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    Default I have a "stalker"

    I met a man in the club, He was immediately infatuated with me.
    Ive delt with this before, but something felt a bit off from the start. The 3rd night after
    meeting, he came in with a ring from a jewelry store, (With a receipt, it wasn't cheap)
    and asked me to marry him. This scared the hell out of me, so i started avoiding him.

    I own a web design company, its ran under my given name.
    A few days after i left the club, i checked my companies emails
    and had found he had left several, calling me by my given name.

    A few days later, he started calling my private home number,
    which is listed NOWHERE that i know of, on the internet.
    I dont use this for cam, dancing, ANYTHING.

    Anywho. Hes found my camming pages, and is asking me to meet him on there
    although im kinda creeped out by him, and would prefer to never hear from him again.

    I was just visiting the club, while traveling, (Yes dancing) and he dosnt live local, but still
    the bad vibes from him where eminence.

    Hes wealthy, drove a brand new Ferrari, and is looking for a trophy wife. (I think hes use to buying womens attention honestly).
    Would you meet him on cam, or cut him off.

    I dont think hes crazy, as he holds a great job. But still, he might be alittle off, just judging by how he showed up with the ring
    and wont leave me alone.
    Like i said, Ive had customers who where alittle to needy, but never that would use services to find me.
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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    I would absolutely not meet him.

    In fact, I'd cut all contact.

    Looking for and then using personal information I haven't personally offered crosses a serious line.

    Get a new number, consider rebranding your web business, and possibly consider changing your legal name if things escalate.






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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    Yeah this man screams crazy. I wouldn't just in case. Also I would let him know to back off. Also straight up tell him he is freaking you out and making you feel uncomfortable.

    I mean he sounds like a great potential gravy train... but I'd be hesitant to ride.





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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    Um doll I can offer some advice , I have to file bankruptcy because of my shitty psycho ex customer ... kinda why I am cramming mainly.


    1 . Guys like that in the beginning are amazing , and highly profitable but in the long run are not worth it to me but if you want to keep him as a temp atm here is what you could deal with.
    2 . If he feels slighted in the smallest way it can end really shitty with a lot of drama that I cannot even describe changed me. He would call my phone 190 times in a hour , YES and he was just my customer.
    3. If you want to keep him for a custie for the club or cams cool , but change all numbers he somehow got TODAY .
    4. Make is crystal clear in a kind and passive way that he can take a flying fuck off a cliff outside of work realms.
    5. If he gives you LARGE sums of cash as gifts or a big ticket item make sure you have all receipts, warranty's, deeds and a handwritten dated note saying he gave them to you , or better text or email a thanks and save screenshots .

    Make sure YOU are the one in control of the situation and not him ever , if he starts acting weird to the point you are scared cut him off fast I only say this because you don't seem all the way freaked out. Maybe just letting LE know in a report this guy seems weird , just to cover your back.

    P.s Is his name scott ?
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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    your Gut is tell you to run... so run... listen to your gut it is normally right

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    I say RUN I too have had (and still do have) a stalker. This guy was calling me up to 6 times per minute at one point and then I started using google voice so he can't. He has this false sense of entitlement to me. I just block any and all numbers he tries to call from and pay absolutey 0 attention to him.
    As for your stalker he used and/or paid for a service to get your PERSONAL INFO. that requires a police report to say the least. print the emails and make copies of each one. the police may treat you shabbily and discard the info because of your adult job. Keep back up evidence incase you have to hire an attorney to force the police to do their jobs. Tell this guy exactly ONCE that you are not interested, he needs to leave you alone, and lose your info. DON'T tell him you are filing a police report (you could potentially put yourself in danger) just call the police, go to the police station, take the emails with you, take your cell phone and show them any calls that came from him, also tell them he has called your private unlisted home number with out you giving him the number and you know he has gotten your info from somewhere likely by paying for it. This guy WILL be a problem if you don't nip it in the bud. Change all phone numbers immediately. I am so sorry you are going through this.

