So, there's this guy that I've been friends with for a few years-- we have a friend in commons so we've always just hung out as a group, and he has asked me to go to Spain with him for a few days. He's traveling through London to Spain, Morocco and Italy and he asked me if I'd like to join him in the beginning of his trip. He's a really great guy and I now know that he has a crush on me, but for years I never thought he did because the friends we have in common are very Jewish, as in they only date Jewish people and I'm Catholic (non-practicing but raised). Well, I saw him on New Years and there was definite sexual chemistry but I still figured I was a no-no cause of the Catholic thing. Then he asked me out (he is doing his residency in another state so he said he would be in LA sometime in February and he wanted to take me to dinner) and my friend told me he's had a crush on me for a while.
Honestly, I am attracted to him and I would totally go out on a date with him because he's a wonderful person and someone I could see myself being with in the long-term, but he lives in Arizona. I live in London now. I'm already sad and depressed because I just had to end things with a guy I started dating a month ago who is wonderful and I still REALLY like, and the last thing I want to do is start something sexual/romantic with another great guy who lives across the Atlantic and come back next week sad and depressed. I need to start dating men who are in the same fucking hemisphere!
So, my question is-- how can I go on this trip with him and make sure that he gets we're just going as friends? I'm going because I have never been to Spain and want to go and I know we can have a great time as friends, we always do, but I'm just a little nervous. He's such a gentlemen I know he would never assume anything would happen, but I feel like he may be hoping something is going to happen or he's going to take me out on a super romantic date or something. I really don't want that...




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but imho i think you like the guy, so don't worry about the what if's,, if it works out it works out and if it doesn't it doesn't.


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