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    Text I received from my sister this morning.

    For the record. I wasnt trying to get into your relationship. I was talking about the person you are. You try to convince yourself and your husband that you are a good person but you are not. What makes you think money defines you. Sitting at a fancy restaurant for an hour puts you to their level. No you have nothing in common w those people. But a fantasy to be them. In reality you are coming home to your truth. Yet you try to mask that all the time. Having nothing to offer. Just being dead weight to your struggling husband or any other man for that matter. Your husband is the only idiot to carry dead weight.Thats not very smart. You want money. You want to actually belong to that class. Have class first. Earn your own money get an education like they did. Dont try to live that life through another person. Its hilarious. It makes you look like a fool. Money does not make you a better person.


    I am not every close to my sister. She does not know im in school = / or any of my dreams and aspirations for that matter. She knows nothing about my goals in life. I sometimes wonder why we are so different.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    wow

    even if someone thought such a thing, why would they communicate it like that?

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Ugh this sounds exactly like the shit my family says to me.

    Here's what I think : First off, just cause you are an adult entertainer NOW doesn't mean you CANT finish your education at some point.
    Secondly, the money you (or any of us) make is still money we EARNED. I hate when people say the money we make is "fake", "a joke", "not real life." That's BS and weak. We STILL have to WORK to get it.

    Some of your sisters comments are very harsh and meant to try and hurt you . Don't let it. She is probably jealous of you.

    If you're happy and good with your life, just delete her text and move on. I know it's hard maybe cause she is your sister , but NO ONE needs that kind of negativity from a family member in their life!

    I have been hearing shit like this from my family for 9 years. In the beginning it would make me cry and question and doubt myself. But NOW when it happens, I remove myself from the situation and forget about it. It takes a lot of guts to have a job that is against mainstream society's standards. Not a lot of people can do that! I bet you anything your sister WISHES she had the courage to do the same.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Just putting this into perspective. My husband makes very good money and in no way is "struggling" honestly I've been working about twice a month or so... lol. On the day we got married she pretended to be sick, she was our only witness. We basically got married in secret for many reasons, lack of money being one of them. We had it planned for months and the day of she got too sick to go. I posted in the past that my husband had been a flaky mofo in the beginning but recently has stepped up and made a complete change its incredible. I was right to have faith and believe in him.

    I thought about not answering but I couldn't help it, damn it!!!

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    im sorry, but what is her issue with you? that was clearly meant to hurt you pretty badly and insult you. sounds like jealousy. sibling rivalry. some nasty, low-handed shit right there.
    i'd block her number for awhile until she gets over whatever the hell her problem is
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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Been this way since we were kids.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    That is one of the most vicious things I've ever read. Just because she is related to you does not mean you need to ever speak to her again.

    That is one family member I'd cut out of my life.


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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Agree w/ above. Time to make like a camgirl & hit that infamous Ban Button. If any1 sent me a msg like that they would be dead to me.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    I have been told by two other friends to cut her out of my life but I love my nephews =(

    During my husband flakyness she would call me names about being stupid waiting for him to man up. I don't understand, she claims she'shappy . I could go on about her life and lireliterally list all the reasons why she's a volatile human being. Every time she gets into these phases where she spits nothing but pure evil I don't fight back. A few years ago I would cry fight etc. No matter how evil she gets I still still won't reply. Because knowing that im hurting, and I mean hurting with the kind of stuff that cuts and burns deep would not make me feel better.

    What breaks my heart the most is that she claims she prays to God that I realize the truth before I destroy my life. Wtf? Really? I honestly think she's being serious.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    What a judgemental, assuming bitch. Who says these kind of things?
    These sort of things are better discussed through face-to-face, and anything less than that such as texting is cowardly. If she really wanted to help you and get to you, she would've talked with you in person.
    Yeah I would cut her out. She sounds a bit crazy.


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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    For her Bday, send her a $5 McDonald's gift certificate. In the card write "Enjoy your Big Mac, feel the realness."

    Just trying to brainstorm a little. There are so many ways to go with people like this, if you don't want to ignore them entirely.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    That's really sad. hugs! My sister never liked that I dance but she will cut a bitch for talking to me like that. I think shes jealous of you. Obviously you are married and so you have a semi-stable life (I would assume). Just remember its her with the issue.
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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    I can't believe anyone would be that horrible to their own sister. I've been mad enough to say some stuff I regret to my family more than once, but that is absolutely cruel... And from the sounds of it completely uncalled for. She clearly has some mental stuff going on that isn't spurred by you in any way, sounds like she would like to be in that fancy restaurant. Who just sits around thinking that shit up?
    Why does going to a nice restaurant mean you're trying to have a new life, or anything deeper than just having a nice night out with your husband? This spells all kinds of crazy, hateful, jealous biotch. I would at least give it a little break, I know you want to keep in touch with your nephews but I can't imagine what it must be like hearing that stuff from your sister.
    I got a lovely, 10 page email from my aunt a few years back about what a horrible slut I am, how I was just going to get dumped by my boyfriend (now husband), and on and on, and shipped it around to the rest of my family in an attempt to get my parents to disown me. I'm still not over how much hate radiated off that crazy old bat, I realize she was just unhappy with her empty life and failing marriage and took it out on me, but that didn't help. I don't want you to put yourself in a position to get hurt any more, words like that from family hurt worse than anything anyone else could ever do.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Jealousy.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Id tell her to take her opinions and shove them up her ass. She is useless to u..If she cant be supportive of ur choices she needs to simply be silent. I wouldnt want a part of this person's life..Family or not..I only have supportive people close to me..Everyone else can stay out of my life.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    What's even crazier is that I had never been to Ruth Chris and didn't expect it, it was a surprise. Wtf? You're right I don't see how she can summarize my life.

