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    Hello,
    So last night was my first ever attempt at camming, I was on Adultwork.com, I sat in free chat for about an hour completely terrified and made 0.78 of a credit (guy logged onto a group chat...by himself... and left before I could even think what to do next). After that total failure I turned to the internet for help and found this site! I've read quite a bit already and wanted to introduce myself and plead a little. A little bit about me; full disclosure, I think part of my nerves come from the fact that I've only been with one guy IRL. I was pretty much taught to be afraid of men and sex growing up, and long story short, I met an awesome guy who convinced me that being "me" was totally cool and treated me with more respect than I thought was possible from a guy who wanted me, and I didn't want him slip away so I married him. Few years down the road we have a little one and we decided he'd be the stay-at-home parent as I want to be a musician (I'm a classically trained vocalist). Unfortunately music isn't bringing in enough right now so I'm looking for something I can do to fill in the gaps. A friend of mine recently started working as an escort and that got me thinking... I'm not interested in escorting, but maybe camming could be something I can do for a few hours a day, make what I need for bills and still have time to work on my career? Since I plan to stay my own boss I'm not too worried about future background checks, and I've discovered under all my childhood repression I'm actually a very sexual person. I'm kinda excited to let loose a bit. But when I logged on last night I felt like my old, awkward self... completely panicking every time someone came into my room. So... am I being realistic? any advice to improve my approach and/or calm my nerves? or should I try something else?

    Thanks in advance!

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    This thread helped me out a lot and hopefully it'll help you too!

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-For-Cam-Girls

    But to touch on your nervousness- this isn't the best business to be nervous in, I think you should first overcome the hurdle of being afraid of men (well, men other than your husband) before camming, since it can get pretty brutal.

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    Until your career gets going I fail to see why you both can't be working parents.

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    Sam38g: Hubby does do part-time stuff, as well as some online stuff. But we do the "attachment parenting" thing, so we don't want to put her in daycare for the first three years (she's almost 2 now). Also, I've taken on the role of breadwinner and I'm damn serious about it. I don't want him to have to work if I can help it. Despite getting bitched at for "role reversal" constantly. (I realize that's not what you're doing, but the "your husband should be a man and get a job" thing I've heard so often even the hint it gets my feminist rage on when I am not only more able and qualified to work than him, but he wants to be a stay at home dad and I want to work) We were getting by just fine with our current setup, but now we're looking to move to a bigger place = more income needed.

    ravenlynn: Thanks, I did read that thread, but a lot of it was stuff I kinda already knew from research I'd done beforehand. I guess I just wanted to be direct. Funny thing... about 'fear of men' I never considered myself someone afraid of men. Being into martial arts and similar stuff I spent a lot of time hanging out with guys and had a lot of them scared of me. The fear I guess more comes in when sexuality is thrown in, something I thought I'd gotten over as I'm comfortable in my skin these days, and flirting and having fun come naturally when I'm out, and most of my friend and community are sex-positive social-progressive types, so I'm super comfortable around them too, like clothing optional comfortable. So when I watched some cam girls to check it out, I really thought I could do it without much problem. I guess I just psyched myself out...

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    You seem to go on a rant... bread winner or not. I can careless. Grew up where both parents always had jobs. My Mom is a cross country truck driver & my Dad stayed home to take care of us kids, he bought cars & repaired them to sell at a profit of $1000 or more each. So to lecture me on roles & feminism is way over the top & your issue.

    To put the pressure on one person to be responsible for all the bills is unrealistic to me.

    As a performer, singing or what not should prepare you for being on cam. Some abilities like emoting & star power crossover no matter what the medium.

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    Maybe it would help if you think of camming as acting (trust me it is). You can create a cam persona, think about what the wild, outgoing side of you would wear, the make-up, wig or hairstyle. Then your cam alter-ego is a shield for the sensitive, real you, sort of your cam Super-Hero self. I'm not sure how to express this concept effectively but it has been covered in other threads here.

    The good thing is that there are enough sites and directions you can take with this, that if you try and aren't successful or happy then you can always change camsites and approaches.

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    [shrug] it can be scary at first since you don't reall know what it's like until you DO IT. I'd say freaking out cos you were on cam for a measly hour and made a few pennies is silly. I NEVER make shit in my first hour 75% of the time.
    With cam modeling [esp if you want it as a real form of income] you have to COMMIT. Be your own boss. Make a schedule. Stick to it. Get on cam for x hours regardless of how well you do. Check out a few different sites and find one that works for you. Knowing what you're comfy doing on cam before hand is also very helpful with nerves. That way if someone asks for something, you'll already have an answer for them and possibly a price![ good call!]

    I think that's the best advice I can give. It's rare for a cam model to make $$$ right off the hop. Most of us [myself included] have a good few months period where we have to figure out which sites work for us, what we're willing to do how much we want to make, and then build up our fanbases. You're basically building a sellable product from yourself. A brand, if you will. The brand that is YOU or at least a version of you. Marketing skills also help in this industry along with advertising skills and sales skills.

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    you can give non nude a try and do voyeur type shows.
    I don't think it rare for any of us to make money in the beginning, 99% of my clients in any even day or new, I get sometimes like one regular a day and if its more then that it because they've been regularly taking me private for the 8 hours I was on. So I honesty dont believe in the rules of a fan base equals money. If you put the effort out to make money it will pay off.
    Watch how other girls act in their rooms, watch the first row girls and the girls on page 3 so you can figure out what to and not to do. Buy a session with the top girls even or watch solo porn to give yourself ideas of what to do. Every session wont be the same but if anything you'll give yourself a jumping off point and feel more comfortable at the same time. and when in doubt shit a rainbow or a unicorn, usually when mystical creatures are galloping out of our asses we tend to look over joyed and the guys will jump to take you private because you now have a void to be filled with a (input object here).
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