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    I say RUN I too have had (and still do have) a stalker. This guy was calling me up to 6 times per minute at one point and then I started using google voice so he can't. He has this false sense of entitlement to me. I just block any and all numbers he tries to call from and pay absolutey 0 attention to him.
    As for your stalker he used and/or paid for a service to get your PERSONAL INFO. that requires a police report to say the least. print the emails and make copies of each one. the police may treat you shabbily and discard the info because of your adult job. Keep back up evidence incase you have to hire an attorney to force the police to do their jobs. Tell this guy exactly ONCE that you are not interested, he needs to leave you alone, and lose your info. DON'T tell him you are filing a police report (you could potentially put yourself in danger) just call the police, go to the police station, take the emails with you, take your cell phone and show them any calls that came from him, also tell them he has called your private unlisted home number with out you giving him the number and you know he has gotten your info from somewhere likely by paying for it. This guy WILL be a problem if you don't nip it in the bud. Change all phone numbers immediately. I am so sorry you are going through this.
    If this guy is proposing to you after only 3 days, and is obtaining and using your personal info he is fucking psychotic no matter what kind of job he holds, how long he has held it, or how much he makes. psychotic stalkers are very good at hiding their stalking/menacing activities from everyone but their victims.

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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    I hear the word stalker and I cringe. Ted Bundy was a fantastic Law Student! Craigs List Killer was doing damn well too. The list goes on and on.....
    I would back him off ASAP!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Camigirl View Post
    I hear the word stalker and I cringe. Ted Bundy was a fantastic Law Student! Craigs List Killer was doing damn well too. The list goes on and on.....
    I would back him off ASAP!
    so very true. to look at them you would have never known they were crazy or dangerous! the only ones who knew prior to them getting caught were there victims

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    Restraining order!

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    talk to the police about a cease and desist and/or restraining order

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    Is he a man of spanish descent and happen to own a black ferrari? If so PM me. thats my stalker too and he traveled to stalk me. I made a thread a couple of days ago. I know its not likely but wanted to ask anyways!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BuffyFlame View Post
    I met a man in the club, He was immediately infatuated with me.
    Ive delt with this before, but something felt a bit off from the start. The 3rd night after
    meeting, he came in with a ring from a jewelry store, (With a receipt, it wasn't cheap)
    and asked me to marry him. This scared the hell out of me, so i started avoiding him.

    I own a web design company, its ran under my given name.
    A few days after i left the club, i checked my companies emails
    and had found he had left several, calling me by my given name.

    A few days later, he started calling my private home number,
    which is listed NOWHERE that i know of, on the internet.
    I dont use this for cam, dancing, ANYTHING.

    Anywho. Hes found my camming pages, and is asking me to meet him on there
    although im kinda creeped out by him, and would prefer to never hear from him again.

    I was just visiting the club, while traveling, (Yes dancing) and he dosnt live local, but still
    the bad vibes from him where eminence.

    Hes wealthy, drove a brand new Ferrari, and is looking for a trophy wife. (I think hes use to buying womens attention honestly).
    Would you meet him on cam, or cut him off.

    I dont think hes crazy, as he holds a great job. But still, he might be alittle off, just judging by how he showed up with the ring
    and wont leave me alone.
    Like i said, Ive had customers who where alittle to needy, but never that would use services to find me.
    Girl, cut him off because he is just another weirdo who is trying to get too personal. Normally, I would say that he seems like a great catch but...he got personal information on you without your knowledge That is just too much of a red flag.

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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    I'm confused. Does he want to meet on cam or in person or both? If he wants to be a customer on cam, I'd let him. See how much money you can get, but make sure he knows the boundaries. If he continues to be really creepy, cut him off.
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    Default Re: I have a "stalker"

    He's already seen her in person in her own town 3 times. He just hasn't talked to her iRL yet.

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    ^Wrong thread

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    So he knows your real name and has your private unlisted phone number? I think it's safe to assume it's possible he was also able to obtain your home address? I would recommend never having any contact with this guy at all. What's to stop him from coming into your cam room and giving the other guys your personal info out of spite? He sounds crazy to me. Document everything, file a police report for your records and block him.

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    He IS crazy as hell. I would stay away from him and if he continues to bother you file a police report.

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