and don't breath when I am going to try Anal.
    I will us a butt plug that does feel full without pain. That's it from now on. I just can't get into it no matter how hard I try on cam.
    Also to see a butt plug sticking out of my ass they are going to pay a lot! So, this gets me off the hook. I don't advertise it either.

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    I do anal majority of my shows. because I enjoy it , what I find using true butt plugs helps and lots and lots of lube. I mostly use glass toys because they slide in better. then maybe a vibrator on my clit to make things more relaxing and comfortable. now if you went to much and damanage something inside you will have to rest it for a while and have it heal there is a cream you can get from your doctor they called anal fisal. its common when you have a hard time going to bathroom. and a warm water both helps a lot.

    if you are using a glass toy you can cool it down by putting in cold water or the freezer that helps ease the process. and it much easier to do it more off cam then on cam, when you do it more off cam you can build a rythm with it so you can do it quicker on cam.
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    Disclaimer: I don't do anal, but if I were in your position I would go with 2 and 3. Anal is an extra, guys have no right to complain about paying more for having you stuff a big dildo in your ass than they pay for having you put on lotion or whatever. And fuck what guys like. Guys would like it if you stripped off all your clothes in free chat and started banging your ass with your biggest dildo for free but that doesn't mean you're going to do it. If you're on SM you could only do anal in exclusive, if you're on MFC you could ask for a tip... however much makes it worth it to you, isn't high enough to discourage all anal custies but is enough to thin the crowd a bit.

    I don't know what kind of toys you're using but a lot of girls seem to like glass toys for anal. When I've experimented in my personal life I've found that it's the friction that's most unpleasant for me, so smaller glass toys and a thick lube might help with that. You're sticking something in your ass lol, unless you claim to specialize in large object insertion or whatever guys really shouldn't care.

    And my final suggestion: learn to fake it! There are several threads on here on the subject. You don't have to fake it all of the time, but even doing it 1/3 or 1/2 of the time would really cut down on the soreness without hurting your profits.

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    no amount of money is worth ruining your asshole.

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    If you enjoy it, then continue to do it. I would charge more for anal or have them give you a big tip before you do anal in your show. I would also suggest you find anal toys that you like and use those. You can still make money doing cam shows without anal.

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    This is a copied quote from Nina Hartley's blog. from an article she wrote giving advice to new performers. This goes for camming as well as performing in features, and it is the best advice I have heard.
    Personally I love anal sex at home with my partner, but NOT with toys. I stopped doing anal on cam long ago. Don't worry, your true fans will understand and still keep coming back

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    A true fan wants to see you have an authentically good time, not a pretend one. ONLY do acts on camera that you already like. If not, there’ll be a record of you having a shit time and the money will be spent. And if you don’t do anal, then Don’t. Do. Anal. Just don’t. Really.”

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    I don't do anal specifically because then that's all they'd end up asking for and there's no fucking way I'd do anal every god damned show. Fuck them and fuck the $$. Let them stick toys in their ass. ( they will) I just don't enjoy it. Not to mention I have the occasional anal problem to begin with. And I forever have an image stuck in my mind that someone once told me about anal sepage and guys having to stick tampons up their ass because of that. Ewww.
    I really do wonder how some of these chicks keep the poop up in the chute after the toys I have seen them advertising go in there. I mean I know the sphincter will close, but just how lax it must be after awhile. I mean you know when you have to go and are holding it ... I just get the image that they can't hold it. well. for long. Eh. Not for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mare View Post
    And I forever have an image stuck in my mind that someone once told me about anal sepage and guys having to stick tampons up their ass because of that. Ewww.
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    I enjoy anal. But I don't do it on cam. Honestly most of these fuckers have false expectations how anal works because they don't show the stretching out part in porn. Or they expect you to do the same because x model can. I know with me it takes a lot of time, stretching, and I basically have to starve myself beforehand. I also like to make sure I'm 100% cleaned because I don't want to have an accident.
    To me, its not worth it. And I make good money still not doing anal.


    The why no anal question is annoying though. I get it 60 times a day.


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    I typically offer anal but don't list it in my "kinky attributes" (a streamate thing) as to not encourage it. I also sometimes list in my room topic "not doing anal today" because it just isn't a good day for it, and I think guys respond to that-- being how I'm a girl next door, not a pornstar type always ready for anal. Some days are simply not anal days.

    And I never put the big dildo in there-- if they don't like it, they can go find someone who is obsessed with anal. That's not me.
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    Off topic/on topic omg, there is some other thread lurking on the board from a while back that has a link to a vid in which the performer's ENTIRE RECTUM falls out of her anus. Prolapse to the extreme.
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