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    Default Would you date someone with an STD?

    Hey
    I recently found out a good friend of mine most likely has a serious std.
    Hes told me he dosnt want to get into a relationship, as he would want to protect anyone he cared for.

    On the other hand, a FEMALE friend of mine, who had a less serious STD, had NO problem
    sleeping with anyone she wanted too.

    I was just curious, would you be with someone if you knew they had an STD.
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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    unless its a less dangerous strain of hpv ( which most people have) then no. i would be fuming if anybody slept with me knowing them had an std and keeping that from me. people have gotten into serious legal trouble over that.
    but i guess it really depends on how dangerous the std was
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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    Most, but not all, of those can be avoided with proper precautions.
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    you have
    you will
    be careful
    stop worrying

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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    Quote Originally Posted by oldster View Post
    you have
    you will
    be careful
    stop worrying
    Many ppl have 'em that don't know they do (std)


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    No, and it absolutely infuriates me when I hear of someone sleeping with someone and not telling them they have an STD. I would sue !

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    They discover several new strains of HPV every year, we're up to like 189 now, and it's estimated that every person on earth has SOME form of it. There are 3 I think that are dangerous.

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    Nope. I love myself more.

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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    If you are talking HPV - then unless it's one the "Cancer Charlie" strains (the ones that carry an increased risk of cancer, of which 90+ percent are NOT, before people start freaking out), then as others mentioned, it's far more common than you think. I wouldn't classify those as STD's, FWIW. If you're talking HIV, Herpes, Syphillus, Gonorrhea, etc...well, different story.

    I think if you found out someone knew they had a STD and didn't come clean before they came (PUN) not-so-cleanly, yeah, sayonara to them (especially if they weren't protecting others with condoms).

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    Anyone could lie to you or not know themselves. Routine STD tests only check for like HIV, chlamydia, and gonorrhea and there are dozens more out there. Most people don't even realize a standard test only tests for like 3.

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    Most people have a strain of HPV. I had one which I had removed, and the doctor told me the strain I had (which didn't cause warts)was one that something like 80% of people will get.

    The other STD's? probably not. Definitely not AIDS or syphilis. Both can kill (syphilis used to kill before penicillin).

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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    Would I date someone with an STD? Tough question.

    Technically I'm sure I have or that many people have we just didn't know it as some STD's have no symptoms. I admit it would freak me out to hear something incurable and contagious.

    My thoughts on dating and STDs is taking care of your body by regular testing and knowledge on preventing std's is super important.

    So, I would date but come time for sex I'd want to know BEFOREhand so I can decide to go ahead or not and could make sure to take precautions if I do.

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    Hell to the fuck to the no. Never risk your health for ANYONE. They may not stay the same person they were when you meet them. A lot of men behave differently at the beginning of a relationship but never before have I seen someone do a 180 like this guy I dated a year ago who had some cooties and holy fuck am I glad I never let him sleep with me. Lesson learned for sure.
    Been there done that, terrible experience. Which may be why I have a bias but here is my story...

    I started dating this guy about a year ago, at the end of our magical first date I was totally ready to jump his bones. And then he drops an interesting bomb that he has hpv. It was not the life threatening kind, so I felt like this was definitely not a dealbreaker. I really clicked with him, we seemed to be very similar and get along on many different levels, I could "sense" the love, and had heard about Gardasil, so I figured we could just take it slow and start sleeping together when I was "immune" to his std. Because I was under the impression that most people care about their partner staying healthy, and would want to protect them like your friend does, and not put getting their dick wet over your health. Boy was I wrong.

    I found out when I went to the dr. that it takes 3 shots over 6 months to gain 100% immunity. I obviously didn't want to wait 6 months to sleep with this guy, so I started doing my own research on the effectiveness of the shot after only recieving 1 or 2 of the 3, and on antiviral lubricants. Things were going amazing and I had found a solid body of research that showed that the majority of people would be immune after 2 shots (2 months), around this time my feelings for him spiked. I started to not care anymore that he had an std, because I was starting to fall in love with him. So after I got my 2nd shot I gave him the green light.

