
Originally Posted by
Jonwade99
Ok I will tell you short my story as a customer who had his life ruined by a stripper.
to make it short, I am 30 y, good job, nice looking not the kind of usual weirdo you find in the club.
I met this girl and I made the big mistake to trust her.
I met her in the club for 6 months and not expecting anything except that one day she just kissed me on the mouth. Dances were hot and she told me I am a crush and broke up with her bf etc.
I got her email and phone (real phone) and we talked and emailed a lot OTC.
But she kept me always out of her real life, never knew anything about home, friends etc. She did a lot of broken promises: be friends on FB then not, hanging out then not, living together then not, etc.
She used to tell me how she hates people and her shitty childhood, abusive ex etc.
I fell in love and she told me the same, but her private life was kept secret and never gave any explanation for that.
One morning we were together having coffee OTC and she was drunk, told me she loves me a lot but I saw her texting her fucking ex asking if he wants to stop by at her home after he texted something like "you don't love me". I became mad and I left, she just gave me BS explanations and told me I was jealous for nothing and blah blah.
i made the mistake to give her a chance and found out later that most of the things she was telling me were just lies. She dated a guy in secret telling me she is single and that I am too much negative.
this guy was a low future guy, two kids and living with mother, no job...
She told me she loved me but I created too much drama (but all the drama was due to her very bad behavior) and guess what she came back to her ex who was supposedly a bad guy.
I won't tell all the other lies and manipulation techniques she used on me but I was always guilty for everything (negative, stressed, jealous, insecure, no trust, ...), never apologized even confronted to a blatant lie and did a lot of no communication to make me mad (100 emails one day and nothing the days after).
She also lied on the past, lie on everything, etc. and decided now that she will stop emailing me but she can go FH.
I think she did this to have me in the club as I would see her a lot but all this was really not necessary. She could have stated straight she doesn't want to date me and I would see her anyways.
so here are my questions:
- If strippers want regulars and money I understand but was all this necessary ? I would have seen her even if we had only dances, no need kiss, promises, etc.... Why so much pain and manipulation ?
- I consider she has all the traits of an NPD, how can you identify this when you go to a SC. Can you be confident a stripper can really like you and be a little bit honest ?
- why did she refuse a bright and promising future with me (I make good money) to go to jerks like ex and other no future guys ?
- Can I get revenge complaining to the management ? She really ruined my life.
Don't take it wrong, I am not saying all girls are like this but I'm trying to figure out if harming customers on purpose is part of business (if such that's a really bad way to run this job) or if she was just a nasty girl. I hate to say that but she was acting very different from the other ones.
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