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    Default Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    I went on my first SD date, it wasn't so bad until I realized how much a perv he was. Kept blowing me kisses, staring at my breast, looking me up and down, saying things like "You'll be paying me by the time we are finished." I wanted to throw up, seriously. Had a nerve to say I would look so good in red bottoms, but his max per month was 1500. I wanted to bust out laughing, but i kept eating. I told him this wouldn't work, I can't do 1500. Then he stated we can start out with 500 per meeting. Whatever, I said we'll see.

    After Dinner, he was dying to see my body, told me to stand and turn for him. I didn't. I put my big ass eskimo coat on, and walked out. He was so short, and fat, and had the nerve to try to touch my ass. Then pulled up my jacket so he could see it. I told him to keep his hands to himself. At this point, I was ready to never see him again. I said my goodbyes, and as we were parting, an unmarked car was checking us out. Ughhh another sign, that i shouldn't be getting into this. Yes, I need the money, but I don't think this is worth it. How do you girls block out, the nasty, repulsive guys, who mentions nothing but sex?

    Oh yea, he's married. Did I mention short, and cheap (I can tell). Not to mention he's asking if i am on BC, and he doesn't like blow jobs with condoms. I don't even plan on blowing him. Sorry, I'm just creeped out. lol





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    Default Re: Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    EWWWW! This is one of the reasons I left the sugar bowl. I couldn't stand how gross most of those guys were in messages. So I personally never met anyone from any of the sites I signed up on. Most of the guys on the site are JOHNs looking for a cheap naive piece of ass. They know an escort is going to be at minimum $250 an hour. With calls, dinner , constantly needing attention, etc it rounds out to be about $25 an hour and what's the point? Also many go on the site seeking unprotected sex. Ask for a test and most will refuse. Don't even believe anyone posting D&D free.

    If you look at the reviews most guys will review sites with 5 stars. Most women will give it 1 star.

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    Default Re: Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    Gross, I would neverrrrrr deal with that.

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    Default Re: Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    Yuck. Dont block it out, block his ass.

    such a despicable guy


    I am camming to sensual Jazz ONLY this week.

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    This is why I think the whole "sugar baby/sugar daddy" thing is usually just a big mindfuck that is not in the girl's interest. In my opinion, a sugar baby is nothing but an escort without a clock or boundaries. They get to negotiate your price down by playing up the whole "relationship" aspect and play the whole "well you're not an escort, right?" game. Meanwhile they keep you from more profitable arrangements with other guys. An escort 1)works on a CLOCK and charges for ALL her time, and would never pick up his call/give him attention if he wasn't booking, 2) would demand he wear a condom, and 3) would have multiple clients, many of whom would be much less disgusting than this guy. If you add up all the time you spend taking calls and giving attention to a "sugar daddy" you would probably find your hourly average isnt even that high. In my experience, most real sugar daddies (the kind that girls brag about, that are super generous) start out as generous regular clients that you meet while doing other forms of sex work-stripping, camming, or escorting. I say you try your hand at one of the 3, and forget about this whole sugarbaby thing for now. While you are doing one of the 3, you will always learn how to deal with men (including how to spot and deal with predatory, disgusting creeps that will NEVER be generous) and how to get the most out of them while preserving your sanity.

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    Default Re: Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jade62013 View Post
    This is why I think the whole "sugar baby/sugar daddy" thing is usually just a big mindfuck that is not in the girl's interest. In my opinion, a sugar baby is nothing but an escort without a clock or boundaries. They get to negotiate your price down by playing up the whole "relationship" aspect and play the whole "well you're not an escort, right?" game. Meanwhile they keep you from more profitable arrangements with other guys. An escort 1)works on a CLOCK and charges for ALL her time, and would never pick up his call/give him attention if he wasn't booking, 2) would demand he wear a condom, and 3) would have multiple clients, many of whom would be much less disgusting than this guy. If you add up all the time you spend taking calls and giving attention to a "sugar daddy" you would probably find your hourly average isnt even that high. In my experience, most real sugar daddies (the kind that girls brag about, that are super generous) start out as generous regular clients that you meet while doing other forms of sex work-stripping, camming, or escorting. I say you try your hand at one of the 3, and forget about this whole sugarbaby thing for now. While you are doing one of the 3, you will always learn how to deal with men (including how to spot and deal with predatory, disgusting creeps that will NEVER be generous) and how to get the most out of them while preserving your sanity.
    This 100% I used to post on one of the forums and they always deleted my shit because I'd link posts from the escort boards laughing at the sugar babies and how the JOHNS were getting women to fuck them unlimited for something like $600 a month. They do not want any adult industry women on the site because we know what we can make. 99% of the guys I chatted with on those sites were JOHS, PREDATORS, SCAM ARTISTS. Another funny thing is that most don't even make 40k a year.

    3 men on the site that I chatted with were on cam sites and they don't tip shit there to begin with but always asking to meet after spending 200 tokens or some crap lol.

