You're right, this is absolutely wrong. I agree with you. But, it happens. The problem is a lot of men are insecure and can't come right out and say, 'Hey, I'm interested in a girl.' So, they do things for them and try to prove their worth that way; then they make a move too late or too big -- a full paid trip to Spain, like it's a game show. And because they put too much effort into it only to get rejected, they get real butt hurt about it. A lot of men work that way. The opposite are the annoying guys who hit on women first thing out the door and even with rejection, they keep at it. They are too secure and too stupid to realize if it didn't work the fifth time it won't work the sixth, seventh, and eighth. Few are the men who act reasonably somewhere in between, express their interest subtly, attempt to win them over subtly, and walk away.
Except in the opening post, she said she was attracted to him and could see a relationship forming if not for the long distance thing. She never would have went if not for subconsciously wanting to take that risk, for it to maybe work out and things click. ..but they didn't.
Yes, but parents often pay for a child's way and a person often pays their own way. A man paying for a trip to another country for woman whom he is just acquaintances with (albeit acquaintances for three years), is not just 'friendly'. It's intentionally romantic. It's a dick move on his part. But, she should have seen this. If they had really known each other over those three years, had they spent a lot of time together, gone out and done things, had sleep overs with no sex, etc. It would be totally different. They would have been two real friends and one genuinely doing something nice for the other. But it wasn't.
The guy is not terrible. He's just insecure and inexperienced with women and can't come out and express how he feels in a more direct manner. I only wanted audrey to realize this before getting herself in an awkward and painful situation.
Sure guys can be friends with women, they can even be friends with women they are attracted to, what they can't do is repeatedly (or overly) do things for women whom they only want to be friends with and not desire anything more to happen. Can you honestly say you'd spend a month or more of your pay for someone you barely knew to join you on an exotic trip and not want some magical Hollywood romance to happen?




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