    At which point in time he promptly tells me that he wants to break up with me because he hadn't been able to bond with me at all in these beginning stages of our relationship because of my refusal to sleep with him. I was shocked and said why then was it his idea that we wait as long as I wanted to, why then did he tell me when we started dating that he was more than willing to wait, and even went as far as to claim he wished he had waited for marriage to become sexually active. His response? "I thought you would change your mind after a couple weeks or something." He thought that he was so great, the narcissistic prick, that I would risk my health, my livelihood (because when you work in this industry and you get an std, even something mild like genital warts, that is exactly what you risk--you have no idea how bad it will be, how frequently you might experience breakouts, how long they will take to heal, if it will be chronic or not), because of his supreme awesomeness. So thankful I got away clean.
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    Default Re: Would you date someone with an STD?

    Heck, no.

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    buffy, tell your friend that there are dating sites especially made for those who have stds so he still has the option to date
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    He can still date. He just needs to be open about it before intercourse and use protection. I'm close friends with a couple who have been together for more than 10 years. She contracted herpes before they ever met. He still tests negative for it. They're just careful.

    Most STD diagnosis are not death sentences, even if they are incurable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Odette
    He thought that he was so great, the narcissistic prick, that I would risk my health, my livelihood (because when you work in this industry and you get an std, even something mild like genital warts, that is exactly what you risk--you have no idea how bad it will be, how frequently you might experience breakouts, how long they will take to heal, if it will be chronic or not), because of his supreme awesomeness.
    Did he ever use the screen name "moosehead"..? Just curious.

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    ^lol never met the guy in the online world, only in person, so nooo idea!
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    I too contracted HPV but most likely 90% of everyone on this site has at one point or another. I'm scared to death of catching a serious STD like if my long term partner cheating on me and gave me something.

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    I was tested, then got back with my ex and was regularly sleeping with him unprotected (and only him) for like 5 months. All of the sudden I was bleeding during sex and freaked out, got checked and turned out I had chlamydia. So of course I call him and tell him to immediately get tested and his comes back negative, twice!

    After I cleared that up, I'm super safe and still weirdly paranoid that guys will have a test come back negative even if they have it, or worse, just lie. So even if someone was honest, no I would not be with them. I'd be racking up the dr bill constantly getting tests, no matter how safe we were.

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    Would I date someone with an STD? HELL NO
    Especially in my case since I work as an escort, I'm sure my clients would not appreciate that.
    I have a clean bill of health and plan on keeping it that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Almost Jaded View Post
    They discover several new strains of HPV every year, we're up to like 189 now, and it's estimated that every person on earth has SOME form of it. There are 3 I think that are dangerous.
    yup ever had a canker sore in ur mouth? thats a strain of the herpes virus ...

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    Would I date someone with STD? Fuck No!

    I have a clean bill of health and no one shall get in a way of that. I would not even give hand jobs without a condom

    However, people can still date and find love with STDs. I knew several people with deathly STDs who have gotten married and lived happy lives. Most of these people often married other people with their same illness. Like this one couple who got married and lived a great life despite the fact both of them had AIDS. Buffy, your friend can still find love while having a STD.

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    I don't think I would date anyone with an std maybe if I was already in love and found out later we would deal with it but that would be if he didn't know either. Snowy I had a few canker sores when I was like 8 lol and was nowhere near sexually active what does that mean? Lol. just curious how I would have that lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by brittany_bitch View Post
    I don't think I would date anyone with an std maybe if I was already in love and found out later we would deal with it but that would be if he didn't know either. Snowy I had a few canker sores when I was like 8 lol and was nowhere near sexually active what does that mean? Lol. just curious how I would have that lol.
    i dont know how ppl who arent sexually active get the virus but this link is informative

    http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/guide/canker-sores
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