    The only site I felt made sense was What's Your Price. Out of the $1500+ in offers I met no one. Each guy was either using fake pictures , faked his body type, etc. Others were trying to negotiate sex in the first message and when I kept asking "so where are we having dinner, lunch" they just stopped responding. The cheapest offer I received was $60 and that guy in the first talk texted me about "mutual kissing". I thought now what guy has to schedule kissing on a date? Gross. He called me a prude and uptight because I said umm why would you need to schedule in kissing? That's supposed to happen naturally.

    Another said he was "a few extra pounds". More like morbidly obese laying in his own fecal matter. He's one of those guys that if he were to stand up and take 3 steps he'd crush his own ankles so there was no option to go out with him. Fucker lied and then tried to tell me some gross story about how some woman came over to fondle his non functioning part. EWWWWWWW . Can you imagine how bad this guy smells on a daily basis? He was so nasty and bitter and started yelling at me when I said eww gross. WTF. Calling women gold diggers and what not because no one wants to hang around a guy taking in shit while he sits in bed.

    Another guy sent and offer for $300 and I was all happy..at first. I start responding to his messages and then he decides to be slick and send a separate message to create confusion. Then goes ooh looks like our conversation is all out of sync.. give me your number. Told him no need just give me the time and I'll be there at the restaurant and I'll send you a message before I leave.

    The day finally arrives. I send him a message and tell him I'll be there on time within the hour. He looks at the message and doesn't respond. Wasn't his real plan anyways. He wanted to pay for sex.

    Then there was a guy that sent me $350. Seemed down to earth but in the chat he said he was going out of town that I should meet him at his place. I told him well if you are packing then finish that and we'll do the date when you return. Another lie of course. I learned this when dating guys 40+ like 4 years ago. It's to rush for intimacy because "ooh I'm leaving hurry up". Never works on me because I have no desires to be squeezed in before some man goes galloping around the globe.

    Still the guy was dumb enough to contact me at the time he would have been traveling over a body of water somewhere. Ooops. If you're going to lie keep your shit together. So he tried to say hey I'm got a few hours left before I leave why not meet me at my house before I go. I told him again " aren't you supposed to be in mid flight right now?" He later said ooh no I had the days wrong. Again FAIL!

    Then there was the guy with pictures cut out of a magazine. Said hi, I accepted the offer and never said a word. Weird.

    Ohh I remember the guy that did an offer of I think $150. He haggled a bit back and forth. Then we talked a bit kept pushing for my email which made no sense. The site has email built in so there was no need to go another place and talk. His age was off and the site was new so there's no way to make mistakes like that. Pictures were all circa 1992. So not only was he not 37 or 38 but he was dumb enough to email me with his facebook email address. Doh! Found out that he was in his 50s, married with children and if I wanted to be a stone cold bitch I could have friended his wife and said " Hey your husband is late for our date, can you get a hold of him?".Yup his profile is all open and I saw those happily married photos with kids in tow.

    All of those guy came from SA and probably run game on there that's worse. At least with WYP they all had to pony up money to be told no anyways. I thought why lie on here , it's going to come out anyways. Dumb men.

    The only cool guy that I really wanted to meet was 33 cute and looked like alot of fun. He sent an offer over of $100 and we never made a date to meet but he wasn't creepy at all. He's one of those guys that I would have dated normally anyways.

    The rest? 45,55,65,49,52 ..Creepy as hell and all were lying or trying to run some weird game. Gross.
    Even on SA guys that were 39 and down were so cool to chat with. I was bummed out that the cooler guys weren't even local. Also a few Aussie lads hit me up and I thought I so wish I loved plane travel because I'd be there in a heartbeat!

    Still with all of my experience on WYP I'd still suggest it over SA. There are men that take women out to dinner for a nice night on the town. Leave the sleezebags alone but usually you'll be able to spot them by what they write in their profile. I rejected a few guys and could see that some were angry that they couldn't get what they wanted so they trolled the site sending out bogus offers. Others would go to the date and not pay based on reading the blogs. Others would hold money over the date's head in a well I'll give it to you afterwards and that right there is a head game. Knowing that type of douche he'll push for something at the end of the date.

    Now they have CarrotDating and personally I feel the same guys will be on there too. Most are on all of the same sites anyways from SA,WYP,MissTravel and now CarrotDating.

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    Default Re: Repulsive SD, How to mentally block it out?

    Just escort if you're going to do it. He obviously expects sex so you're going to get 500 per sexual encounter. How long is that going to last? If you were an escort, it'd be an hour, tops. Since he's a "sugar daddy" he's going to expect you to stay longer than that.

    Plus, why force yourself to be around someone who disgusts you? Even as a prostitute, I'd turn down clientele if they repulsed me.

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    Honestly the sugar bowl is a joke in my opinion, a very small amount of these guys are legit. Meaning they will pay you for you're time with a substantial amount, treat you with respect and both parties actually get along. I get so green with envy when I read sugar babies tumblr and these girls are getting between 3k-5k+ monthly and their sd is hassle-free and semi-attractive. Finding a good one is like a needle in a haystack, also most of them are soooooooooooooooooo repulsive; fat bald, short and just plain ugly and have the nerve to nickel and dime me as if they could get an attractive girl without paying.I'M OVER IT.

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