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    It's not like I asked or demanded to be taken there!

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Her: "Make money and don't be dead weight!"
    You: "K, going to go make some money."
    Her: "NO! You have to make money the way I say you have to! "
    You: "No thanks, I'm happy."
    Her: "NO YOU'RE NOT YOU WHORE."

    What the fuuuuck. And this kind of exchange happens to sex workers everywhere, all the time. It's not surprising to hear that there's another sad bigot in the world but I'm sorry this one's your sister.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    People who can't control themselves attempt to control others. People who are miserable with themselves attempt to make others miserable. I have first hand experience with people around me taking cheap shots, thinking they have me all figured out, and basically dumping their personal garbage onto me. It can be painful when you love, care for, or have invested in a relationship with this kind of person, but you have to protect yourself from people who will erode your spirit. Attempting to remain in contact with this sort by trying to brush off the comments doesn't work because they will keep disrespecting you. If someone doesn't respect you they don't belong in your life period. Blocking communication from these types is a healthy decision.
    Family members love to play the guilt card and try to leverage you by manipulating your feelings and trying to shame you. Be aware of this tactic and don't tolerate it. You deserve nothing less than respect and love from the people in your life.

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    The only reason my husband took me there was because I had been sober 30+ days. It was also his first paycheck from his job. As a couple we've had a very very difficult relationship mostly related to money. = ( I guess he feels he has a lot of making up to do and has been showering me with flowers dates jewelry and other things for our son. He's become the man I knew he would now that he's finally got a good roll. I don't drink anymore, after my relapse that's it. I don't do drugs. During the entire week I take my son to the movies parks arcades the activity stores, I'm trying so hard to be the mom and dad my parents weren't. After my.divorce I didn't date for years because I didn't want to bring men around my son. My child has never seen me intoxicated even though I used to drink very much. I cook clean and take care of my family. I am currently taking only five units because that's all I can afford to take, online. I don't understand, I don't wear fancy clothes drive a nice car or anything. Before my husband started stepping up I worked a lot more. I've never gotten public assistance of any kind and I get no child support. I always look for deals and even I felt out of place at the fancy restaurant, since this is what it's all about. Perhaps irrelevant but I play the violin and I can sing very well. When my husband or son have a bad day I play a little concert for them =) I buy all Disney and children's music books for my son's enjoyment and the Sinatra for hubby. I don't see how she can call me dead weight. I really can't. I'm being attacked for my husbands gestures of love. She should be attacking him, oh wait it's me that's a lost cause. Im so.down about this. Ughhhhh fckng bitch

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    You are hurt and you are doubting yourself. It is a horrible feeling. This is how she wants you to feel. She wants you to agree with her that you did go to a fancy restaurant but you don't belong there. She wants you to second guess yourself, to go through your past actions and decisions and justify them to her. This is the power she has over you. She has been doing this to you for a long time and it is causing you to second guess yourself. It is eroding your self worth.

    YOU do belong in the fancy restaurant! And you enjoyed your damn steak and it was GOOOD! AND if you want to go there again you will! You are in a good place right now with your husband, financially, and you are an intelligent and talented WOMAN. Your sister is trying to take you down a notch. Don't let her. It is her problem not yours. Blocking her would allow you to gain perspective and heal from her insults.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    She sounds like she has a lot of resentment and anger towards you. I'm so sorry, I know how it feels like to have a sister say cruel things to you. I cut mine out of my life and feel so much better though of course I would love to have a good relationship with her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jekka View Post
    You are hurt and you are doubting yourself. It is a horrible feeling. This is how she wants you to feel. She wants you to agree with her that you did go to a fancy restaurant but you don't belong there. She wants you to second guess yourself, to go through your past actions and decisions and justify them to her. This is the power she has over you. She has been doing this to you for a long time and it is causing you to second guess yourself. It is eroding your self worth.

    YOU do belong in the fancy restaurant! And you enjoyed your damn steak and it was GOOOD! AND if you want to go there again you will! You are in a good place right now with your husband, financially, and you are an intelligent and talented WOMAN. Your sister is trying to take you down a notch. Don't let her. It is her problem not yours. Blocking her would allow you to gain perspective and heal from her insults.

    That's what my husband said. Although the food was delicious it was overpriced and the markup is a little silly. He said,"I took you there because I can afford to take you there, not every day little Barnacle but once in a while it's fine." My husband also thinks there are deeper things than my "desire to be rich" that are causing her to lash out. I told my husband that when we were little she would constantl unwind my little pegs, causing the strings to get out of tune, although innocent prank is still not cool.


    She calls my husband to "tell you this because you're a good guy but don't tell TheWeirdOne." She tells him that I left my ex husband because he lost his job, lie. My ex husband was cheating with the woman he is happily married to, lost his job about six months after I moved out of the family home lol... she always tries to bring me down. She always asks my husband if I gave him the runs from my cooking. Little things like this. She says I'm obsessed with the gym because I'm doomed for fatness if I don't go, unlike her and her naturally slim hour glass figure. I swear she's beautiful and has three kids and her body still looks amazing without any gym diet etc. She has had her home for six years and happily married.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    You might bring this up at AA. There is more to sobriety than just not drinking. AA can teach you how to live, and deal with things like that.

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    Default Re: read please, the kind of words I get from my sister all the time.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheWeirdOne View Post
    She has had her home for six years and happily married.
    I highly doubt this, given the amount of projecting of emotions on to you. It sounds to me like she's deflecting her own personal insecurities, whatever they may be, and using you as a target. As my grandma always told me, "If you're the one doing the pointing, then no one's looking at you."

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